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inability-deactivated20240128

btw don't go to 5e.tools for free access to basically every official DND 5e resource including books, spells, races, stat generators and homebrew guides, because that's illegal and such a widespread and creative game should not be open access for everyone because that would be bad. just letting you know not to go to that website and do that

#dnd shenanigans #just gonna put this here

neil-gaiman

thoughts on doctor who?

Is that another Tumblr imaginary movie?

No, that's Dr. Gorv. Dr. Who is a movie about the russian Bolshevik revolution starring Julie Christie and Omar Sharif

lucyaudley

No, you’re thinking of Doctor Zhivago. Dr Who is a satirical comedy movie about the Cold War and nuclear destruction.

fuckyeahkatnep

That's actually Doctor Strangelove. Doctor Who wrote a bunch of children's books to help kids learn to read.

neil-gaiman

No, that's almost definitely Doctor Seuss. Doctor Who was a song by the Thompson Twins.

zingring

You're thinking of Doctor! Doctor! Neil. Doctor Who is about a brilliant but arrogant surgeon who, following a car crash that eliminates his chance of ever doing surgery again, turns to mysticism.

paperclippedmime

Close! That’s Doctor Strange. Doctor Who is the Dutch expert in law, philosophy, science, and metaphysics who, along with a solicitor, a train fiend, an administrator of an insane asylum, a nobleman, and a cowboy, hunts down and kills a notorious vampire.

the-golden-summer-rose-archive

Almost! That's Doctor Seward from Dracula. I think you mean the guy who suppressed all his urges and made a scientific potion to create a second identity for the sole purposes or letting out his base urges

gazztron

Actually, that was Dr van Helsing. Dr Seward was one of Lucy’s suitors, the one that ran the asylum. Dr Who is a song released by Aqua back in the late 1990′s

datasoong47

No, that’s Dr Jones. Dr Who is the person on first base

gazztron

What?

datasoong47

No, What is on 2nd, Who's on 1st

#of all the things that could force this dead blog back to a semblance of life #this is it

littlesmartart

after the huge amazing response I got from my ace!Jiang Cheng comic - all of the ace people saying how amazing it felt to be acknowledged, and all of the people who came to me saying that they hadn’t realised they were ace until they read the comic - I decided I wanted to make something for ace awareness week. it’s not quite as pretty or feelsy as the other comic, but there are so many people even within the LGBT+ community who just… genuinely do not understand asexuality, I figured even something basic would help :)

happy ace awareness week! please remember: everyone’s experience with sexuality is different! be kind and support each other!

#asexuality

aro-bot

idk can we stop…treating a.ce disc.ourse like it’s some haha funney cringe compilation or whatever the fuck because it fucking destroyed the entire ace and aro communities. there is no solid aspec community on tumblr anymore (which was by far the biggest number of aspec ppl). exclusionists took our community and fucking smashed it to pieces and y'all treat it as this fucking stupid joke when they traumatized, gaslit, and abused an entire group of queer people back into the closet. fuck every single person who doesn’t take that seriously.

showmesomeoneinnocent

My personal experience is just that, but it’s really indicative that I have watched almost every single ace and aro person I know, irl and online, actively recloset themselves as a direct result of the consequences of The Disc Horse™

I watched irl queer groups disintegrate bc a few ppl who got into leadership positions used that to make the space hostile towards ace ppl (among others as well), saw friends go from being loud and proud aces n aros to actively avoiding any mention of it and letting ppl assume their sexuality. I myself, having been IDing as ace for 10 years at least, have in the past couple since this whole “"discourse”“ came into being, actively and intentionally stopped telling anyone at all that I’m ace. To put that in some kind of perspective, I am incredibly out as trans and will actively out myself pretty constantly except to total strangers I will never see again. I feel safer telling ppl I’m trans than ace. Especially in queer spaces. It’s fucked me up so much I didn’t even quite grasp how much but today my therapist asked me for the first time about like romantic relationships and I physically could not say I am aro and ace. Completely incapable, utterly frozen, and I just kinda let her believe what she will. Ironically the fact that I’ve gone from being willing and ready to tell ppl I’m ace as just another facet of myself to entirely unable and unsolicited to tell anyone, is probably a thing one might want to talk w one’s therapist about.

