Understanding adhd

I'm a 20yr old girl juggling with ADHD and med school.

[wlfgrrl]

[abcsofadhd]

[gay-jesus-probably]

I don’t think people without ADHD realize the sheer amount of work it takes for us to compensate for our inability to keep track of time. I don’t know about the rest of you, but I know I have to to do a ridiculous amount of planning just to be able to get to a place at a specific time.

Like, today I’ve got a dentist appointment at 2:15. To make sure I’m there on time, I have to leave the house half an hour before then. I have to shower before I go, and my hair needs at least an hour to dry. I need to make and eat something resembling a meal, and then thoroughly brush my teeth. I have to choose clothes to wear, then get changed. I need to make sure my headphones are charged, and should probably download some new music before I go. And I also need some extra time to try and unwind, because I’m extremely stressed about this dentist appointment, and if I don’t relax I’ll probably have a meltdown.

So accounting for all of this, and giving myself some extra time to be safe, this means that I set my alarm for 9:30 AM. I have literally scheduled five hours to get ready for a dentist appointment. This is normal for me.

[marshmallowmischief]

me: i think i’ll listen to this song :)

song: *ends as soon as it starts somehow*

me: wha- how? *restarts song*

song: *is over without me registering that it even played*

me: what have i been doing the past three minutes?

[understandingmyadhd]

Mood.

[newtkins]

i literally never force myself to do anything thats probably my biggest problem abjzsdgdhdj

[newtkins]

me: ugh i dont want to do that

brain: dont do it then

me: can’t argue with that

[furiousgoldfish]

it’s a lie that some kids are more tough and can withstand abuse while others are “more sensitive”. All children are sensitive. Every single kid is in a tiny body surrounded with giants who can kill them in an instant. Any violence or hatred inflicted on any kid isn’t funny or easy for any of them.

The difference is in how openly they show they’re hurt and scared. Kids who learned adults will care about their well being will be able to cry, scream, escape, act vulnerable and hurt when they’re in pain. Kids who are taught to act tough, they wont show that you hurt them so easily, they’ve already learned that being openly hurt is humiliating, or even punishable, so they will pretend to suck it up. Does that mean kid isn’t equally damaged and hurt like the one who cried on the spot? No. You can’t count of kid’s reactions to reveal what kind of damage you did to them. When kids are hurt REALLY badly they can’t even feel it in the real time and will report you that they’re “just fine”, they’ll dissociate and forget about it and it will be all good until one day they can’t breathe anymore because of it.

You’re risking traumatizing any kid if you inflict hatred and abuse on them, even if they act like they can take it, even if they have no reaction whatsoever. It’s not on the kid to have “correct” reaction to your abuse, they’re doing all they can to survive it and thats good enough. You can’t pretend you don’t know that hatred, neglect, and any kind of abuse is traumatizing for kids.

[valiumvampire]

trying to clean your room when you have adhd should be considered an extreme sport

[valiumvampire]

YOU. YOU UNDERSTAND ME

[nisaexploresadhd]

adhd is: i’ve done this thing like 3 times now so its boring 

[nisaexploresadhd]

adhd is: this is just a lot so it seems my brain has just decided fuck this and has abandoned me.

[nisaexploresadhd]

adhd is: but what if i say something stupid? what if i talk to much? im scared to be annoying maybe i just shouldnt say anything

[nisaexploresadhd]

adhd is: i am going to save this to look at later..

[oh-theatre]

Has this been done

[martha-is-my-safeword]

[thedishranawaywithmyspoons]

ADHD Pros and Cons

Con: Fuck up all the time. 

Pro: Forget about the fuckup really fast. 

[ahrima-deactivated20240728]

executive dysfunction be like *wants to do something* *doesnt do it* *feels bad* *wants to do something* *doesnt do it* *feels bad* *wants to do something* *doesnt do it* *feels ba

[nisaexploresadhd]

adhd is: that constant nagging feeling that there is something you were planning to be doing right now

[nisaexploresadhd]

adhd is:

[nisaexploresadhd]

person: what are you doing

me: honestly i have no idea