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The fact that anti-abortion laws and anti-transgender laws are both being implemented en masse, at the *same* time, by the *same* people (who, it hardly needs to be remarked, are overwhelmingly neither women nor transgender) should be enough to convince any reasonable person that the narrative of conflict between and women's and transgender is, first and foremost, a divide-and-conquer strategy by the far right.
Your survival is our survival. Our survival is your survival. Anyone who says different is a fed.
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I totaled my very first car
I went to dog grooming school
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I have been to at least seven countries aside from my own
I have been bitten by a goat
I have a sibling with an over 10 year age gap
I have quit a job after my very first day
I took more than five tries to get my driverās license
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Listen to the sound of wikipedia
This is a way to listen to changes to wikipedia. You are literally listening to knowledge being added to the world.
Pluck sounds are an addition, strings are subtractions, and the pitch says how how big the edit is. My heart shudders at this I love it so much.
This is so relaxing.Ā
I COULD LISTEN TO THIS FOR HOURS THANKS
Overstimulating: turn on all languages
Hyperaware: turn on wikidata, English, and anything else
Upbeat calm: turn on English, German, Hindu, Chinese, Japanese, French, Spanish, Telegu
Calm: English, Chinese, Hindu, German
Distant calm: Arabic, Telegu, Hebrew, Sanskrit, Hindu
Unsettling quiet: Punjabi, Serbian, Western Mari, Macedonian, Farsi, Tamil, Kannada, Gujarati
The Distant Cry: only Western Mari
We need HOAs or some idiots will paint their house purple or put tractor tires in their front yard.Ā If you want tractor tires, donāt move to a HOA neighborhood.
I couldnāt even fathom how horrifying it must be to live somewhere there are...purple houses and and yucky stuff in peopleās yards. Thank God I donāt have any real problems like that.
listen my Nonna and Nonno live right by a purple house (itās a nice lilac) and as a kid I was fucking obsessed with it because purple is my favorite color. Iād go nuts whenever we passed by it. Also it had a purple mailbox to match and it blew my mind.
No more HOAs. More purple houses.
imagine trying to control what someone else can do with or on their own property just because you don't agree with their taste in decor
NO MORE HOAs MORE PURPLE HOUSES
Related, becuase I just had to move:Ā ājust donāt move into an HOAā Do you know what a PAIN IN THE ASS it is to find NON-HOA Housing? Very nearly everything in the CO front range that isnāt a rental has an HOA these days!
Short list of the Shit the HOA at my pervious house tried to pull:
Banning personal and community food gardens (The reason the tag for my garden isĀ āThe garden of earthly HOA violationsā)
Banning people from using thier personal yards as Native Plant Restoration microzones, something that looks gorgeous and is extremely helpful to the local ecology
trying to get the city council to remove protections on adjacent city Open Space/Native Plant restoration zone so they could mow it.
mandating the use of ONE landscaping company in the neighborhood, coinicdentally owned by the HOA presidentās son
Mandating the use of an unecessary water purification company on all properties.
suing city animal control for collecting lose dogs and cats and returning them to the addresses on thier collars.Ā You know. that thing animal control does so the animals donāt get run over or disemboweled by the coyotes or catch and spread rabies.Ā The thing thatās illegal to let your pet do out here for those reasons Karen.
Suing the city council to remove a city bus stop in the neighborhood that was heavily used by many residents.Ā They damn near got away with it becuase the HOA meetings were always in the middle of the day on a weekday.Ā You know, when the residents that use that stop are working.
Sending people letters threatening to fine them for havingĀ āOut Of Seasonā holiday decor.Ā Specifically targeting my Indian neighbors who were celebrating Diwali, not Christmas and the Jews with visible Menorahs.
Fining people for doing thier own appliance and car repair on thier own personal property
Fining people for operating a business out of thier house, specifically targeting a disabled neighbor that does comission tailoring and garment repair out of her home.Ā never bothered a soul except the one snoopy bitch who didnāt like that her clients were allowed to park in the tailorās designated and otherwise unused parking space.
Trying to fine a neighbor for flying a Pride Flag
HOAs are invasive, bigoted, corrupt and cruel institutions that should never have been allowed to be created.Ā If you live in and HOA area, showing up at the meetings to tell people what the fuck is wrong with them, Joining your HOA board to protect your neighbors and possibly organize the dissolution of the HOA is one of the best things you can do to protect the marginalized members of your community.
FUCK HOAs AND LONG LIVE THE PURPLE HOUSES AND TRACTOR-TIRE GARDENS OF THE WORLD.
Are y'all telling me this shit is actually LEGAL?
Hereās how to get an HOA to leave you and your purple house tf alone
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direct action
HOAs, IN THEORY, could be such a force for public good, and thatās whatās maddening. Imagine if an HOA was like āwell weāve got all these houses and this one empty lot, pay your HOA dues and we can install a community food garden!ā or āleave your contact information on the HOA residents-only webpage if youāre willing to be an after-school dropoff for children in our community who may not have a parent at homeā or āhi, Sally, weāve noticed your yardās gone rather hogwild and things werenāt like that before your husband passed last year, do you need some help? We have some folks in the HOA who can help you with maintenance, no charge.ā
Instead they choose isolation over community in the name of a unity thatās in image only, and thatās really, really sad.
Friend of mine bought a small house, an old one in an old neighborhood. She had no idea it was an HOA neighborhood until the day she moved in. They arrived with paperwork she "had" to sign or things would get "complicated", aka do this or we're gonna make life hell for you. She immediately told them no, she has no desire to be part of the HOA, and they about blew a gasket. Went from civil to wtf real quick. They tried sending her violation reports, demanded she pay fines, threatened her, etc. What they didn't know is she's petty and gives zero fucks. She also lives keeping paperwork nice and tidy.
Shit hit the fan when she installed a wall around her property. A 3 feet tall 2 foot wide wall around her yard. Topped with gorgeous iron work with sharp points that make climbing dangeous. Think Addams Family Lite. They tried to stop the construction because she was using the /wrong/ company (a mutual aid group she worked with). Send her fines and fees, and made the mistake of sending a copy of the HOA contract with a forged signature.
Ooooo...it got so ugly! She remembered the HOA post here about that happening to others and, well, the HOA broke up because of other fuckery on top of this. But it was mostly due to her dragging them in court for fraud, harassment, disturbing the peace, trespassing, stalking, and a few other things. She was petty about it too, looked into every fucking thing she could to destroy them.
I was informed that you not, in fact, obligated to sign the HOA contract. It's not a legal requirement. When you look for a home, make sure to ask about the possible HOAs, and look at the details of your homeowner's contract. Sometimes HOAs have that shit written into the purchase. If you see it, change the contract, put your initials and date in the changed sections, and see how the real estate agent handles in. This is legal, btw.
Don't sign the HOA contract, learn the laws regarding yard stuff (did you know you can apply to have your yard declared a wildlife reserve?), and be petty af when the nosy neighbors won't mind their business.
Fuck HOAs, long live the purple houses with the tractor tire garden!
I am increasingly convinced that the decision to encourage Americans to use their homes as their primary store of wealth was not only a catastrophic mistake but actually the ur-mistake from which most of our contemporary dysfunction flows. It basically makes intergenerational warfare required, and proper urbanist and pro-natalist policies politically impossible.
Thoughts on science, economics, politics, relationships. Not an expert.
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forgive me for not knowing anything about economics, but why would it be a bad thing if the price of a house went down over time
I mean like. The price my parents' house would fetch if, hypothetically, they sold it is unimportant to our lives because their house isn't for sale (it's their house and they live in it).
the dysfunction has to go back to European colonization of the continent, right? Land in North America was carved up and divided among settlers, and the population has continuously increased since then, and the propertyless underclass of slaves and indentured servants that was, at the beginning, a large portion of the population, was eventually (at least in theory) able to own property/land.
So, with the total number of people who are "in the market" to own land constantly increasing dramatically, the only options are to increasingly subdivide existing large parcels of of the continent into smaller bits, or to destroy farms and natural environments by buying up land and seeking to wring more economic value from it.
The problem is where the wealth in this country comes from and always has come from: owning land. This land was, ultimately, obtained by literally killing or violently relocating the existing inhabitants and squatting there. And, in many cases, wealth was built using this land via Owning People.
What I mean is: throughout history, as American society broadly gets better, the ability of a given individual person to build and generate wealth drops. Dramatically. And as American population increases, the proportion of the continent that can be allocated to each individual gets smaller.
Side note, but "houses as a source of wealth" thing seems left over from an earlier time when most people were farmers: if you owned land, you could use that land to generate wealth...of course, that really works a lot better when you are rich to begin with and buy a bunch of slaves that you can force to work for you. And even then, it doesn't generate wealth under a capitalist system in the way that industry generates wealth. If you own a factory, you can have the same money as the plantation owner, buy the cotton, and sell people cloth for a profit, and make more money. But if someone can make the cloth into something, they can make more money than you. I don't know why but it's pyramidal like that.