This has really fucked not just the community at large but fucked up individual ace ppl in so many ways. It’s not something “funny” or remotely harmless, it’s absolutely devastated us.

swampgallows

for people in the notes looking for “elder” aces, i just wanna say that i’m 28 years old and am also desperately searching for that representation. i first found out about asexuality through tumblr when i was 21 and started identifying as asexual when i was 21-22 (around 2012). i’ve sought other online ace communities but nothing compared to tumblr. i mean, props to aven for existing as a repository of resources but in terms of just chatting with other aces “in the wild” as it were, tumblr was the perfect place.

but then this fucking shit happened. around 2015 is when it really kicked into high gear. “discoursers” or exclusionists or aphobes or however you want to refer to them consider asexuality to be a joke and that everyone who identifies as ace is a cringey cishet college-aged white girl who loves dr who. recycled biphobia, homophobia, and even terf rhetoric made its way into the mainstream tumblr conscious by reframing the arguments to target ace people (you’re only X because you’re ugly/can’t get laid; you aren’t part of the community if your partner is of a different gender; maybe something happened to you to make you this way; have you had your hormones checked?; by accepting this identity you are allowing the oppressor to infiltrate our spaces; etc.). you know, in case you think this is just about “snick snack” memes.

this has alienated ace people of color, who already struggle with desexualization/hypersexualization, disabled aces, ace survivors, trans aces, mentally ill aces, neurodiverse/AUTISTIC ACES (you guys get REAL fuckin nervous when i highlight that the majority of your jeering about aces’ perceived awkwardness, missed social cues, infantilization/dehumanization, or “unfuckability”/“cringey-ness” are repackaged ableism, especially considering that a good percentage of the ace community is also autistic), and both young AND older aces.

younger people are being discouraged from exploring the possibility of being asexual by exclusionists for reasons that vary from internalized homophobia to asexuality being a side effect of SSRIs. they are being told that they are “actually” something other than what they say they are, or that they are broken, or that they’re too young to know, or that our ace identity is simultaneously something that must be excruciatingly examined to determine its “cause” yet so irrelevant that it’s unworthy of discussion or representation—”nobody cares that you don’t want to have sex”. i WISH i had known about asexuality as a teenager, as a kid. I wish i had saved myself from so much grief, abuse, pain, and corrective rape by not subjecting myself to experiences that i hoped would “fix” me.

and older people like me, who in the grand scheme of things is uhhh really not that much older than the majority of tumblr, are ridiculed for having a presence on tumblr in general, let alone as an asexual person. aces over 30? 40? 50? unicorns. conjured rhetoric. people straight-up don’t believe they exist. people ten years my junior attempt to deny and erase the lived history of aces by saying asexuality was “invented” only ten years ago. i have been terrified of attempting to enter Q* spaces irl because i have heard from even my IRL gay friends that aces do not belong, that “it’s not important enough to form an identity around”, that we are not oppressed enough or we just desperately want to be oppressed.

i have only heard in passing of people much older than i am who are ace. i have absolutely zero examples to turn to of people like me continuing to live a long life or any evidence that i am worth loving unless i become a parent, which i don’t want to do. when you’re a teenager there’s more discussion about sexual boundaries, but what about dating in my 30s? what adult is going to be satisfied knowing i can never validate their sexual attraction, unless they were ace like me (less than 1% of the population)? am i forced to be alone forever? you can imagine how bleak my future feels.

it pisses me off that i’m seen as a curmudgeon who “just doesn’t get the young people’s humor” when i have to beg people that i consider friends, for the eight billionth time, to stop making/reblogging jokes about how “cringey” aces are or are tongue-in-cheek declaring themselves to be aphobes, and then those people try to assuage me with respectability politics about how it’s about “THOSE” aces on tumblr and not, yknow, me, who is “one of the good ones”. and since the jokes themselves are so juvenile, it further compounds on the poor social graces and stoicism assumed of asexual people if I’m getting upset over ace war criminal moodboards or whatever the fuck. EVERY time i post about asexual ANYTHING on tumblr, to this day, i lose followers. without fail. people dont bat a lash when i spam 20 untagged posts in a row about a fandom they dont care about but i post two positive words about asexuality and theyre gone.

the environment promoted on tumblr condemns asexuality as a social deficit, as an attack on other Q* identities, as a subject of derision and embarrassment, as an identity lacking in “woke” capital, and makes every effort to expunge us from communities we have already belonged to in favor of making our own while also actively seeking out and dismantling those communities. if tumblr really is in its last days, i sincerely hope that these awful practices will die with it.

