Pretty When I Cry

A collection of things I think need talking about, opinions are my own and everyone can have their own, unless it harms anything/thing

[angelxhunter]

Don’t Tell Girls

“You’re too pretty to be single” Why is one person’s idea of ideal aestheticism A basis for a relationship status And furthermore What is so goddamn shameful or pathetic about being single anyway Is confidence and comfort in being by one’s self intimidating to you

“Swearing is unladylike” Bullshit Swears are only words And these words do not negate my intelligence, or passion, or define anything about me as a person or my character Men are never told not to swear Swear as much as you fucking want

“Your standards are too high! Just give him a chance” No You are invalidating a woman’s right to say no She doesn’t need to explain herself to anyone She doesn’t owe anyone anything Ever Everyone should have standards for themselves, and not feel like they need to lower them to please anyone Or be shamed for leading someone on when they know it would never work Because that happens too

“If you dress like that, boys will get the wrong idea” What idea might that be? That women might actually feel beautiful and confident in their own bodies? Heaven forbid Because obviously women’s bodies belong to everyone else except themselves

“Don’t frown - someone might be falling in love with your smile!” Why Is it my responsibility to always smile no matter how I feel I am a human being who is allowed to experience pain, or confusion, or sorrow, or boredom Men are never criticized for having “resting bitch face”

“Short hair makes you look like a boy!” This is assuming That there is one certain way for “boys” and “girls” to look Not so Some boys have long hair, some girls have short hair, some people who are both or neither also have hair Hair has no gender Humans are allowed to look different from each other and express themselves how they like Gender identity and gender expression are not the same

They aren’t “real” girls because they were born with a penis Anyone is a girl who says they are a girl Stop trying to undermine someone’s identity They know themselves better than you do Anatomy and identity are different, and sometimes separate Why are you so obsessed with other people’s genitals anyway

“You’re going to break a lot of hearts one day” Why would you ever Ever Say this to a girl A young, impressionable girl Breaking hearts is not a compliment, or a goal Coming from someone who has broken at least one From simply being honest and being myself It is a burden - a guilt that has been (mis)placed on my shoulders since childhood I never wanted to be labelled a heartbreaker simply for existing

“You don’t want kids? You’ll change your mind one day” No I won’t Even if I do, one day, that doesn’t make my opinion right now any less valid or deserving of respect Stop disbelieving people about their own life choices Also, having children is not a necessary milestone for a successful or fulfilling life

“Don’t have sex before marriage - boys really want a virginal girl” Sure they do And are boys ever held to that same expectation To stay virgins until marriage? Because as women are shamed for “impurity,” boys are applauded for “experience” I love the smell of double standards in the morning

“You shouldn’t wear so much makeup” The natural look is great The makeup look is great The anything you feel like doing or not doing to your own face look is great Let people do whatever they want to their own bodies Whatever makes them feel good Why do you care

“Selfies are just for attention” Maybe Maybe not What’s so wrong about liking attention What’s so wrong about feeling beautiful and confident in your own skin And wanting to share that feeling with others We were taught for so long to hate our bodies What is so threatening about finally loving them

“Cat-calling is flattering! Learn how to accept a compliment!” “I like your hair” is a compliment “You’re a really talented writer” is a compliment The gross, vulgar things that men shout at women they don’t know on the street Are not compliments They are harassment - meant to imply ownership and dominance and even violence Compliments should not make people fear for their lives walking home Compliments should not actually get people killed

- angelxhunter (x)

[onebuttscratcher]

please boost the fuck out of this.

[fightingmisogynoir]

^!!!!!!!!!!!

[just-shower-thoughts]

Christian people say, “no one is born gay”, but no one is born Christian either.

[lilxanniee-deactivated20230222]

whoop there it is

[justdannyyy]

My insta could do with some love 💜💜

www.instagram.com/dannydxckworth/

[herwildamnself-deactivated20160]

one time a boy tried to pull my hijab off

i punched him in the face

closed fist, short swing, right in the jaw

there is a point where you stop trying to educate people and start making the consequences of their racist bullshit real fuckin clear.

[1-800youwish]

can we just appreciate the fact that my best friend, who in the past struggled with an eating disorder, called out my gym teacher bc he says a size 3 for women is “ideal”

(((The average now for women is a size 14)))

[dismalboii]

DUDE GOD BLESS HER

[underscore-kate]

I can’t tell you how happy this makes me

[timeandspacelocked-deactivated2]

YOU GO GIRL!!

