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Here’s a chance to change some black trans lives

Saw this on facebook and am keeping the momentum going. I’ve copied all the fundraiser links below, and here’s the link to the original post in case you’d prefer to look at the list that way.

Help me get home, please! $1,729/10,000 《《 high priority

Gender Fluid Human In Need Of Help $1,670/3,500

Adopted Trans Woman seeking safety & medical help $17,085/29,000

Shane’s Top Surgery $2,101/7,750 《《 this one has been up for over a year and he’s still waiting

Help J Remove Themselves from Toxic Household $1,372/2,500 《《 needs more contributions

Grace Mwangi’s Gender Confirmation Surgery $2,986/38,000

Nyne’s top surgery $2,943/8,000

Help Grayson start transition $1,201/2,000 《《 keep this going!

Skyler’s Transition Fund €458/3,000 《《 needs more contributions

Londynn’s New Life $8,828/15,000

NYIEMÄ’S GENDER CONFIRMATION FUND $8,770/37,000

Zoeys transition fund £4,224/10,000

Supporting Black Trans Elders cashapp $fakerapper $16,397/100,000

Top Surgery For Yadriel Acazio $1,817/11,000 《《 this one needs a boost

Coco’s Medical Transition Fund $3,430/15,000

Maya’s Transition & Recovery Fund $1,987/35,744 《《 needs more contributions

Help Create Corbyn $1,943/4,000

Flora’s Transition Fund $800/5,000 《《 needs more contributions

Amina Transition And Rent Fund €3,437/5,000

Help Guilly Get Top Surgery!! $3,070/7,500

Atticus’ homeless fund $5,598/10,000

HOUSING FOR TRANS WOMEN OF COLOR $7,553/60,000

Ahren’s Top Surgery $3,961/7,500

Malakai’s Top Surgery $1,119/10,000 《《 needs more contributions

Top Surgery $7,675/8,000 《《 so close; let’s close the gap!

Phoenix gotta move! $987/45,000 《《 needs more contributions

Kiana’s Gender Transition $2,140/35,000

Jacobs top surgery $6,870/8,000

Skye’s Top Surgery $2,037/8,500

Hunter’s Top Surgery $4,805/12,000 《《 time sensitive, get this funded before September!

Alexandria’s Transition fund $3,562/40,000

Myles’s Tracheal Shave Procedure $2,980/8,450

Zeke’s Top Surgery Fund $4,469/9,000

help koo start a new life $1,154/25,000 《《 needs more contributions

Landon’s Top Surgery! $950/2,000 《《 it’s a small goal, but so vital to covering what insurance doesn’t

Donate to Myla’s Breast Augmentation $1,992/6,000

Vanessa L. Naisha needs support to seek justice! $14,588/15,000 《《 so close! Let’s close the final gap

Travis’ Transition Fund $15,435/30,000

Disabled Enby Needing Help For Top Surgery! $2,672/8,500 《《 NEEDS FUNDING BEFORE AUGUST 4TH

Tyler’s Transition Fund $13,285/30,000

Clarabelle’s Gender Affirmation Surgery $10,637/20,000

help deluca get top surgery ! $4,907/7,000

Help Black Trans Woman Transition $18,495/20,700

Wriply’s surgery/ continued living fund $8,642/26,520 《《 this one has been up since 2018. I found Wriply’s socials and she’s still active, still waiting. Let’s get this fulfilled

Help a black trans woman w/ advanced cancer in ATL $21,826/25,000 《《 keep the momentum going

Help Harmony, a Black Trans Woman Survive $7,676/20,000

Help a black trans-man get FTM top surgery! $6,069/15,000

Malikais Top Surgery $4,097/7,500

Finn’s Therapy & Wellness Fund $2,960/7,000

Kyo’s (aka Key) Transition Fund $13,514/25,000

Transition Funds for Dallas $6,790/15,000

Help a Black Trans Woman from homelessness $6,606/8,000 《《 let’s get this goal met asap

Bottom Surgery and Electrolysis $6,329/40,000

Noelle’s Breast Augmentation $11,155/13,000

Aeri’s Moving Out & Transition Fund $14,859/20,000 《《 more than halfway; keep it going

SAVE A TEENAGE TRANSMAN’S LIFE $4,520/25,000

Cody’s Top Surgery $2,628/7,000

Help Kit get Top Surgery $1,820/6,000

Help Erika Begin Her Transition $4,433/10,000

I will periodically update the progress amounts. As the goals are met, I’ll mark them as funded and change the colors from green to pink to make it clear. I’m also tagging the ones that could use more attention with red.

