a fellow tumblr lesbian

she/they, omnisexual, polyflexible, greyromantic, minor, artist, gaymer, theater kid, anime nerd.

[nblw-nonsense]

This user supports xenic identities and neopronouns. 

[esli-old-thoughts-deactivated20]

When I came out as asexual to two friends, they laughed saying 'such people don't exist', it was hurtful

Reblog if you disagree with them, I'm trying to keep faith in humanity

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

i see a lot of ya’ll self-depreciating over how much you cry and like…generally speaking, crying is a very healthy process. it’s an important means of 

expressing & processing strong emotions

relieving stress

experiencing catharsis 

moving on to a recovery period

this mindset that people just need to train themselves out of crying…that really worries me. bc the alternative is to repress those feelings instead of expressing them…and from firsthand experience i can tell you it is very much not worth doing that. i’ve been there, i’ve done it, i’ve bought into that mindset. i thought it would make me stronger and less vulnerable. instead i fell so out of touch with myself, it took years of therapy for me to learn to identify my own emotions again. i literally forgot how to tell when i’m upset or sad, bc my body had been trained out of expressing it. that’s an extreme scenario but it’s not uncommon, and if you spend too much time criticizing yourself over your own emotions, it can creep up on you.

i like to think we all know how harmful it is to tell children to just “stop crying, dammit.” turns out, the same is true for adults.

 just. please change the mindset that being visibly upset is somehow shameful. if you find yourself crying a lot, that probably means something in your external and internal experiences needs to change: you don’t deserve to feel angry, frustrated, frightened, sad, or upset so frequently that it distresses you. those are only supposed to be sometime emotions. 

but telling yourself to just. stop crying, or to stop feeling what you’re feeling? that’s harmful, and it doesn’t work. no one controls their emotions out of sheer will–at best we shut them down, and then pay heavily for it later. if we want our minds to feel better, we need to give them assistance, not threats. threatening or bullying our bodies and minds to behave the way we want them to will always backfire.

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

also like, it’s a normal bodily function? crying is literally something your body just has to do sometimes, to maintain function? we sweat to cool off, we salivate so we can eat things, and we cry to release oxytocin & endorphins in times of stress. 

it’s normal, it’s healthy, it’s necessary. don’t rob yourself of that

[thegreenpea]

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

let’s talk about the sarcasm switch aka /s

adding /s to the end of a statement is used in many online communities to denote sarcasm

this is useful to people who have trouble reading the tone of a statement without verbal indicators

this especially helps include neurodiverse folks in the conversation! 

this type of slang is based on HTML syntax, and there’s more:

/s  -  sarcastic

/j  -  joking

/srs  -  serious

/hj  -  half joking

and more besides! like emojis, html tone indicators provide important context & clarification to written communication. you can include a wider audience by using them, and autistic readers like me will really appreciate it!

if you already use tone indicators, which are your favorites?

[pichibichi]

please do this! it’s small but it allows so many more people to understand your posts!

[yourfellowgayathiest]

a discord server i’m in has a list of tone-indicators, so i’d thought i’d share it!

/j = joking 

/hj = half-joking 

/ij = inside joke 

/s = sarcasm 

/srs = serious

/p = platonic 

/r = romantic 

/lh = lighthearted 

/neg - /nc = negative connotation 

/pos - /pc = positive connotation 

/rh = rhetorical question 

/gen = genuine 

/hyp = hyperbole 

/c = copypasta 

/lyric(s) or /ly = lyrics of a song 

/f = fake 

/li = literally 

/nm = not mad or upset 

/t = teasing 

/nbh = nobody here (used in vague vents) 

/nsx or /nx = non-sexual intent

the ones i use the most are /j, /lh, /p, /s, and /t

[welcomedhappiness]

Farewell online privacy

[tikalgirl]

What happened?

[welcomedhappiness]

Trump happened.

[pizzaalle]

just get a VPN?

[earth-ruins]

You can’t just tell people to ‘get a VPN (Virtual Private Network)’. Buying a VPN is like buying a house. It’s very very important. Having no VPN or having a ‘wrong’ one can seriously damage your life. Especially for Americans because their privacy laws are garbage. I am going to try explain why you should get a VPN but bare with me, I am from Germany and my English is far from perfect. 

Let’s start with a simple test. Click this link here: https://whatismyipaddress.com/ It will tell your IP adres, your ISP (internet service provider), and your location. The location might not be very accurate, but then again, it’s just a simple website. Imagine what the government can do!

