ten rats in a trenchcoat

we are going to the movies :) 🧥🐀🐀🐀🐀🐀🐀🐀🐀🐀🐀

[wolfythewitch]

furthest we've ever been

[amvs]

[amvs]

[amvs]

[amvs]

[juh-was-deactivated19691231-dea]

[amvs]

yeah

[nutmargaret]

happy pride!

[aroace-ryland-grace]

happy pride month

[sayatsugu]

When You Look at Dr. Grace

part 1/2 (part 2)

[sayatsugu]

When You Look at Dr. Grace

(part 1) part 2/2

[parkchanwoohoo]

This kid is so fucking good holy shit. I love how into it the audience is, too

[optical-trapping]

[souperluminal]

05.11 - The Red Star Jelly

[hailed-marys]

how to get out of your own way

[sup-its-cat]

WHY HAVE I SEEN NO ONE TALK ABOUT HOW THE GRACE SCULPTURE LOOKS LIKE THE LITTLE DUDE FROM THIS MEME

THAT WAS LITERALLY MY FIRST THOUGHT UPON SEEING IT IN THE MOVIE

[notes-and-violets]

I had to xD

[lakemojave]

I'm putting a team together

[lakemojave]

Fuck how could I forget

[kidzbopdeathgrips]

Team Leader

[ieafy]

I can’t stop drawing mantises I fear

[oldbutchdanielmolloy]

i do appreciate the way that we tumblr users have evolved our language to discuss our feelings related to The Character/The Guy. you used to have to just say he was hot or he was making your ovaries explode or he was a precious cinnamon roll even if he looked bad or was just kind of standing there or whatever. now you can say things like “the creature” or “he looks so sopping wet here” or “i want to chain him to my radiator” like it’s just more inclusive and adaptable to the situation

[twobeesornottwobees]

as someone on the asexual spectrum, this shift in language genuinely made me feel more comfortable and happy in fandom spaces. i've never once wanted to lick a man's abs. i HAVE wanted to chain a man to my radiator. and that's beautiful.

[marlynnofmany]

Rotating the blorbo in the microwave of your mind just says so much. No specifics needed.

[neonfretra]

[aromantic-diaries]

"everyone should get more aromantic" can appeal to tumblr's sensibilities but I genuinely think everyone should also get more asexual. I don't mean everyone stop having sex, what I mean is

Sex is not essential. You can live without it. Full stop.

Not having sex isn't shameful or a sign of failure. It also doesn't make anyone boring.

You are not entitled to having sex with anybody and nobody is entitled to having sex with you.

Sex is not what makes someone an adult.

Nobody's worth is defined by how much sex they have or don't have.

Sex is not equally important to everyone.

You can have fulfilling and happy relationships without sex.

You should only have sex on your own terms, not because you feel like you owe it to someone, or because you feel like you'd be incomplete without it.

Know your boundaries around sex and be firm about them. Know how to respect other people's boundaries.

The previous point also applies when it comes to discussing sex. If someone doesn't wanna talk about it or hear about it you have to back down.

Anything can be sexual but not everything has to be sexual.

[hybbat]

It's true, if Grace did have a partner or children or any other family Stratt absolutely would have used those people as a reason for Grace to go. She would have gone harder into how people would die if he didn't. Her only goal was to get him on that spacecraft by any means necessary.

But that's kinda the point, isn't it? It's not that Grace had no one at home was her base logic for why she picked him to go to space. Grace was going to space and she needed to make a logical argument. And the argument she chose was "you don't have family, therefore you have no reason to not go."

Because that's what matters, that's the main thing that would stop someone, surely. Grace is a charismatic guy who made several friends even with her in his time working there. Grace has multiple years of students and a school worth of staff who know him, he has neighbours and friends and a community he participates in. He has a career and hobbies and a home and possessions. But none of those matter enough to stop someone from going to space. They can just up end his life and move him to a remote base far from home where he isn't allowed to talk to anyone he used to know, isn't allowed to go anywhere, it's no big deal to send him a bit further.

He didn't have any relationships important enough in the eyes of their society for it to have legal ties that could complicate things, and that's what mattered. A social construct so deeply rooted in their society that those relationships are written in legal contracts and government papers, those are the ones that are designated to matter. They matter so much that certain rights are withheld from anyone outside those relationships. Grace could be as happy as a clam but as far as any government and person living in the society formed by that government is concerned he was a lonely man with no reason to not sacrifice himself, and so that becomes the pitch.

The pitch could have been anything, but what it was is based in a heteronormative amatonormative understanding of how people and society should work. And it doesn't matter whether Grace was aspec at that point, what matters is he didn't meet the standards for a person who has sufficiently participated in society, and should thus when made aware be willing to rectify this at the cost of his life.

It just so happens that an aroace person who inherently has a complex relationship with these systems by their nature is painfully familiar with that experience.