Anyways, older houses are often worth more in America partly because they have more land with them, old houses with a large parcel of land are increasingly rarer as houses degrade over time and get demolished in favor of a whole ass subdivision (and converting land with one house> subdivision makes you take another step up the pyramid), and there's a survivorship bias where a nice, beautiful old house will get repaired and invested in whereas a Great Depression ass old shack will just get torn down.
In other words, houses (land) don't really get more valuable over time, it's just a combination of new houses getting worse over time (less land) and only the best old houses (land) surviving instead of getting torn down and split up into 12 houses on the same lot, like the slimes in Minecraft.
This process suggests that in the past, buying a house DID make you get richer, not because of the house, but because of the land it's onāa house on 10 acres is not yet on the highest capitalism trophic level, so to speak. Because someone who buys that house and land can mitosis it into 20 houses each with their own half acre lots. It's a similar type of pyramid-climbing behavior as having a factory and buying raw materials to convert them into Products.
It sounds like the author of this article is baffled by the phenomenon because they're seeing the house as the thing that's being sold. But it's the land.
And the problem of course, is that you get to the top of the pyramid.
If you have a house with a half-acre lot, there's no potential of leveling it up on the capitalism pyramid, so it's a dead end.
See, this article doesn't quite get it imo. Isn't it the same process? A tract of land increases in value because the population, both locally and in general, is going up all the time, but it's not just a supply and demand thing, it's also that newer houses will be crammed onto much less land, and many older houses are on older, bigger tracts of land which can be made more profitable by shoving way more houses onto them
And there's the impact of renting but that's a whole nother thing
It has a lot to do with racism
I'm using this hellsite too much
Ima stop for a bit
Friendly reminder Bea Arthur was the real mvp and created a shelter for lgbtq+ youth
the Bea Arthur Residence could use donations to help cover their operating costs, btw!
when someone says "im going to the bathroom" what do you say back
dont fall in
stay safe
Dont die
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You should be allowed to buy a hot, rotisserie chicken from the grocery store with EBT. You should be allowed to buy toothpaste and toilet paper. You should be allowed to buy otc medications. EBT should be expanded to include all basic necessities and be increased to match.
From Vincent Price's radio show, "The Saint" circa 1950. This man is a true legend. I adore him.
Ladies and gentlemen, poison doesnāt always come in bottles. And it isnāt always marked with the skull and crossbones of danger. Poison can take the form of words and phrases and acts: the venom of racial and religious hatred. Here in the United States, perhaps more than ever before, we must learn to recognize the poison of prejudice and to discover the antidote to its dangerous effects. Evidences of racial and religious hatred in our country place a potent weapon in the hands of our enemies, providing them with the ammunition of criticism. Moreover, group hatred menaces the entire fabric of democratic life. As for the antidote: you can fight prejudice, first by recognizing it for what it is, and second by actively accepting or rejecting people on their individual worth, and by speaking up against prejudice and for understanding. Remember, freedom and prejudice canāt exist side by side. If you choose freedom, fight prejudice.
March 24, 2023, at 2:07 p.m. PORTLAND, Ore. (AP) ā Walter C. Cole, better known as the iconic drag queen who performed for decades as Darcelle XV, has died of natural causes in Portland, Oregon.
ADHD and Gender
I've just thought about how gender doesn't necessarily inherently change the way ADHD affects us (for example, articles stating that adhd makes men more hyperactive than women). But society and how we've been socialised from infants to align with our assigned gender most definitely does.
Example- my male colleague, I'll call him Ben, has combined type adhd just like me (innatentive and hyperactive). It's a lot more 'obvious' with him- he talks loudly about his interests, bounces around the room, and today he's left the staffroom distracted by something work-related. He's left a used mug, glass, and a dirty tuppaware out on the shared table.
My other colleagues complain about Ben to me- they feel safe doing this as I pass so easily as 'normal'. They call him inconsiderate and someone calls him gross. And I think privately to myself, I would so easily have done that too, but I'm too hyper-aware of the shame, the gossiping of everyone around me.
I also know- in a public space you can't leave your used things out on the table. Even if it's really hard to keep track of and not do accidentally. I know I am expected to be tidy (especially in public) and consider everyone around me at all times, even if it negatively affects me.
They don't know about when I hid a growing pile of used mugs and plates in my little office space until people started complaining things were missing, how I complained with them. They don't know that I stayed super late one shift and filled a bag with the mugs and plates and sneaked them into the kitchen to wash, clanking guiltily as I went, having to soak and scrub them for more than an hour.
I don't know Ben's personal history, but maybe he grew up not being told to constantly keep on top of his own mess and chores. Maybe that's women's work. Or maybe he had a modern thinking family who encouraged him to take up the space he needed (not shrink yourself down, make room for boys that need that space) and to not care what others thought of him. Maybe they were annoyed by him leaving cups and plates and making a mess, but Ben's a boy, and boys are allowed to be messy.
Maybe Ben has been enouraged to speak loudly and proudly about his interests all his life, so now he tells people about them. Maybe he's never been told to be quiet, to not think so highly of himself, to let others talk first.
I don't know Ben- I just know that he's had a very different experience of the world than I have, even if we both do share ADHD.
And because he's maybe had the chance to be who he is, loud and chatty and chaotic, without society telling him to be quiet, smaller, neater - maybe thats why people like Ben get diagnosed when they are 8 years old. Maybe that's why I didn't get diagnosed until 30- after years of pushing and having to fight my case.
What do people think? I'd love to hear some other perspectives on this
(Disclaimer- this is not meant to be gender essentialist or man-hating. I think gender is a construct and although I've been socialised as a woman, I am non-binary. Also I am not a health care professional these are just my thoughts lol )
This is interesting to me. I was mostly socialized as a boy in an extremely misogynistic household, but am a girl (really, idgaf about my gender identity but other people do. I just do what I want. Still, agender may be a better label for this context). I'm also autistic
People would either a) put me in the girl box with all of the unfun misogyny or b) mistake me for a boy and treat me decently then backpedal real hard once they realized I wasn't
So i learned to be both "tough" and "obedient", literally the worst of both worlds
As I got older, I chilled out with the stoicism and started unpacking all the hardship I experienced being an undiagnosed but very much autistic/adhd girl and loosening my hold on the prim, proper "obedience" part of my socialization
And then everything got worse
I overshare my interests instead of being silent? I wear clothes I'm comfortable in instead of trying to force myself into the sensory nightmare that is womens clothing? I stop listening to the anxious voice in my head telling me I'm going to say or do something weird, "stupid" or unintentionally hurtful?
Maybe it also has to do with being well past the threshold of what is considered "official adult". But the isolation and judgement I'm experiencing is so much worse than it ever was growing up
And it was *bad* then.
It's to the point where it's easier to navigate the world by going back to apologizing too much and speaking infrequently and expecting to be treated poorly so I'm not caught off guard when it happens
Sorry for hijacking your post op, it resonated with me
I am obsessed with this.
So because parkour is such a ridiculously male dominated sport, the "correct technique" for a lot of these movements that you're taught when you become an instructor plays to a male body's strengths: upper body strength, higher center of gravity, etc.
She demolishes this course by moving in ways that make sense for her body. She doesn't muscle her way up to her over a wall, she just throws a leg up over the wall. She doesn't use upper body strength to do the salmon ladder, she uses her hips!!! And it's fucking incredible.
So many girls and young women walk away from parkour because every movement caters to the strengths of men, because doing what makes sense for their bodies is seen as "bad technique" to be trained away.
If pre-transition me had seen this I would have cried tears of joy.
I remember when same sex marriage was legized in my state (3 years before obergefel vs Hodges which legalized it nationwide). It won by a very narrow margin.
People who had taken care of me when I was young, people who were like second parents to me, (along with half the other people I knew) were saying it was the end times because I could now get married. And I couldn't help but wonder... would those people have protected me, cared for me, let me play with their children, if they had known I would grow up to be queer?
I came out in 2011. I was lucky. My parents were accepting. My mom was clearly uncomfortable at first but she made it clear she loved me no matter what.
Except.
My dad didn't care if I was queer and assured me that didn't mean there was anything wrong with me (in a speech I didn't need to hear but I think he needed to say). But he still said "that's gay" and "that's faggy" anytime my little brother showed vulnerability.
And I was a lucky one. My father used homophobic slurs around me regularly. He turned the word gay into a slur with his homophobic mouth. And I was a lucky one.
