no

[hugchan]

[beachdeath]

ACTUALLY sorry not to get #2personal but this is something i’ve been thinking about deeply over the past several months, so! a question i see a ton is, “how do i know if i’m a butch girl or a trans guy?” followed by a litany of reasons why either label could apply to the asker - and of course, you are the only person who can answer this question for yourself, and there is no right or wrong way to go about exploring your identity. but. if you are really torn, if both feel true for you, if you feel like you’re wandering around in a weird, illegible grey area: you can sit down and make that grey area your home. you are allowed to do that. you are not invalidating butch women or trans men as political classes by doing that. you are not necessarily on a quest to come down on one side or the other.  non-binary identity is real. bigender identity is real. no matter how messy or inconvenient or illegible your gender identity may seem to outsiders, it is still real, and it is beautiful and it is yours and no one can take it away from you. there is a long and rich history of people who felt the same way you do, and you’re not alone. 

[blackwoolncrown]

pretty shitty how baseline human activities like singing, dancing and making art got turned into skills  instead of being seen as behaviors

so now it’s like ‘the point of doing them is to get good at them’ and not ‘this is a thing humans do, the way birds sing and bees make hives’.

[sonateharder]

I know I’ve posted this before, but it bears repeating.

This is a thing humans do; you don’t have to be good at it to enjoy it.

[bubbleb34r]

[uwumars]

the fact that theres a new what we do in the shadows that is American is weirding me out what will happen to the memory of the wellington one

[ryebreadgf]

unfollowing cos your blog isn't good enough to make up for how annoying you are

i love all my fans

[doublism]

okay now here’s a question: what are things about your own music taste that you think are red flags

[guerrillatech]

[re-0000]

[llovinghome]

[fairyw1ngs]

[cryptid-sighting]

[sludgebones]

I’m gonna do to catholicism what tumblr witches did to witchcraft

[sludgebones]

Time for emoji communion

🌝🍷

Through him, with him, in him, in the unity of the Holy Spirit, all glory and honour is yours, almighty Father, forever and ever.

(Amen)

[sludgebones]

Likes to confess, reblogs to absolve

[oniongarlic]

Hey if u are trans and want to look at surgeries but you DONT want to look at 377372 pages of surgical gore on google images u can go on transbucket and see peoples pre and post surgery pics that they post there themselves!

[oniongarlic]

Transbucket.com <-- the website

and it’s organized by procedure

[firesidecottage]

[posts-from-2520ad]

okay i really wanted to like the new trump-clinton movie because !!! period dramas!! but the costumes are so bad if you know anything about the era like—

• i get that they gave melania trump an older look to emphasize her seriousness but her dresses are way too fifties and not twenty tens enough, corsets had actually pretty much fallen out of favor a few decades before the twenty tens

• hillary clinton was a politican so her makeup shouldn’t have been that neon. that wouldn’t be a thing for like three more decades.

• donald AND bill literally look like they could be from the modern day. people had sleeves back then, guys. even MEN wore clothes with sleeves and no one thought it made them look less manly (also side note if anyone knows anything about history they know that trump and clinton were both like seventy years old when he ran for president. but the actors they used were hot so i don’t really care l o l)

• seriously this upsets me so much when is a costumer gonna be brave enough to put a man in sleeves in a period drama?????? it was a weird time for fashion but that’s just how it was

• (and in the same way, men wore very little makeup until like a hundred years ago WHY do all movies insist on putting all the men in full makeup when that’s not how they looked back then? like yes it looks weird but that’s the past!)

• ugghhh apparently no one told the costume department that strapless floor length gowns were only a formal thing for women. so many background characters are just wearing them all the time. look in the scene in the coffee shop and the barista is wearing a floor length strapless gown. they were actually called "evening gowns" back then because they were only worn in the evening!

• by the way midriff tops were a peasant thing you wouldn’t see anyone in the upper class wearing them of either gender so idk what all of those were doing there

• hillary's gown at the inauguration ball scene was LITERALLY copied from the wedding dress of an english princess from the eighties. i read somewhere it was because they wanted it to look regal and it was beautiful but like......if you know the era that’s actually a couple decades off, and stuff like big sleeves (at least the women had sleeves in this movie lol) had actually not been fashionable for a while when the movie is set

anyway the acting was good and Donald/Hillary are my historical OTP so that was cute but the costumes really took me out of it :/

[confessions-of-a-genderfluid]

sometimes it's crushing. i'm not a girl. i'm not a boy. except for when i am of course. and even then, when i am literally experiencing a binary gender in a moment, i still know deep down i'm not 100% "man" or "woman." how could i be when i know that just a few minutes ago, i was feeling something else? how on earth do i possibly explain that? how do i embody it? how is there hope to operate smoothly as a gender nonconforming person in a stiflingly gendered society? i look at those fluid tiktok creators, showing how perfectly they can pull off both sides and i envy them, i really do. i wish that that was me so deeply i think it consumes me sometimes. i wish i could pull off looking like another sex as seamlessly and believably as they do, but i don't think i ever will. even if i could, i don't think that alone would make me truly be happy. even genderfluid culture is so binary that sometimes it hurts. i spend most of my days not feeling cis enough or trans enough and then i go to my little genderfluid safe spaces and i see them reinforcing the very system that oppresses us. i just wish i could see more about having that middle-ground, you know what i mean, that neutral, genderless appearance, personality, and feeling. instead it's like every shift and change in genderfluidity is described in terms of the binary– masculine or feminine. i know most people can't never look like they were assigned non-binary at birth or whatever but that doesn't mean it's not a valid desire. i just want people to walk up to me and not be able to tell, and when they pause to question it, i want it to be out of intrigue, genuine interest, not disgust. i want to just be mills! not a boy, not a girl, both and neither, somewhere in between and somewhere else entirely. i love being genderfluid, i just wish that we could figure out how to stop catering to people outside our community, and just be.