[noose]

oh my god yes

[imtakingafuckingbreak-deactivat]

YES GIRL UR MY HERO

[mymompickedthisurl-deactivated2]

Reblogged so fast.  ”How dare you?”

[cazzette]

GURL YOU TELL HIM

[ectoturntechbiologist]

Reblog if you are NOT a Donald Trump supporter.

My family ranted to me last night about how they think Donald Trump is the only responsible person trying to run for president and they think “everyone supports him”.

I want to prove them wrong.

[gap-var-ginnunga]

i’m mostly posting this as a reminder to myself, but i think other men struggling with body image or people who are dysphoric about their hips can benefit from seeing this too.

this is part of a body positivity campaign launched by clothing company dressman called #justthewayyouare and if you click that link there’s more body types being represented in their ads.

i have never seen any body positivity for men like this before, marketing ploy or not it DOES help me seeing my body type (wide hips and chub and all) being represented in a public space like this, especially with the word “perfect” attached to it.

i’ve came back to this picture for a while now as a reminder that my body is a valid body, and i hope it will help someone else too.

(credits to @oneflewovergeorgieboysnest for taking this picture and putting it on facebook)

[homotology]

This is important.

[thresholdofzero-deactivated2018]

For mah dudes

[listlesslywandering]

Because men need body positivity too

[scarecrowqueen]

Signal boost cause all you gents need to be happy in your skin too okay?

[67ae-deactivated20190605]

On Asian Stereotypes

Someone once told me, “You’re lucky, you’re Asian. Your stereotypes are all positive, like all Asians are smart, or all Asians are good at math.”

Do you know the problem with Asian stereotypes? 

The problem is that when I get an A on a test, people say, “Oh, she’s Asian, of course she got an A”. 

The problem is that when our badminton team won state, people said, “Oh, they’re Asian, of course they’re good at badminton”. 

The problem is that when my sister got into MIT, I heard people saying, “Well, she’s Asian, so of course she got into MIT”. 

When my friend wins a piano competition, people said he won because “all Asians are good at piano.”

But that’s not right.

I got an A on that test because I did my homework every day and studied for hours.

Our badminton team won state because we train 9 hours a week, all year round.

My sister got into MIT because she spent hours agonizing over her essays, because she stayed up ridiculously late doing homework and studying for tests.

Yes, I agree, a lot of the Asians I know are very smart, and many Asians excel in music and extracurriculars. Do you know why? It’s because of their parents, who yell at them when their grades drop, when they don’t practice enough. It’s the hours spent crying, the times you consider cheating because you don’t have time to study. It’s your bleeding fingers and aching shoulders, but you haven’t practiced enough. 

Because when we don’t succeed, all we hear is countless people telling us, “You’re Asian, aren’t Asians supposed to be smart?” “Aren’t Asians supposed to be good at piano?” “Aren’t Asians supposed to succeed at everything without trying?”

Do not invalidate our hard work by saying our achievements are a result of our ethnicity.

[decompositionstain-deactivated2]

boy positivity

chubby boys? curvy boys? skinny boys? bony boys? thick boys? muscley boys? short boys? tall boys? trans boys? fem boys? masc boys? hey. youre all cute boys. you especially. good job. your jawline looks hot and your shoulderblades are hella sexy and you got a cute bum and if u got a tum then holy shit sonny hold me back cuz boy tums are fuckin great i swear. if you wanna wear makeup, go bro u do it, errybody looks fine with their eyebrows done and fleek eyeliner, if youre not for that then hey man thats cool too you look great either way. you wanna work out? way to go bud that rocks! you wanna stay home and eat? same man thats livin the dream. short hair? fuckin cool. long hair? hardcore bro, hardcore. you rule. always no matter what, you rock.

[56blogsstillcrazy]

SO DOPE

[protectblkwomen]

🙌🏾😊

[jairavin23]

Super dope ! 🙌🏾

[pinkizlife]

Crazy thing is Black ppl, we always lit like this…..yall just cant see past our skin

[dynastylnoire]

AWWWWWWW!!!!!!

[spoonmeb]

i live for white people accidentally inviting black people to shit and black people making it 10x better. 

[weneedtotalkaboutthismore]

Bullying/shaming

all it basically comes down to is trolls being sad little creatures who have nothing better they can/ able to do. I understand what I’m about to say is easier said than done, however you should take a little bit of piece of mind from knowing you will forever come off better than them, any other time I would say feeling better about yourself when looking at the state some people are in is disgusting, but at the end of the day they’re bullying you into feeling bad about yourself and getting empowerment and having the ability to stand up and say “Ik I’m not pretty, to YOUR standards, but I’m fucking stunning so fuck you and your society norms”, we should grow and be happy as people and that starts within ourselves so fucking screw those shaming creatures and walk your fucking walk hunny.