Been hearing a lot about “reparations” lately? Well, this is one way to start working towards that, since those in power certainly won’t.

This one has an urgent deadline, August 4th ⬇️

https://gf.me/u/x8y8ak

Disabled Enby Needing Help For Top Surgery! organized by Atlas Raymond Ursen

Short Summary:I am an individual non-binary pansexual guy who has bee… Atlas Raymond Ursen needs your support for Disabled Enby Needing Hel

[yourlgbtfriends]

Some Haircut tips for trans men and/or transmasculine people!

Hello everyone, it’s mod Jay! I thought I’d share some helpful tips I’ve collected for those looking to get a more masculine-styled haircut! I’ve done plenty of trial and error myself, so these are based both on my own experiences and from anecdotes of other trans men and transmasculine people. These apply mostly for short hair. If anyone would like help finding tips for other hairstyles, don’t be afraid to reach out, I’d be glad to help!

Buzzed or very very short (Furiosa-esque) hair can often have the opposite effect that people are looking for—While the cut itself is seen as masculine, it can make a more rounded, feminine face seem even more rounded and feminine. It brings more attention to the shape of your head. Of course the results will vary from person to person (I was gendered correctly (he/him) several times with this cut), but I advise to be prepared for whatever the results may be. Don’t fret, though—It will always grow back!

The most common haircuts tend to be undercuts (short/buzzed on the sides and longer on the top). I find this cut to be very good for framing and squaring out the face. To really discern this style as masculine, here are some things to ask your stylist for:

The bottom hairline at the nape of your neck should be squared or faded, not rounded. Rounded hair tends to be more feminine, while a squared or faded hairline tends to be masculine.

If you wish to part your hair, ask for a permanent part. This means the stylist will edge in a line with a razor where the part in your hair should be. This part will usually separate the longer top section of your hair from the shorter side section. After I got this myself, I noticed it immediately seemed more masculine than any other hairstyle I had before.

Ask to have your sideburns squared off. Tapered sideburns tend to lean more feminine, where as a squared off sideburn gives more of an illusion of the separation between your hair and a beard line like many men have.

As frustrating as it is, unnaturally colored hair (blue, green, purple, etc) tends to be a divisive factor between passing and not passing. Of course, go for colored hair if you so wish, I’ve personally had my fair share of the rainbow, but if passing as a guy is a major priority for you it may not be within your best interest.

These are the few tips I’ve managed to amass! I’ll certainly be looking around for more, and if anyone else has more suggestions don’t hesitate to send them in! I as well as many others would love to hear! ~Mod Jay ✌🏽

[classicsapphics-inactive]

your respect for trans women should not depend on how femininely they present.

[passionfruitandvelvet]

After I came out as bi a few years ago, a fellow Chinese American asked me, “so does this mean you want to be like white people?”

As QTBIPOC, a form of LGBTQA-phobia we often face is from our own ethnic groups, who believe that queer = foreign.

Yet when we delve into our histories, we see that nothing could be further than the truth. In many of our cultures, before Western influence, our queerness was ANCIENT. ✨

[a-trans-comic-by-me]

March 31 2020 - Happy Trans Day of Visibility!

[ghostly-ghouls]

Just like quite a few people, I really want a Switch Lite and Animal Crossing, so I'm opening commissions

I'll do OCs, characters from fandoms, as well as almost anything else you throw at me!

The only things I wont do are:

•Anything even remotely NSFW (I'm a minor)

•Mecha

•Extreme Gore

•Anything related to Vivziepop

•And Overly complex designs

I use PayPal! Feel free to dm me if you're interested!!