So basically, everyone can find out where you live. But there is more danger. Your ISP. Your ISP logs your every move online and they are required to keep it in case the government wants access to it (or if a 3rd party wants to buy your data (yikes). They have everything. What websites you visit. How long you stay on a website. What you download. Your search terms. European laws are more subtle on this but if you are from the US you are #@*#&, especially because Trump doesn’t support the open internet. It’s scary but maybe in the future you can’t get a job because the recruiter knows your searched on ‘how to deal with depression’ or anythings else that’s supposed to be private because it’s your f*cking right. Or you get a $100k fine because you pirated a movie 15 years ago. You need a VPN. You’re dumb for not using one. but what does a VPN do?

A VPN encrypts all your data so if it were be intercepted no one can ‘crack the code’ and damage your privacy. 

Usually being online goes like this (simplified): Your computer —-> ISP (—–> keeps data —–> sells it)

But with a VPN it goes like: Your computer —–> VPN (encrypts data)—–> ISP (ISP can’t see shit)

Furthermore, a VPN hides your IP address and location by giving you another IP address located in Spain for example (you can often choose from a list and change as many times as you want).  

Now that you know why you should get a VPN and what is does it is important to educate yourself because people often choose the wrong VPN. VPN providers are also businesses and have to obey the law. If you choose a VPN provider located in the US then you are throwing your money away because the laws in the US shits on your privacy. If the US gov wants the provider to give all their logs they have to obey.  The ISP  still can’t see what you are doing online and sell your data but the US gov can interfere with your VPN provider so NEVER CHOOSE A PROVIDER LOCATED IN THE US. 

I just wanted to make that very clear so my followers don’t buy false security.

There is still more danger!  Who says your VPN provider isn’t selling your data? You need to check their logging policy. Do they keep logs? If yes, what for? For how long do they keep them? Tip: Choose a provider who doesn’t keep logs

More about law  The US is part of the Five Eyes program (the worst):  

The Five Eyes, often abbreviated as FVEY, is an intelligence alliance comprising Australia, Canada, New Zealand, the United Kingdom and the United States. These countries are bound by the multilateral UKUSA Agreement, a treaty for joint cooperation in signals intelligence (source)

There is also a Nine Eyes (bit better) and Fourteen Eyes Program (better).  You don’t want a VPN provider who is located in one the Five Eyes countries.  If you had to choose go for a provider located in a country that’s part of the Fourteen Eyes Program or even better, go for a country that isn’t part of any program! 

I know this is a shitty explanation and please pardon my english but now it’s time to do your own research. Take your privacy seriously. Maybe WWIII breaks out and you get killed for liking the ‘wrong’ FB-page.  

Go to this website: https://thatoneprivacysite.net/simple-vpn-comparison-chart/

Make sure that your future VPN provider both has green boxes for Privacy Jurisdiction and Privacy Logging. 

I recommend ovpn.se and trust.zone. ovpn is located in Sweden so they are part of the 14 Eyes Program and they keep minimal logs. Their business ethics, however, are alright. 

Trustzone is located in the Seychelles. No country can interfere and their privacy jurisdiction is the best you can get. The US want your data but needs to get it from Trustzone? The Seychelles will simply give them the finger and wave them goodbye. However, this makes this provider very appealing for people who torrent and criminals because they keep no logs (and that is how it shoud be) Also,  there are almost no marketing efforts so this provider is one the cheapest)

Also, often providers such as ExpressVPN are being called ‘The Best’ on websites about VPNs but know that this is just marketing which also makes those provider more expensive (and they too shit on your privacy)

This must be the worst article you have ever read but please, please take your privacy very seriously.

EDIT: I got many people asking me which provider I use. For those who want to know, I use Trust Zone. They offer a free 3-day trial with no strings attached. But still do your own research! 

[writing-prompt-s]

I am also with Trustzone but I think you forgot to explain one of it’s most important features. It protects you when you are using someone else’s Wi-Fi. If you are at Starbucks and you use their Wi-Fi your privacy is at risk. Anyone with ill intentions could steal your information. Especially if you are using an unsecured Wi-Fi hotspot. With a VPN your data gets encrypted so no one can steal it. 

[rabbittiddy]

Wait, what’s going, on? Did trump destroy internet privacy with a bill or something? Where’s the news? Oh wait, why am I getting visions of Alex Jones and selling water purifiers?

[thecrystalfems]

He hasn’t yet but he says he wants to. And if he is serious about it it would be really easy to do. Since all our data is already recorded, as the person above explained.

[coltrer]

Trump wants more surveillance of Muslim Americans. This in a country where internet privacy is already close to non-existent. 

Trust.Zone has a free trial. Use it. 

btw this post only has 11k notes? That’s quite disappointing for something this important. 

