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sometimes when chronically ill/disabled/neurodivergent people say “I can’t do this thing” they really mean “I can technically do this thing I guess, but not without pretty significant repercussions” and I really need more fully-abled people to understand the validity of that

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when the autism is being an actual mental health problem instead of making me obsess over fictional characters again:

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haha this was just me in the dark on my bed having a panic attack

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my first favorite hobby is yapping. second is being extremely quiet and not talking ever at all ever.

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How the media depicts the Apollo 11 mission:

Actual quotes from the Apollo 11 mission:

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also according to michael collins when the three of them were discussing what neil armstrong should say when he first stepped on the moon, collins suggested armstrong say “Oh, my God, what is that thing?” and then scream and cut out his mic.

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Everyone forgets Michael Collins and it’s fucking tragic.

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denyandfollow appreciation post

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i laughed really hard at the third one, y’all.

PS these are photos of me like 10/11 years ago.

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i’m so tired of being read like this!

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When I was younger and researching the autism diagnosis criteria and symptoms, I thought “oh I couldn’t POSSIBLY be autistic.” Because when I read “takes everything literally” I thought it literally meant EVERYTHING and I was like “I don’t take EVERYTHING literally, just most things!” And I just realized the other day that it didn’t actually mean EVERYTHING and that was an overstatement.

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wait everything doesn’t mean everything?

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The way most autism literature describes "literal interpretation" is often not at all similar to how I experience it. Teenage me even thought I couldn't be autistic because I've always been able to learn metaphors easily.

In fact, I love wordplay of all kinds. Teenage me was fascinated to learn all the types of figurative language there are in poetry and literature.

But paperwork and questionnaires are hard, because there's so much they don't state clearly. Or they don't leave room for enough nuance.

"List all the jobs you've had, with start and end dates." What if I don't remember the exact day or month? Is the year enough?

"Have you been suffering from blurred vision?" Well, if I take off my glasses the whole world is blurred, but I'm fairly sure that's not what the intake form at the optometrist is asking.

Or the infamous (and infuriatingly stereotypical) "Would you rather go to a library or a party?" What sort of party? Where? Who's there? I work at a library. Am I currently at the library for work or pleasure? Does it have a good collection?

It's not common figures of speech that confound me. It's ambiguity, in situations that aren't supposed to be ambiguous.

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Thinking about how my mom tried to “seduce” my dad when they were in college together by sneaking oranges into his backpack, because she grew up food insecure and feeding someone/sharing food was a big deal with her upbringing with a lot of emotional meaning–

and meanwhile my poor dad is just convinced that he’s been haunted by some citrus poltergeist because why the fuck are there always oranges in his bag he swears he did not put there???

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I crave an emotional connection before I ever crave a sexual one. I want you to stimulate my brain before anything else, because nothing turns me on more than having an emotional connection and a good vibe.

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A 21st Century Girl (Woman?) That's 21 Years Old Who Believes in Complementarianism.

So there’s all this hullabaloo about the biblical view of marriage and what it says about how it’s supposed to go down. Often we see guys write about this topic and people get all mad because complementarianism supposedly favours men. So here: a woman who is writing about complementarianism in marriage.

Let me state this right now: I’m Holly. I’m 21 years old, and yes, I’m a complementarian.

What does this mean in a marriage framework, you may ask? Well, to me, it means that if the Lord wills it, I am so excited to joyfully submit to my husband as his wife. How? I will do my best each day to submit to Christ as the One who loved me and gave Himself for me (Galatians 2:20). Out of that will flow a desire to serve my husband as his helpmeet, his friend, and his lover.

You see, I think there is this view that a lot of people have that there is misogyny and sexism that is underlying the complementarian view. It is seen as this man-favouring, woman-oppressing, old school view that has no relevance to today. But I don’t think this is true at all.

Now let’s look at some (not all) verses that speak to complementarianism because we cannot understand this outside of a biblical framework as it is a biblical concept.

We start off with the women:

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

(Ephesians 5:22-24 ESV)

Women, we are called to submit to our husbands as we submit to the Lord. Part of acting in obedience to Christ is to submit to our husbands. A parallel is drawn here between the husband as the head of the wife and Christ as the head of the Church. In this, the line drawn says that our submission to our husbands is a picture of the very submission that we as the Church have for Christ.

Now the men:

Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body.

(Ephesians 5:25-30 ESV)

First off, men, you have such responsibility! Men are called to love their wives how? As Christ loved the Church and gave himself up for her. What an expectation. Men are to be willing to die for their wives. Not only that, they should love their wives as they love their own bodies. Men are to take care of and cherish their wives, again with a parallel being drawn to Christ and the Church.

If women are to be willing to serve their husbands as the Church should serve Christ, men are called to something even greater which is to serve their wives as Christ served the Church. Christ gave Himself up. The Good News of Christ is that He became servant to all and died that we may live. The greatest act of servitude ever shown and men are called to be examples of that. How is this in the men’s favour? If anything, women, we are called to much less responsibility!

However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

(Ephesians 5:33 ESV)

Notice that it concludes with men being called to love their wives and women, as well, respecting their husbands. This is complementarianism, friends. The very word means that two different parts come together to form a whole that works in harmony. Two roles being fulfilled harmoniously.

I think we would be remiss in not highlighting the fact that marriage is a picture of Christ’s love for the Church. Again, marriage is a picture of Christ’s love for the Church. It is the closest understanding we have here on Earth of the love that Jesus has for us. And this is why I believe it’s so important that we look at marriage from this framework. We understand more of our relationship to Christ through biblical marriage.

Submission is not a scary thing once we realize that we are submitting to men who have submitted to Christ first. They are called to so much in the light of Christ’s sacrifice and understanding this makes submission beautiful.

Yes, I realize that we are only human and that we will get this wrong sometimes, but it is a journey of being made more into the image of Christ daily and that is what walking towards heaven is. But if we are both pursuing Christ and pursuing biblical submission, me to him as to Christ, and him to Christ resulting in serving me, then I believe that there will be so much beauty in that. And that is a man that I want to do life with, that I want to pursue Christ with, that I want to raise a family with, that I want to do ministry with for the rest of my life.

So this is why I love the complementarian view of marriage. It’s simply so beautiful to me.

If you have any questions or any thoughts, please let me know! I’d love to hear them!

In Christ,

Holly

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I’m almost 28 now. Let’s check where I’m at:

- now married

- don’t know if I want kids

- being a complementarian woman who has strong opinions is hard

- still a complementarian, though

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Okay, a month from 30, here we go: