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"and if somebody else has it worse, that doesn't really change the fact that you have what you have. good and bad." 23|taurus|INFP nb: they / them pronouns IG: dontmatisseme

[ihatecispeople]

a cis friend reached out to me and apologised for using the wrong pronouns when talking about me to someone else when i wasn’t present. but here’s the thing: in no way did i want to hear that apology. 

i don’t want to know you misgendered me. i don’t want you to use the wrong pronouns for me, only for you to then later come running to me with your tail between your legs, crying about how sorry you are, expecting forgiveness without repercussion. i don’t know a single trans person who would.

what this situation lead to, and what it will always lead to, is the trans person being stuck to forgive the cis person, patting their pack and consoling their feelings of guilt. if we don’t, we risk the cis person demonising all trans people, we risk cis people revoking their allyship, we risk mockery, and we risk so much more. it’s a lose-lose situation for trans people: we got reminded we get misgendered, and we have to console the one who did it if we want to be safe.

if you misgender a trans person not present, don’t tell them you did. accept that you fucked up, and next time correct yourself so that you’re not misgendering anyone anymore. trans people get misgendered to their faces often enough as it is. we don’t deserve to be forced to comfort a cis person’s feelings regarding their own guilt after we get misgendered without our knowledge.

the guilt you feel isn’t mine to console… and if you don’t misgender me next time, the guilt will disappear naturally.

[growingcherriesandroses]

having a personal sense of style is gay culture and the reason why gay men are seen as fashionable and lesbians as tacky is because the standards are so low for men and so high for women send post

[thunderlovesbird]

and FURTHERMORE the standards set for women are centered around how appealing they are to men and not actually about style at all a lot of the time. Lesbian style doesn’t care what men find attractive and is therefore considered “wrong”

[xmagnet-o]

boop

[catsbeaversandducks]

[notobadthings]

I knew what would happen and yet

[disgustinganimals]

What *can’t* we learn from looking to the wisdom of nature?

Here’s one

[goawfma]

this ^^^^

[strengthins0lidarity]

Medical diversity is key.

[ace-and-aro-wlw-positivity]

Hey y’all, with Asexual Awareness Week coming up (Oct 21-27th this year) here are a few things to remember!

• Asexuals are part of the LGBTQ+ community

• Asexuality is real

• Aces can choose not to celebrate/participate in any way

• Aces have every right to be proud of their identity

• Aces are lgbt+ regardless of their romantic orientation.

• Aces aren’t “basically straight” or any other complaint exclusionists have

• Asexuality is an orientation just like any other as well as a spectrum

• Greysexuals, Demisexuals, Cupiosexual, etc are all valid and also have a right to celebrate this week

• Ace Men exist

• Nonbinary Aces exist

• Not every Ace is Cis

• Exclusionists/Gatekeepers/etc are not welcome here

• AroAces exist

• Ace WLW exist

• Ace MLM exist

• Ace nblnb / nblm / nblw exist

• Poc Aces exist

• Disabled Aces exist

• Mentally ill Aces exist

• There are Aces of many different races/genders/ages/religions/etc

• Whether you’re an Ace still struggling with their orientation or an Ace who’s proud, or any other type of Ace, Asexual Awareness Week is for you and you’re valid regardless.

Feel free to add on!

[ramen-tumbleweed-deactivated202]

Some aces are sexually active

Nothing in the past “made” them asexual

Aces won’t “change” when they have sex

[bnhabbraeee]

thank you

[shiny-jolteons]

usagi’s room

[starlightandtears]

Hmmm let’s learn to tell people that we’re upset with why we’re upset with them instead of being passive aggressive and expecting them to guess. Let’s learn to healthily communicate our anger/disappointment instead of dragging things out over days and weeks and breaking our own hearts and spiraling when people can’t read our minds and take the steps we think appropriate to reconcile the conflict.

Our moods are not as obvious as we think they are.

[kayvsworld]

my body, tearfully: when sleep???

me: my dude we just woke up!! It’s time for wakefulness and doing things and Productivity

my body, weeping: but???? when sleep?????

[animalwoonz]

[princesstigerbelle]

A workin man

[990000]

laurajanegrace

[matzahball]

I bought a bunch of bananas and I’ve caught Cleo staring at them every day since

[matzahball]

Update: I took the last one and now she wants to know where her bananas went

[drtanner]

Contemplate the banane.

[localstarboy]

“wyd after work”

sleeping for work tomorrow

[left-reminders]

[k-eke]

Relax and have a spoopy massage.

[princesstigerbelle]

Bless you for making this @k-eke

[worriednerd]

(Apologies for the shit cropping)

I made two sets of chest harnesses and the second set i added extra straps to make mthwm into suspenders. It was actually fairly easy and im super proud of how they turned out. The harness with the reflective buckle was worn to folsom, it is my favourite by far. Im eager to make more.

[glumshoe]

I am grateful for headphones for allowing me to listen to songs on repeat forty times without completely maddening other people.

[misgenderisms-deactivated202010]

A lesbian power move is respecting trans women and shunning terfs

[misgenderisms-deactivated202010]

youre so goddamn right and i am a FOOL

[l-e-s-b-o-t]

Me: I don’t have a type. 

*5 minutes later: after evaluating all the people I’ve ever had a crush on* 

Me: Okay, I guess I have a type.