Today I Write

[leighlew3]

[writefrommymat]

I did not do New Year’s resolutions

I’m not doing ‘new year new me’

But I am determined to continue that path of getting my life together, again, because it’s an ongoing project that really never ends.

I know many people are embarking on their own get it together year, and I just want to warn you that you will, and you will feel great, and you will get things done you never thought you could, then life will happen. It might be a flu, it might be a family emergency, it could be a work or school issue, and it isn’t always your direct issue but it will affect you. It will result in stacked up dishes and late deadlines and time at the car repair or any of a limitless number of things.

You may feel like you failed, but you didn’t. That’s life. It’s life for everyone. The point in getting things ready and staying on top of things is that when this thing happens you will be better able to juggle it all.

Everything you do today is one less thing to do tomorrow is wrong too. You will have to do the majority of things over and over and over. You can do all the dishes in the home on Monday and Monday evening and Tuesday morning people will eat and you will have to do them all over again. That also doesn’t mean you failed, it will take less time to do the new stack than doing all of them. You’ll run out of meals and order in, skip workouts, and have to clean the backlog again. That’ normal, it’s ok, and you are still doing great.

I thought that little things at a time was a good approach, focus on a thing, one area of life, one chore, something, and then move to the next when that has been conquered. That did not work for me at all! So now, I’m doing an all at once approach. I am addressing the things that bug me most about each part of my life all at the same time and it will all come together. However, I am still doing the small things approach. 5 minute tasks when I have that long, 2 minute tasks when I don’t, and lists of tiny things to do each day. They stack, they take so little time, and they make a huge difference when I’m at the end of the list.

I’m sharing for a little personal accountability, in case anyone else finds themselves in a similar situation and wants ideas to dig out or just to feel less alone, and because I need to keep writing to keep moving. It’s in my blood, it makes me stronger, braver, and smarter.

[writefrommymat]

If you could read a story from the point of view of a small child to gain insight to how they see the world, would you?

The goal is to help new parents and siblings, even those going into child care, to understand more the way small children think in order to better respond to their needs and wants. Those who have read them enjoyed them, and they are written as children’s books to encourage reading to your children. They are a bit silly, a but fun, and always end happily.

[writefrommymat]

Sometimes I don’t feel like a writer

Then I spend an entire Friday morning procrastinating and planning an entirely new project instead of working on any of the WIPs I already have that need attention.

Maybe I do fit in after all!

[writefrommymat]

Tiny Task Tuesday was a success!!

I finished almost my entire list and extras, and now on this lovely Wednesday I have done very little else.

Friendly reminder that rest days and periods, actual rest not thinking of everything you didn’t do, is also productive and necessary. It gives you the focus and energy to finish your tasks quickly and efficiently.

Moving from day to day it is key to have down time, productive time, and to remember that as fast as things are changing now, they may change again just as quickly, and good things might be just around the corner. As long as I remind myself of this, and ask what if instead of everything being out of reach what if everything is possible, I can tackle another day.

[writefrommymat]

Today, in my Get Stuff Done goal, I declare the first official Tiny Tasks Tuesday!!

I made a huge list of tiny things, each taking less than 2 minutes start to finish.

When people ask how I get so much done this is how. Each task is small enough to do quickly, even on the way to another room for something else. They add up so quickly though, each little thing adds to the larger results.

Today’s Tiny Tasks include: tie up the garbage bags so they can be taken out, take out the garbages, and replace the bags. One step at a time ! Unload the dishwasher then load it as we go. Fold the clean towels in the dryer (yup, I forgot them there yesterday, but they are clean and dry so still a win!). I will also tidy my bathroom counter, clean and charge my toothbrush, fill my clean water cup, and feed the pet.

There are probably 15 items on my list and I’ll add as I go, taking of things I can delegate. Creating at least one post and writing one for my other project is on my list, so I’m going to start by crossing this off.

Enjoy your day, remember to rest, and do a tiny task

[writefrommymat]

Walking the line between falling to their level while not being mistreated can be a difficult balance.

If you say nothing, nothing changes, but if you react as thy would you aren’t happy with yourself and how it affects you.

So continue to balance we will, I will, until I can find people who feed my soul rather than drain my energy

I know that the right people are somewhere, and I will build myself a new family who love and support each other, and I will no longer do everything for everyone with nothing in return. I’m tired, and it’s not the tired that sleep fixes, or a weekend of rest, but the kind of tired that only occurs when others are so draining yet offer nothing back.

[writefrommymat]

Small steps

Every month or so I choose a thing that I want to work on, to do better at or learn about. This month I’m working on communicating better. I always want to not bombard people or send extra information they don’t need, but I think that leaves me not confirming enough, not planning enough, and leaving confusion behind. So now, I will work on that.

No New Year’s resolutions here, just doing better one thing at a time.

Previous things that I am still working on in the background from prior months include:

Holding boundaries about discussions I can’t have because they always result in arguments and upset and just don’t really matter

Not inserting myself into situations that do not concern me

Not giving my friends opinions or advice unless asked

Considering myself and my needs and wants as much as I do those of other people

[writefrommymat]

While it is way too early to be worried about being productive, I still feel that guilt of sitting. Just sitting.

Every month, or every few months, I pick a thing to work on, to feel better about, not tasks or jobs or to dos but feelings, patterns, and pressures.

Currently I am working on starting slowly and not feeling guilty about it.

So here I sit, with my Tumblr feed, my coffee, and a podcast at 6am because there are many more hours to do things or feel guilty later.

If I can spend hours of my day doing things for other people, I can spend an hour doing things for me.

[veronicaleighauthor]

[writefrommymat]

I have found, like I’m sure most people, I enjoy change, but I enjoy it when I get to choose and make that change on my own.

Today things are going in such a way that I may be forced into a change, though it is one that I have been considering for an extended period of time. Due to a glitch in the platform I have been using for freelance clients, it may be time to venture back out into my own website, a stable blog, maybe even some advice for managing busy schedules for those who ask me all the time how I do it all.

While I haven’t decided exactly how this will all go, my first move, like many other writers, artists, and creators of all types, is to have moved directly back to Tumblr and start posting. I am sure that I will find my way, and hopeful that I will once again find my community here.

With so many big changes, and since I have been reading incessantly since the new year some book reviews, maybe it’s time for a new hobby too!! Suggestions anyone?

[allthingswhumpyandangsty]

please please please please reblog if you’re a writer and have at some point felt like your writing is getting worse. I need to know if I’m the only one who’s struggling with these thoughts

[netherworldpost]

“Why should rich people pay more” because fuck ‘em

“So you are okay for paying more when you have money” I am not excluded from ‘fuck ‘em’ when relevant

[pedulum-chronometry]

“I am not excluded from ‘fuck ‘‘em’ when relevant” is surprisingly powerful as both a statement and philosophy

[ad-wills]

writers and artists will go "this isn't good enough." my brother in christ, you're creating something new out of nothing and expressing yourself creatively. your productivity and unrealistic standards of perfection do not define you or the worth of your art. you're doing great.

[escapismsworld]

Van Gogh Sunflower Exhibition 🌻

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