Don’t reblog this post to save a life. Reblog this to protect an entire family!

[imthedoctor12]

@earth-ruins @writing-prompt-s Should I get trustzone for my mobile device?

[writing-prompt-s]

If you use public Wi-Fi, then yes. Which VPN you use is up to you, amigo. Take @earth-ruins advice. Do your own research first. 

[writing-prompt-s]

@elvesfromthedeep​ just brought the current situation in the US to my attention (March 30, 2017). 

Sources

Anger as US internet privacy law scrapped 

Congress just voted to let internet providers sell your browsing history 

To all my friends in the US, please read this entire post. Making everyone aware of VPNs is going to be my mission. Your privacy matters. Please reblog this post.

[greeneyespurpleheart]

Don’t tell me you just wanted to scroll past this. Stop looking at pictures of cats for a moment, okay? Don’t you realize how important this is? This is dangerous! ‘America, the best FREE country in the world’ my ass.

With this new law your ISP can sell your Internet history which could include passwords, usernames, religion, credit card numbers, race and much more to the highest bidder. So here is what I want you to do. You are going to read the whole thing and before you think ’this is so important. Let me reblog this real quick and go back to admiring cats again-’ NO! Don’t reblog this. Take action first. Then reblog. Sign up for a free trial! Trust.Zone offers one (here). Yes. It might be difficult to set up a VPN for some people. But is that going to stop you from protecting yourself and your family? 30 minutes. 30 minutes is all that it takes. 5 if you know how to install software. The problem with some of you is that you see ‘difficult’ as something negative. I want you to see difficult differently. I need you to push through this stuff. You are going to protect yourself. There is nothing negative about that. VPNs are fun and costsaving too! A VPN bypasses geographical restrictions so you can access websites you normally can’t or you could start Netflix’s one month free trial over and over again- forever. And it’s legal! (unless you use it to buy weapons etc.,) Don’t tell yourself that you are too tired and that you will do this tomorrow. Because that isn’t going to happen and you know it. You have to do this right now. You only have to click on it. Don’t let this/shit/life just happen to you. Take yourself seriously. Get a VPN.

Privacy is not a privilege, it’s a fundamental human right

[tthatonefangirl-deactivated2019]

Ok sorry that it’s so freaking long and also sorry for the language, but this is extremely important. Please reblog!

[li-ionsandtigersandbears]

Reblogging again bc this is important

[clementinn]

We have a VPN you should get one too

[theesirenofthevoid]

Please read.

[bae-in-maine]

Can you get them for your phones?

[kika-lei]

^ you can. & when you have a subscription you can use it on your phone and computer. no need for separate subs or purchases.

it is absolutely so important for safety. but one of my fave things to do with my vpn is access non-US netflix. I mean other places have all the new good place eps, all the ‘classic’ bggo eps…

[i-cant-remember-who-i-am-deacti]

IMPORTANT

[mostoriginalusername-deactivate]

financial help for indigenous, queer, disabled, fat girl leaving dangerous abusive home situation 🙏🏼💛🗣

Hey everyone…I’m not usually one to post out this kind of thing, but if anyone wants to help me out I had to leave home due to an abusive situation. I felt trapped and couldn’t get out but finally did and my parent keeps trying to trap me and force me to come back by controlling my finances, movements, and contact for years. I grew up without much money and my parents won’t support me without ultimatums and the opportunity to abuse me. Any assistance would be welcome. thx so much!!! Wliwni!

If you want you can consider it reparations.

If you don’t trust me I’d be willing to share a photo of my tribal id for proof just don’t want it out publicly for safety.

UPDATE: Thank you to everyone who has helped me thus far, but I’ve only made a small amount. It was enough to get me some food. I have an actual goal amount now I’m trying to reach… ~ $250 to pay for a hotel to stay at for a couple weeks until I can figure out where to go in case college campus closes. 

PAYPAL: kimballofficial    

VENMO: kimballofficial01

CASHAPP: kimballofficial01

KO-FI: ko-fi.com/averagecollegemetis

I appreciate the couple of you who have donated so far and am extremely grateful! And have seen lots of people reposting this, which is so sweet. However, I haven’t gotten much in the way of results moneywise.

[mostoriginalusername-deactivate]

I’ve made $80/$250 of my goal yall! The donations on this post have stalled so I’m re-releasing it. Please signal boost or donate if you can!

[mostoriginalusername-deactivate]

I’m at $105/$250! Thanks everyone who has donated so far please I’m very grateful, but my deadline is approaching though.

[mostoriginalusername-deactivate]

I’m at $110/$250!