#asexuality

#NFTumblcryptids

catgirlisms-moved-deactivated20

rb this and tell me why tumblr would deem you bad lgbt rep

#ok let's take this one at a time #first we have ace #is that queer enough to be lgbt? the jury is still out on that one #biromantic but have only ever dated guys #which is apparently a sin? I dunno #and then we have the whole nb-but-not-androgynous thing

ebonyheartnet

Ya know what? It’s okay to love things made by a complete asshole. It’s okay, it’s perfectly fine, and all you gotta do is check out their casket every now and then, cause like-

The author is dead, y’all.

That doesn’t mean we have to let them rest in peace .

If that asshole’s not already rolling in their grave, well, guess it’s time to turn them over.

(Someone please add the rotisserie chickens meme)

ebonyheartnet

Forgot I made this post for a bit, but uh, as a Black queer disabled fan of Danny Phantom, and the occasional dabbler in Lovecraftian horror, I will speak directly to everybody who still loves a certain fantasy boarding school as much as I once did:

You can, and should, enjoy what you love, just make sure to have a nice fandom campfire and gather round as you put You-Know-Who’s casket on a spit for an even roast

Edit: also, I had fun in the tags c:

ebonyheartnet

If someone could add an image description I’d be grateful, bc I am not wrong :3

casp-rr-deactivated20251017

I got you <3

Image description: a screenshot of the tags on the original post, reading as follows: #like. y’all. we found out DP’s creator was shit. and you know what we did? #we came up with essays on why Fartman keeps making queer characters w/o realizing it #you know how many times I’ve said. ‘that man’s such a bigot his own characters won’t come out of the closet around him’? MANY. #anyways. the author is dead. but like. undead dead. #long as you sweep the house for vampires. and stake them w/o getting turned? #just hang up some garlic and throw your party dude. bc who tf cares? the author? the other leeches on society’s @$$? #oh please y’all. #stop getting pissy and do the work: drag that casket out into the sun and wake that mfer up. #or. like I said. fandom bonﬁre. bc somebody might get caught in the ﬁnal thrashing of an evil corpse. but it’s gotta be done. #all I’m saying is that you need to spit in the face of people who hate you. in this case ﬁguratively. oh #and make sure to season too bc *somebody* thinks salt is spicy all by itself (rolling eyes emoji) #rambling in the tags. End description.

Also this is my first time trying to write an image description so if anyone has critiques just say so. Love y'all 💚

ebonyheartnet

You are a gem, and absolutely priceless

#fandom #not gonna stop liking the things I like just bc the author is shit #I'm not one of their characters. they don't get a say in what I do

wormwoodandhoney

me, every time i’m watching a movie in which a character is painfully being laced into a corset: ooh, the historical fashion internet people are gonna be mad about this

#this is the reason my mum refuses to watch Bridgerton with me

hollyoakhill

I had the honor of taking part in the Critical Role holiday celebration gallery again! My winter has been terribly busy, so I’m happy I managed to finish this silly little thing just in time!

Check out the rest of the gallery here!

#critical role #critical role fanart #kitty Essek looks so smug I love him<3

wrenrouge

take this gender quiz I beg you it is literally LIFE CHANGING

transenbyhollis

EXCELLENT

#my gender is the angel Ramiel from neon genesis evangelion

bixbiboom

[ID: A tweet from Taliesin Jaffe @.executivegoth that reads: “If you can't handle me at my worst you're probably well adjusted with healthy boundaries.” /end ID]

#Taliesin Jaffe

sunny-aster

Note: This isn’t an insult/sassy come back to people to asking valid questions/statements (well maybe a bit sassy lol), none of it’s meant to offend people that are calmly trying to educate themselves to lgbtq+. Questions are always welcome!

#asexuality