I watched the new Jessicur video on the rqc, and it’s so gross to me.
(not direct quotes, please watch the video yourself and gain your own opinion.)
added before Im less frantic emotionally:
this video portrays the rqc as this hive mind or like we're all form the same cookie-cutter. yes, their are stereotypes, every community has them (examples: 'UwU t4t gay trans men' , '2000+ xeno weirdo did faker' , etc. I don't support stereotypes but those are common ones I've seen.). the video has a multitude of misinformation. it boils down the community to seem bad, when you can do that to every community, just like how every community has it's rotten eggs or bad apples.
the video also treats all radqueers like their little kids (I also mention this in my other section on my opinion, this one is more based around the whole video & less of my opinion). it severally infantilizes half the community then demonizes the other half, with little to no in-between.
it also acts like all transids (which in fact, does include transgender), are all harmful or harm based identities. when that is simply a subsection to the transit umbrella.
for antis or other none radqueers who want to have a RESPECTFULL and CIVIL conversation, please continue to read thks whole post in case your question or thoughts might be answered. if they are not, their is a list of rules, read those as their at the bottom of this post, once read and understood feel free to ask questions or for clarification.
“Why would you like, want to be abused?” (speaking on conabuse & transharmful) - that’s not your place to criticize. if someone wants a conabuse relationship, then that’s their choice. If two bodily adults consent then why do YOU care, it’s not your responsibility to play the savior for someone else. this also goes for CNC, or other transharmful identities.
let me not forget to add, transNazis are usually N.I.Ns, or none ideological nazis. plus most transnazis I’ve seen were Jewish (aka one of the biggest victims to original nazis).
“it’s like a cult” - cults have leaders. plus any community can be called a cult based of Jessis words.
“They groom people into it” - many have given their opinion on how they found the community and found that they weren’t afraid to be themselves.
“as a vic of sa […]” (referring to TransRapist , TransGroomer , etc) - I’m a victim of sexual assault, child molestion, grooming, bullying, harrasment and so much more, I think that just saying your a ‘victim of something’ is fucking stupid. if you can’t just share your thoughts and opinions on a matter without feeling the need to ‘prove’ you know what your talking about, I don’t care. honestly I don’t. the only time I wanna know your experience is if it’s related to the medical field, or other sciences where first hand experience is needed. that also being said, who cares about someone else’s identity if it’s not hurting someone.
"proship & darkship are different / same" (watch the video for a correct quote) - technically no. this point includes misinformation. darkship falls under proship. if your darkship then your proship, but if your proshio your not admittedly darkship.
you want to know what’s actually fucked up to me? That I’m terrified that I might be killed, assaulted or doxxed for wanting the world to be more accepting and less oppressive. watching the video, I had an insane sense of dread, I’m worried I might be harrased for something as stupid as a label.
if you want to truly call being radqueer a cult, then you should say the same for every other community as well. lgbtq? well it must be a cult since they say to accept your sexuality & gender, must be a cult because many lgbtq spaces offer comfort to queer folk, must be a cult because minors and adults happen to interact. See who fucking stupid that idea is.
what’s also worse is the video acts like all radqueers are these little kids who can’t think for themselves and MUST be victims. when most I’ve seen are older teenagers looking to have a place of comfort (which many communities have this factor), and theirs nothing wrong with looking for a place we’re your not fucking scared of being harassed and sent death threats for simply being YOURSELF.
I was more miserable pretending to be someone I am not, then when I stumbled across the rqc and felt safe. I’m often SCARED to speak about me gender identity because it’s “to complicated” to the ‘normal queer individuals’ (ie: Im multigender) , im often scared to be open about my kinks because their taboo & ‘gross’ (all of which, are things I would consent to & never, NEVER force someone to see or do), im scared to be open about my own disorders because I personally think I should have full body autonomy & that me starving myself is my problem (many people think it’s ’your boy, my choice’ or think people shouldn’t allowed to do things to their OWN BODY).
this community has also made my pedophilic thoughts of myself actually lessen, because I used to think I was some whore who deserved it (edit to add context: pedophilic thoughts about myself being raped and groomed from the ages 2-14, most thoughts being about the times when I was 2 & 6 and was molested). But with so many conversations on consent, self image, and acceptance. I grown to understand that I shouldn’t see myself like that. And I finally felt normal, to the point that those thoughts are relatively gone in that sense, though I now channel the lingering feelings and emotions of being upset into sexual feelings were I can let off that emotion in a positive and healthy way (ie: fauxcest sexual relations).
I was overjoyed to find a space where I could be open and honest, im not fully open about myself yet because I’m still afraid of judgement, not because I think radqueers will judge, but because after being told I’m disgusting & deserve to KILL MYSELF for my identities, that fear lingers, and videos like this continues the cycle of forcing others to box themselves in because they’ll be good enough for the “normal ones”.
mind you, the “normal ones”, are the ones who have told me I should kill myself, threatened to rape me, and have sent CHILD SEXUAL ASSUALT MATERIAL & ANIMAL ABUSE VIDEOS to radqueers. you are sick of you think the ones who claim to care for children yet don’t actually protect them are the normal ones. Because I’ve seen antis PROTECT OTHER ANTIS WHO SENT THESE BEFORE, I’ve seen more radqueers say that that is fucked up and down right disgusting more then the “NORMAL PEOPLE”.
added because I always have more thoughts:
trying to police others identities is why so many turn to the rqc, I myself being someone who felt that way. sure it's not the only factor, but it's one I've seen. their is many reasons why people might join, it can be because they were groomed into, and those who were I hope they do what they see fit.
weather it's stay because they found that they actually like it, or leave because they didn't want to join to begin with. I won't personally continue to comment on being groomed into the community as theirs not much to say, it's common sense that you shouldn't make someone feel like they have to join a community.
If you want to have civil, and respectful conversation. Then I will be fine with antis interacting under this posts comments, and this post only but their will be rules.
be respectful (no slurs, insults or threats)
share your opinion but keep in mind not everyone will feel the same way.
for serious allegations, show proof to prove your claim.
keep in mind that paraphilies are considered a disorder, and remember other disorders can include paras (ex: pocd)
don’t start arguments or you will just be blocked (ie: keeping a respectful tone)