[mostoriginalusername-deactivate]

I just got my schedule for my last two jobs, and one is only putting me on two days a week, and the other isn’t putting me back on the schedule. I barely have any income now, and due to COVID-19 my state just locked down again so I can’t even go out to find another job, let alone one that will allow me to work.

The funds for my move are due in 12 days…Please keep donating y’all, the post has pretty much died and I keep trying to get it out there. If it’s just $1 or $5 or so anything helps. If not, please reblog and signal boost.

[mostoriginalusername-deactivate]

I’m at $155/$250!

[mostoriginalusername-deactivate]

I haven’t gotten anything else, and I’m over halfway done with my goal! Any other help would be greatly appreciated. 9 more days left.

[pygmypouter]

mitski i am so stoned and crying

[lichen-punk]

hey i’ve been seeing this implied a lot in trans support posts so i wanna make it clear: binding and tucking are not equivalent

i know that to an outsider eye they may seem similar—they’re both trans things where you wear a special garment that squishes you into a shape you want to be.

but binding consists of compressing the breast tissue against the chest to flatten ones silhouette. it is not without its risks, ofc, but when done properly is not innately permanently damaging. tucking, by comparison, usually consists of pushing the testicles up into the body via inguinal canals and then holding them in place. it can be incredibly painful, and even if done correctly can cause an inguinal hernia (an injury in which the intestines actually protrude down into the scrotum, which, left untreated, can be fatal) and other injuries.

conflating the two hurts transmascs and transfems alike, especially younger trans people. it hurts transfems by normalising tucking and minimising it’s dangers. i’ve seen “tucking resources” and how-tos on lists of tips for transfem children. arguably nobody should be encouraged to tuck, but to encourage children to do something so painful and potentially life threatening so that they “pass” better is just unacceptable. and it hurts transmascs by making binding sound scarier! binding is not particularly dangerous or painful if done right, and the idea that it carries similar risks to tucking is an old terf myth to scare transmascs out of transtitioning

the fact that transfems are EVER expected to go through such pain and even risk our lives just to hide the natural shape of our bodies is despicable, but if you absolutely must encourage tucking in your resource posts please PLEASE make it clear that it carries serious risks and trade-offs that binding simply does not

[lichen-punk]

@socksmaybe only just saw this tag but yes!!! using tucking to refer to any shaping of the crotch area is an equally harmful conflation to make, as it both normalises actual tucking and makes gaffs/compression underwear seem scarier! same fucken problem!!

gaffs/compression underwear are garments you wear which, unsurprisingly, compress your external genitals and flatten out your silhouette. they can be worn with your genitals tucked as described above, but also can be worn as is, operating on more of the mechanics of a binder, and will make most folks as flat as they need to be without tucking.

[lichen-punk]

reblog this version actually

[creolesasuke]

I've been debating on whether or not to make a donation post since I have Incredible Shame™ but seeing as I'm now apparently able to get more than 6,000 notes on a post I think it's worth a shot. So the short of the matter is this: I'm a nb black gay person from Louisiana whose looking to eventually go back to school full-time to study math and biophysics, but I have a some loans that I need to pay off before I'm able to do so. Also just like in general any help that anyone is able to give is much appreciated. This isn't like dire or anything so don't feel panicked but I would like to set a goal of about $4,000.00 by next July 2021.

What I can offer: I'm a math major, so I'm able to offer math tutoring ($20hr) and homework help/solutions ($15hr or $15 per page for solutions). Also like....if some of y'all are coin'd't uhp I could also just use money like....in general 🥺🥺🥺. Thanks for anyone who reblogs and MERCI BEAUCOUP to anyone who is able to give money 💖

EDIT: WOW I LITERALLY forgot to include my cashapp too dumb to function 🤪 $creolesasuke

[long-ago-1234567890]

anyway attack on titan is nazi propaganda and i dont trust ppl who like it, and as a Jew™ and general decent person i have the fucking right to say i hate snk and fans of it on my own blog

[long-ago-1234567890]

also hetalia (i dont feel the need to link a source for that one since it is literally called axis powers hetalia and one of the main characters is a personification of nazi germany)

[princecupcake]

hi there, i hope its okay that i add onto this! i am a korean jew and i think its important to state that attack on titan also glorifies japans history of oppressing korea. the source emma provided also goes further into detail about this if anyone wants to know more

tysm for this post because snk makes me so uncomfortable, and not a lot of people realize what it is

[naradreamscape]

Attack on Titan’s author believes in eugenics and thinks Korean people aren’t even human; I can’t ever understand why someone would want to support the work of a guy like this

[marsfriend]

the post linked in the first part was deleted – here’s an archived version of it

[lostmyurl]

Can non Jews reblog? Because this is kinda a Big Deal

[prismatic-bell]

OP didn’t answer (at least not on this version of the thread), but I would say yes, gentiles absolutely should reblog. Lack of knowledge is what allows this shit to grow unchecked.