[cartoon-deactivated20220930]

The year is 1995, congress member Bernie Sanders stands in opposition of a homophobic statement said by Duke Cunningham. Cunningham derisively refers to “homos in the military” to support his argument while (strangely) discussing the Clean Water Act. Sanders, having none of it, quickly rises to the defense of thousands of men and women everywhere. Sanders ire is such that he repeatedly disrespects the Chairman by speaking over him in order to say his piece. [Video Source]

What does this say for Sanders? Well, that’s for you to decide. But to me, it says that for 20+ years strong he has shown his public support for LGBT+ persons everywhere, even in the face of ridicule and disrespect. Unlike some, Sanders has always been vocal about his beliefs concerning the LGBT+ community, and he has always held them. Key word always, and not just when doing so might garner him support for his campaigns. 

BONUS:

[huffpost]

[ruinedchildhood]

[mildserendipity]

WTF I LIETERALLY THOUGHT IT WAS ABOUT DOGS UNTIL NOW I AM 20 YEARS OLD

[misslunarlight]

of course it was, why would he actually sing about real dogs and why they got out

[fandomcollector-deactivated2014]

No it isn’t. It’s actually talking about the men who predate upon women in clubs, calling them dogs, not ‘ugly women’. Just look at the lyrics:

And tell the fellas stop the name callin’ Yepee ah yo Then them girls respond to the call I hear a woman shout out Who let the dogs out Woof, woof, woof, woof, woof

Or if that isn’t clear enough for you that it’s women quite clearly calling the men dogs then read this next bit:

Get back gruffy, mash scruffy Get back you flea infested mongrel Now I tell meh self dem man go get angry Ah yepee ah yo To hear them girls calling them canine

It’s saying that men who attack women for being ‘ugly’ or refuse to leave them alone are worse than stray mongrels! It plainly points out that women do not want or appreciate the attention and so taunt them with the verse of ‘who let the dogs out’ because they are both unable to control themselves and vile little creatures. Learn to do some fucking research.

[thisblackwitch]

It’s about how cat calling guys are awful.

[randomizeyourmind-blog]

Rape has become endemic in South Africa, so a medical technician named Sonette Ehlers developed a product that immediately gathered national attention there. Ehlers had never forgotten a rape victim telling her forlornly, “If only I had teeth down there.”

Some time afterward, a man came into the hospital where Ehlers works in excruciating pain because his penis was stuck in his pants zipper.

Ehlers merged those images and came up with a product she called Rapex. It resembles a tube, with barbs inside. The woman inserts it like a tampon, with an applicator, and any man who tries to rape the woman impales himself on the barbs and must go to an emergency room to have the Rapex removed.

When critics complained that it was a medieval punishment, Ehlers replied tersely, “A medieval device for a medieval deed.” 

- Half the Sky, Nicholas Kristof

[kokilax]

REBLOGGING THIS. x1,000,000,000,000,000,000,000

[turningtricksbdwozhere-deactiva]

A medieval device for a medieval deed - yes.

[yfghkjilotu-deactivated20160606]

This is perfect

[shadowstep-of-bast]

BLESS THIS PERSON

[allthingshyper]

I BOW TO THIS INTENTION

[nosuchthingasfiction-blog]

Can we talk about how beautifully this turns rape culture on its head? Instead of “If they weren’t dressed like that they wouldn’t have been raped” THIS IS LITERALLY “IF THEY HADN’T TRIED TO RAPE SOMEONE THEY  WOULDN’T HAVE SPIKES IN THEIR DICK”*

[sassy-gay-justice]

That bold bit~

[embarassed]

reblogging for the rape culture comment omFG AMEN TO YOU 

[crushis]

[arab-quotes]

The last one alone is enough to debunk the whole premise that ISIS represents Islam.

[stillnotchrys]

I’m going to put this on queue just incase people need reminding

[drunxaspunx]

Wow ISIS is breaking every single one of these rules.

[phantompierce-okamoto]

You see this??? Stop associating Islam with ISIS!!! They’re radicals!!! They don’t represent Muslim people!!!

[essfitcee-deactivated20160425]

Reblog if you believe Sex and Nudity should not be shamed.