Best Mess In The West

[helperhoopoe]

remember to cry for help without guilt-tripping. i know it feels like you’ve been abandoned and betrayed, but it’s probably not true, and it’s not okay to accuse the people around you of something they might not have done.

“i guess none of you like me” could be better phrased as “i feel unloved right now”

“but nobody cares anyway” could be better phrased as “i feel insignificant and i need reassurance”

rather than assuming others’ feelings, give them time to explain them. you’ll usually get a much better answer.

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

imagine thinking nail polish is a gendered thing. unnecessary shiny adornment has no gender, if anything it’s more crow than human

[pfcanimal]

Nail polish itself isn’t gendered, but most people who work with their hands for a living don’t want to spend money so flippantly on an ornament, that’s going to be destroyed by the work being done.

You’re not wrong about nail polish not being gendered, but most careers in said trades are usually dominated by men, unopposed.

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

oh my god oh my god oh my goooooooooooddd

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

this is the funniest response to this post

[catsandwitchcraft]

Oh man, when I worked at Amazon, my nails were IMMACULATE, because I, a humble woman, used telekenisis to avoid harming my flippant ornimitation.

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

oh my goooooooooooddd

[sylvester-malone]

Because women and woman-coded labor

NEVER involves the use

Of hands.

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

oh my goooooooooooooooooddd

[avoiceisgraceandgreed]

Well, to be fair, traiditionally “male” jobs work with harsher stuff, machinery and rocks and tools, as opposed to soap and fabrics

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

oh my gooooooooooooooooodddd

[pauliexoxo]

With “rocks and tools” like in ye olde stone age where the strong, muscular men defended the CAVES with their bare hands that are not allowed to be covered in ornaments

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

Oh my goooooooood

[krystal-prisms]

Oh my gaud

[cremia-deactivated20210626]

my favourite attribute in an anti-SJW is the complete inability to recognize when someone is clowning them to hell and back so they continue to act like its a civilized debate when the other side is like ‘i will put a fist up my ass so hard ill fly to the moon and create a fart atmosphere around it’ theyll respond to that like ‘ad heminem, try learning how to debate next time you try to come at me’

[spoopzoop-deactivated20171003]

That’s because you fucking simpletons get so wound up that there are people who actually speak like that unironically. It’s at the point now where people cant even differentiate between a troll, and someone who’s being serious because they both sound identical. 

Ad hominem*

[cremia-deactivated20210626]

im honestly speechless replying to this, i dont know how to even begin describing how you had the audacity to call me a simpleton while falling for the trick this post describes, theres not even a trick in this post, its just a description of it, but that was enough, you even corrected my eminem joke. im just. i genuinely did not think you people could be this dense but i am so fucking happy that you are cause im gonna frame this response and put it on my wall

[commander-ledi]

dragon age player characters should be allowed to swim

[commander-ledi]

like if mr. skyrim can swim while wearing full armor made out of rocks or whatever, my inquisitor dressed in light armor should be allowed to swim too instead of dying instantly if water level comes above his knees

[mozzarella-shenanigans]

Mr. Skyrim,,,,,,

[commander-ledi]

yeah, him. mr. skyrim, the guy who screams at dragons and eats bees.

[pianoaround]

[amuseoffirebane]

Reblogging this again because I found info!

This is 2/3 of a band called Too Many Zooz (they’re lacking their trumpeter here), the song is called ‘Flightning,’ and the genre is “brass house” (which i think they made up but hey i dig it). They have a handful of songs on Spotify and just successfully Kickstarted their first full-length album.

[gvayaba]

this song as the opening to a new anime by Shinichiro Watanabe honestly

[pomp-adourable]

These guys are CHARACTERS for a Watanabe anime.

[running-with-toast]

I seriously love these guys, because they’re so interesting from a music-theory perspective. Their use of intense beats, syncopation, deep bass, and blaring harmonics borrows a lot from modern club music

they’re basically playing dubstep on traditional instruments. Seriously, listen to some tracks with all three of them together, and tell me that’s not what they’re doing

[tideartist-deactivated20171102]

Needed this to cheer up–

[disgustinganimals]

please watch with sound on

[leatherjacketsupervillain]

That’s Cumlord! You can find his page on Facebook!!

[leaf-jelly]

that’s what

[mexicanine]

WHOMST

[boredbbyy]

can’t help falling in love on a kalimba

[hannahhillam]

[starsberrisnunicorns]

Did the cat just give–

[teenagerposts]

this is the wholesome pure content we need more of

[switchbladesounds-deactivated20]

[idontgettriggled]

*violently sings veggie tales theme song*

[pakabear]

Another rant, this time on haircuts.