[mitskism-deactivated20210120]

wholesome thread (src)

[mueritos]

hiya! I figured id make an informational post about the little things ive noticed about being on testosterone that I found weren’t talked about a lot when I was starting my transition and even before when I was doing my research. I think that trans sexual health is an extremely important part of trans peoples lives (and that doesnt necessarily mean sex) seeing as the physical changes that happen during transition are often foreign to us. Sexual health keeps us healthy and comfortable in our bodies, so do your best to stay attentive to your body’s changes! As always, consult your doctor if you feel the need to. These are only tips ive learned from transitioning myself and from my doctor when I asked about certain things.

PATREON

[frompawntoqueen]

Fucking tumblr our here really trying to teach the world things

[girlnumbersix]

hello ladies: update: i am officially homeless. i will be staying with my bf for a few days then hopefully transitioning to a safe house next week. i am very scared and unsure of my future right now but i’m finally away from my abusers. wish me luck :)

[girlnumbersix]

02/29/2020: woke up to ten missed calls from the county sheriffs office! they tried to file a missing persons report against me, but since i’m over 18 they couldn’t. had to speak to an officer and verify that i left of my own free will. then they came to my job trying to find me, thank god i hadn’t clocked in yet and the hospital is so tight on security. my counselor is trying to find me a shelter for next week, we called 211 and they took us on a fucking goose chase—i swear we called 10+ shelters and no luck. starting to freak out. but at least i have somewhere to safe to stay until wednesday. i feel strangely calm sometimes, and for once i don’t have a constant sense of doom and danger in the back of my mind, waiting for the next little thing i do to set them off and hurt me.

[girlnumbersix]

thank you for your kind wishes everyone. obviously my biggest concern is housing, but second to that is transportation (i don’t have a car anymore, or a license). the bay area has a really cohesive transit system that’s very affordable, but not free. my best bet is a monthly clipper card that allows me to take BART, AC Transit and the Cal Train. since i don’t know where i’ll be staying in two days, this would be very, very helpful.

if anyone would like to donate to help me pay for the clipper card, i’d really appreciate it.

housing is a whole other story. the bay area is one of the most expensive places in the country, and the rent reflects that. for a single SHARED room in someone else’s home, the cheapest monthly rent i’ve come across is $850. this is a lot of money, as that’s more than what i make in a whole month at my job. i’m not expecting anyone to cover my rent...but i’m begging for assistance. me and my counselor have been searching for housing, but the shelters we’ve reached out to only serve victims of domestic violence, and since i was hurt by my parents and not my spouse, they’re hesitant to let me take a space. i’m applying for a second and third job to prepare for the worst case scenario.

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rohie daffeh

Venmoing since Apr 2017.

(i also have zelle, which is directly linked to my bank account. i can no longer use cashapp since it is linked to my mothers bank account).

thank you.

[cyberstarlope]

Pride Potions

I’ve wanted to do a series like this for a while and what better time than pride month? From left to right, top to bottom, the flags are, respectively: gay, lesbian, pan, bi, nonbinary, trans, aro, and ace

These are all available for purchase on my redbubble!

[slurptheworms]

Exactly

[aatmenexttime]

Hi, trans male Mental Health Professional here.

What transmeds don’t seem to understand is that in the United States, Gender Dysphoria is the diagnosis in the DSM-V needed to medically transition, but having dysphoria and being transgender are not the same thing.

On page 451 of the DSM V, Transgender is defined as “the broad spectrum of individuals who transiently or persistently identify with a gender other than their natal gender”.

Meanwhile, “Gender dysphoria refers to the distress that may(MAY) acompany the incongruence between one’s experienced or expressed gender and one’s assigned gender. Although not all( NOT ALL) individuals will experience distress as a result of such incongruence many are…”(Again, many, but NOT ALL).

On the next page, there is a set of criteria needed for the diagnosis of Gender Dysphoria for both children, and for adolescents/adults. For adolescents and adults, only 2 of the 6 criteria must be met for a diagnosis.