[littlekidsteve]

… OH my 😮

[mamapluto]

Bringing this back since 2020 is the worst and Axis Powers has been confirmed to be coming back. These aren’t a case of death of the author/being able to separate artist from their work. The ENTIRE POINT of these is advocating for eugenics, racial fetishization/superiority, fascism, and nazi sympathizing. This isn’t “Man, hetalia fans were so cringe with their constant rape jokes and general annoying behavior both irl and online” this is “hey, we’re experiencing a global rise in fascism + concentration camps, maybe AXIS POWERS is not just a problematic fave but actually harmful nazi sympathizing garbage”???

[myselfsquared]

Collected my two Cynthis animations (so far) in one post ✨👀 I’m trying to get more Cynthis content made and reblogs are really appreciated!

Click here for more Cynthis posts.

👉 Follow me on Instagram or other social media 

[myselfsquared]

(I really appreciate the reblogs!!)

[guccikadearts]

I have no idea what this is or who you are but cotton candy boy is fantastic and the animation is amazing

HOLD ON LOOKED AGAIN IS HE TRANS?? OMG I LOVE THIS MAN EVEN MORE NOW 💞

[myselfsquared]

HI, I AM ALEX, I AM VERY HAPPY YOU LIKE MY ANIMATION, I LOVE THIS CHARACTER!

AND YES, YES HE IS ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ 

[failed-the-vibecheck]

This is amazing omg

[myselfsquared]

@failed-the-vibecheck THANK YOU ❤️ ✨

[alwaysblind]

“your full name without an E,F,R,S,K,I,M,L,C,A,Y,N”

[hopefulmachine]

u hg

[art-rmlb]

[aroace-avenue]

Aro slogans?

I don't know if slogan is the right word. But I'm looking for aro phrases, rallying cries, that sort of thing.

There's only a few I can think of. But I want more! Bonus points for the angry aro ones!

Current list:

"I'm a fighter, not a lover"

"Destroy amatonormativity"

"Love doesn't make me whole"

Heard of any more? Got suggestions for other ones?

[aro-roses]

inspired by @littleladynightshade

Are the flames a bit too much? (/hj) I'm kinda proud of them actually

Is it okay that I made these?

[aroace-avenue]

I love these!!!

[Image descriptions: first image is a green bow and an arrow in aro colours. The text reads "im a fighter not a lover". The second is a face mask with the aro flag on it. Above the mask is "love is in the air" and on the mask it says "wear a mask". The third is flames in aro colours and says "destroy amatonormavity"]

[aroace-avenue]

@aro-roses can i use the destroy amatonormativity one as my blog header?

[yourfellowgayathiest]

no romo is one i see a lot

[butchfatty-deactivated20210203]

My femme needs a root canal for her cracked tooth and cavities. and is in *a lot* of pain. The earliest they can get her in is the 20th of January which gives us just a little time to get the 2500 needed to pay for the surgery.

Please donate and reblog if you can I want to make sure she gets this procedure as soon as possible so the problem doesn’t get worse and she is not in pain any longer than she has to be.

PayPal: [email protected]

Cash app: $alcarpenter02

Venmo: acarpenter02

[butchfatty-deactivated20210203]

We’re about half way to 1/5 funded the closer we can get to the full goal the more likely it is we’ll be able to keep the appointment please keep reblogging and helping if you can even a dollar is helpful

[butchfatty-deactivated20210203]

I know this has a fair amount of notes but as of 12/27/20 we still need *a lot* of help. Please keep reblogging and/or donating

[butchfatty-deactivated20210203]

Update: We are close to 2/5 funded!!! I am beyond grateful and I want to thank each person who has reblogged or donated it means so much to us

[diekingdomcome]

This blog supports plus size women having healthy sex lives and not being sexualized or fetishized.

[domidextrus]

Remember: Once the clock turns over to 2021, all Flash functionality on every browser will be permanently killed. If you want to still be able to play Flash games or watch Flash animations that haven’t been preserved in a non-SWF format, go install Newgrounds Player. It works for both online-hosted and downloaded SWFs. I’ve provided a link to it in the source below, since putting a link in the post itself will keep posts like these from showing up in tags and search results.

For Homestar Runner stuff, HRWiki.org has direct links to all the animations and games. Just replace the “html” with “swf” in the URL when loading them in Newgrounds Player and you should be good to go.

[primesonic]

https://www.newgrounds.com/flash/player