So I told my mom that I wanted to get a haircut (I have long hair and I wanna cut it short). I showed her one style, literally one style, and she went “oHH GoD nO” and procided to yell at me that it was “too boyish”. She told me we weren’t going to do that.

There’s no we.

She told me many other things, but I won’t bore you with the details.

This is the photo I showed her:

I think this hairstyle is gorgeous, but no, it doesn’t matter what I think.

I mean sure, my hair won’t look like that, (my hair is straight) but that was just one picture. She didn’t let me explain myself before preaching her beliefs.

AND I DONT THINK ANYONE DISAGREES WITH ME WHEN I SAY THAT WOMAN IS ABSOLUTELY ROCKING THIS STYLE.

I’ll probably end up updating this as my adventure continues.

Advice would be greatly appreciated.

[teathattast]

NO SWEARING ON MY PROFILE!!!

[teathattast]

[circus-skeletons-blog]

Fuck

[teathattast]

[background-noise-headache]

H ol y S hi t!

[teathattast]

[lunanevada]

Everyone says that Chandler is the best representation of Tumblr... I'm sorry, but aren't we forgetting someone?

[thorne-the-elf-blog-blog]

I swear he looked more realistic when I was a kid 0.o

[overflowchute]

me doing japanese homework:

wait a minute….

[8foldhero-deactivated20181214]

this makes so much more sense now???

[intel-i386-deactivated20160703]

Why didn’t this meme come with a translator’s note

[vladtheunfollower]

[foster-the-morning-deactivated2]

i love people who get excited about stars

[petr1kov]

the real progenitor of ‘cool motive still murder’

[coffee-alien]

“Imagine having a child that refuses to hug you or even look you in the eyes”

Imagine being shamed, as a child, for not showing affection in a way that is unnatural or even painful for you. Imagine being forced, as a child, to show affection in a way that is unnatural or even painful for you. Imagine being told, as a child, that your ways of expressing affection weren’t good enough. Imagine being taught, as a child, to associate physical affection with pain and coercion.

[samayla]

As a preschool special ed para, this is very important to me. All my kids have their own ways of showing affection that are just as meaningful to them as a hug or eye contact is to you or me. 

One gently squeezes my hand between both of his palms as he says “squish.” I reciprocate. When he looks like he’s feeling sad or lost, I ask if I can squish him, and he will show me where I can squish him. Sometimes it’s almost like a hug, but most of the time, it’s just a hand or an arm I press between my palms. Then he squishes my hand in return, says “squish,” and moves on. He will come ask for squishes now, when he recognizes that he needs them.

Another boy smiles and sticks his chin out at me, and if he’s really excited, he’ll lean his whole body toward me. The first time he finally won a game at circle time, he got so excited he even ran over and bumped chins with me. He now does it when he sees me outside of school too. I stick out my chin to acknowledge him, and he grins and runs over and I lean down for a chin bump.

Yet another child swings my hand really fast. At a time when another child would be seeking a hug, she stands beside me and holds my hand, and swings it back and forth, with a smile if I’m lucky. The look on her face when I initiate the hand swinging is priceless.

Another one bumps his hip against mine when he walks by in the hallway or on the playground, or when he gets up after I’m done working with him. No eye contact, no words, but he goes out of his way to “crash” into me, and I tell him that it’s good to see him. He now loves to crash into me when I’m least expecting it. He doesn’t want anything, really. Just a bump to say “Hi, I appreciate you’re here.” And when he’s upset and we have to take a break, I’ll bump him, ask if he needs to take a walk, and we just go wander for a bit and discuss whatever’s wrong, and he’s practically glued to my side. Then one more bump before we go back into the room to face the problem.

Moral of the story is, alternative affection is just as valid and vitally important as traditional affection. Reciprocating alternative affection is just as valid and vitally important as returning a hug. That is how you build connections with these children. 

[brighteyedbadwolf]

This is so goddamn important.

I verbally express affection. A LOT.

My husband… doesn’t. I don’t know why. For the longest time part of me wondered if it meant he loved me less.

At some point I told him about a thing I had done as a kid. Holding hands, three squeezes means ‘I Love You’.

Suddenly he’s telling me I Love You all the time.

Holding my hand, obviously, but also randomly.

taptaptap

on my hand, my shoulder, my butt, my knee, whatever body part is closest to him, with whatever part of him is closest to me

All the time.

More often than I ever verbally said it.

It’s an ingrained signal now, I can tap three times on whatever part of him, and get three taps back in his sleep. Apparently I do the same.

It’s made a huge difference for us.

People say things differently.