As you can see, you can identify as another gender, and have a strong desire to be treated as another gender, but you DO NOT need to hate your body parts. It also does not specify that you have to identify as strictly male or female, so non binary people that are dysphoric can transition if they so choose, because they meet the criteria of being transgender as well as having gender dysphoria.

In any case, dysphoria is different for everyone. Some people may think something they experience is not dysphoria, when it actually is. Some trans people may strongly identify as male or female, but not particularly care what their body looks like. For some people, dysphoria changes and becomes more or less severe at certain points of transition. Everyone is different.

Tl;dr, transmeds are saying information that is medically and socially recognized to be false, and are targeting people out of their own ignorance. You do not need to be miserable to identify as a gender that is not the one you were assigned at birth, which is what being transgender is.

It’s not a matter of agreeing or disagreeing, transmeds are wrong.

[midnight-fox-boy]

Fucking read this

[flamerunner]

READ THIS. READ THIS. READ THIS.

[stability]

its almost like kids learn prejudice 

[datarep]

NYC Data Stories: Allyship

[traitortothecapital]

For when people say they’re sick of seeing gay stuff everywhere. Suck it up. 4 years. 4 years. And that’s just on the books, it’s legal. It doesn’t stop shitty attitudes, actions, or straight up violence.

[aphony-cree]

4 years only covers being legally allowed to exist and marry

There are still 17 states that have no workplace protection for LGBT+ employees, and 10 state that only have protection if you’re a government employee. That means over half of the states in the U.S. still legally allow LGBT+ discrimination at almost every workplace

You can legally get married in those states and the next day you could legally be fired

[iamthedevilswalkingstick]

I came out to my mom as non-binary, and she was asking me about whether or not I wanted to change my name, and I was telling her about how a common joke for non-binary people is that we name ourselves nouns and trees

But here’s the thing

I forgot to account for the fact that my mom is a huge nature nerd

So I came home from school this afternoon to my mom with a list of different trees and bird names that she thinks I should name myself

Here are some highlights:

Devil’s walking stick

Titmouse

Cardinal (I’m not apposed to this one)

Jay

Peregrine

Pawpaw

Pileated woodpecker

Birch

Maple

Cypress (legit considering this one)

Dogwood

She legitimately thinks these are good names and she also came to the realization that a) she should’ve given all her kids gender-neutral names. She wishes she’d given in to her inner hippie and named us things like blue, moon, river, ocean, and sky.

and B) she wants to now give all of her kids tree/bird nicknames. She followed my sister around for an hour asking if she wanted to be named oak or spruce.

I love her and I’m so glad she’s so supportive, but this is not what I thought the reception to me coming out was going to be

[enby-posi]

That's so sweet!

[spooniestrong]

[deadwooddross]

Wow it feels bizarre to post my meatface on here, but I want to make a nice pretty post for my….Top Chop Gofundme!! aka the ‘Help Dross Wear a T-Shirt’ fund I’ll keep this description short since the one on the site is long, but you know how it goes: Big trans, big uncomfortable with chest, broke as hell artist. I’ve got half saved up for my goal and this fundraiser is for the rest!! If you cant spare the cash, consider a boost, since more eyes is JUST as helpful!! And of course if you’d like to support in other ways, I’ve got patreon, which currently goes to Rent and Groceries, and you get to look at Art, which is my whole thing. THANK YOU FOR LOOKIN, BEST WISHES AND A HAPPY NEW YEAR

[deadwooddross]

NEARLY A QUARTER OF THE WAY THERE!!

[deadwooddross]

Officially in the industrial revolution of this top chop mission ( $1880!!)

[hundondestiny]

PayPal [email protected]

Cash.me $hundondestiny

commissions are also still open.

[hundondestiny]

i am very unmedicated rn and will not be able to change that until i have money. i'm applying to jobs on a regular basis but things are slow-going. i'm like definitely gonna be at least $300 short on rent. donations are great, commissions are awesome. help ur local poor black bisexual.