When I came out publicly, my grandmother stopped speaking to me for a while. I'm lucky that she changed her mind. I'm lucky that my grandparents let me bring my girlfriend with me when I went to visit them in October. October of 2022 and I still consider myself lucky that my grandparents let my queer partner into their house. My other grandma likewise visited with us, and was polite and friendly, but she still refused to call my gf anything other than "your friend." Still lucky. Incredibly lucky.
People don't understand just how bad things were as much as ten years ago. When I came out at school, I was lucky. No one bullied me. No one shoved me into lockers or called me slurs. They all just stopped talking to me. I became invisible. I went to a small school. I was the only person who was out. Exactly one person talked to me the rest of the year. And I was a lucky one.
When I was in middle and highschool, the go to insult was "that's gay." I heard it constantly. Every day. Sometimes people said it to me to insult me, long before I even knew I was queer.
I was lucky because the worst that happened to me was social isolation and people using slurs around me or turning my identity into a slur. No one called ME faggy. No one beat me up behind the school bleachers. I was incredibly lucky.
I have experienced the word "gay" used as a slur far more than I ever heard the word "queer" used as a slur. Young "queer is a slur and only a slur" people need to know the world you live in is not the world the rest of us live in. Why is "queer" a slur but "gay" isn't? My homophobic father thought the word "gay" conveyed just as much offense and disgust as the word "faggot." So why is queer the horrible word that can never be reclaimed but people say "that's gay" as a compliment now? The loneliest I have ever felt was in a room full of teenagers who thought my identity was the height of insults. So why is gay fine but queer isn't?
I am a fat butch queer and I do not hide that. My shoes have a pride flag on them. I have a masculine haircut and wear men's clothes. I look queer.
And I am afraid. I dress like this anyway, because I want other queer folks to know I am a safe person. I dress how I do partially because I like it but also partially so any queer person in the room, no matter now closeted, can see me and feel a little bit safer. Because I will protect other queer people with my life if need be.
Because I am openly and visibly queer and live in a world where being queer can get you killed. Because it can. Gay bashings still happen. The alt right are getting bolder in their violence, and that includes homophobic/transphobic violence. There are organizations in the US that are actively pushing to make homosexuality punishable by death in Africa. They know they could never accomplish that here. But they would if they could. People want us dead.
Young people need to understand that. And they need to understand that the people who did the most work to free us from criminalization were queer. They identified as queer. And they weren't the perfect law abiding queers toeing the line of what's acceptible. Because being queer itself was illegal. You could end up on the sex offender registry for being gay. In fact, there are queer people who are STILL registered as sex offenders just because they were queer in 2001. Pride wasn't a permitted parade with wells Fargo floats. It was angry queers illegally marching down the streets, screaming "We're here. We're queer. Get used to it."
Being openly queer is a radical act. It is still a radical act.
I did not live through Windsor vs the united states, the referendum 74 debate, my father punishing my brother for being human with homophobic slurs, and the pearl clutching fearmongering about "the gay agenda" (that was a go to phrase for 2012 homophobes) for some LGBT kid to come at me with TERF bullshit they got off tiktok about how my identity is a slur and I'm a horrible person for using it.
I was a lucky one and I'm still saying "no, absolutely not" to this bullshit.
Queer is more inclusive. Queer accounts for any possible fluidity because people change. Identities change. Queer is there for people who know they're Something Different but are not sure of the details yet. Queer is intentionally vague. When you're young you want everyone to know exactly who you are but as you get older you realize actually my identity is none of your business. In fact, sometimes when you tell someone your identity, you're handing them a bludgeon for them to hurt you with.
If you have trans classmates, you do not understand the world the rest of us grew up in. Trans people were not a public topic. They were not even acknowledged as existing by most people. I didn't know what being trans was until I was like 17. I'm nonbinary now and consider myself trans 10 years later.
And I didn't even have it that bad. But you know what? It still sucked and it was still hard and I can't imagine what it was like to grow up a decade before I did. I had it easy compared to most people.
If you can jokingly say "that's gay" when someone expresses queer love, then you can fucking handle people using the word queer as their identity.
The infighting and policing each other has to stop. You're oppressing queer people with this bullshit. It does not matter what words queer people use to describe themselves when there are people actively killing us. What are you doing? For fucks sake look at the bigger picture. Direct all that rage at our oppressors and the people who mean us harm. Queer people and he/him lesbians and bi lesbians and people who use neo pronouns and whoever else is the discourse of the day do not deserve this kind of treatment. Punch a homophobe and maybe you'll feel better.
