Welcome to my blog. I post about my autistic interests, like sociology and fandoms, and also often write short erotica/hornyposting. If you're uncomfortable with that, please just ignore me or block me. And of course MDNI!
I hope you have fun here. I take anon questions if you're interested in telling me anything or asking something. If you DM me please at least start off with something, I'll assume you're spam if you just go: "hey".
Some of my interests include:
Social science, especially sociology
Star Trek (especially DS9)
Honkai Star Rail
Genshin Impact (I'll see if I stick with this one)
Favourite book: Legends and Lattes
Kinks below break
A non-exhaustive list of the many kinks and dynamics you might find among my horny posts: t4t, exhibitionism, submission/domination, praise kink, group sex, bondage, orgasm control and denial, pain, faceslapping, spitting...
you only like me for my radiant personality :/ you're only here because you love to see my smile :/ you only want to hang out with me because you know we're both so much happier knowing each other :/
Yet another new study debunked the basis for the anti-trans sports bans. It was never about sports but for creating legal avenues for exclusion and abjection. This is one of the largest analyses ever conducted, involving 52 studies and 6,485 trans people. Read the study here.
Pope Leo is letting American bishops entirely ban trans healthcare for both minors and adults in all Catholic-owned hospitals and clinics, and stop coverage for trans healthcare through Catholic-affiliated health insurance plans!!
People are having surgeries, for which they were on waitlists for years, suddenly cancelled. Hormones no longer covered, their clinicians no longer able to prescribe them. Considering in some states Catholic-owned healthcare organizations make up to a third of the market, as it were, this is a HUGE issue.
Missing hormones. Canceled surgeries. Bureaucratic denials. Late last year the Catholic Church banned all trans healthcare across its sprawl
This has been happening since November of last year, when this vote took place, but no one is talking about it. The rehabilitation of the image of the papacy through Pope Leo is killing me, it’s still the goddamn Catholic Church. You do not gotta hand it to them.
Not shaving and not wearing make up are literally nonbehaviors. They’re a complete lack of action. But doing nothing is considered masculine because women are not allowed to just be. this goes double for trans women.
normalise being fulfilled by imperfect sex. sex that's awkward. sex that's clumsy. sex when you're still learning each other, where consent check ins cut in jarringly because safety overrides needing to be smooth or nonchalant. sex that's 90% cuddling and teasing foreplay and 10% grinding, then doesn't lead anywhere else. sex that doesn't end in an orgasm but instead a profound sense of satisfaction that washes over your whole body.
Sub red flags: a checklist for less experienced Doms
Awhile ago, I wrote the above post explaining several red flags and warning signs in Doms for less experienced submissives to be aware of. This is the inverse. Written mostly for inexperienced Doms who are seeking subs, from the perspective of an experienced Dom. I would recommend less experienced subs read as well. My hope is that this post is a resource for others and helps to improve kink safety and understanding. Please remember to research everything you do before you do it and trust your gut. Don't do anything you aren't comfortable with.
Unclear consent/hasty consent
All kinks carry inherent risk. Some have physical risks, some psychological risks, plenty have both. Trust your gut if someone seems too eager to dive into something without fully discussing every possible angle you can think of. Don't ever run into something when you could walk. In kink, you aren't just consenting to the activity, you're consenting to the risks which the activity carries. Don't do anything with anyone who doesn't seem to understand that distinction.
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Dynamics are a two way street
One of the most misunderstood aspects of kink is the core element of mutual effort. Generally, less experienced people assume that the Dominant is an active participant, while the sub is a passive one, who simply receives whatever the Dom decides, getting off in the process. While this might work well in a Dark Romance novel it is categorically antithetical to real life BDSM. On a fundamental level, BDSM is a collaborative effort. Both the dominant and submissive are active participants, both have to put forth a lot of effort, both in learning about kink and safety and in actual scenes. While a scene might focus on a sub being a pretty doll for their Dom, just laying there and getting off, that should not be reflective of your actual interpersonal dynamic whatsoever. If a submissive doesn't believe they should have to put in as much effort as you, that's reflective of an unwillingness to put effort into your dynamic or your scene with them.
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Boundaries/safewords for doms
Just like a submissive has to consent to everything you do, a Dom also has to consent to everything in a scene. If a sub doesn't respect your boundaries, pushes them without permission, or acts as if your boundaries aren't as important as them getting off go play with someone else
"I have no limits"/"I don't use a safeword"
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REFUSING TO HONOR A SAFE WORD IS SEXUAL ASSAULT
Subs can assault Doms too.
This is fake. Everyone has boundaries. Some people like saying this doing scenes for fun, which can be fine roleplay, but if they genuinely believe it about themselves they are not emotionally mature enough for kink and are an unsafe partner. Run away.
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"Doms don't need aftercare"
Fake. Run. Unsafe partner.
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"Kink dispenser"
Subs should not view you as just someone who reads their mind and tells them things to get them off. Your needs matter too and all participants in a scene should be attentive to each other's needs and interests. You aren't there just to do whatever they want to get them off the same way they aren't there just to do whatever you want to get you off unless you have specifically agreed that you're both into that AND that the scene is going to be about that.
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Mental Health, Aftercare, and Drops
Your mental health is just as important as your physical safety in kink. Any submissive you play with must prioritize your emotional well-being the same way you need to prioritize theirs. There will be times when you feel weird after or during a scene or even bad about yourself. Dominance is stressful. Yours truly was once in a particularly harsh impact scene as a rookie Dom, realized how rough the marks on their thighs were, and experienced a drop feeling like a bad person even though they had specifically asked for what I was doing to them. It's perfectly normal to snap back to reality sometimes and end the scene for your own comfort. In fact, it is unsafe for your own emotional health to Dom anyone when you don't feel up to it. The correct thing to do is to communicate with the sub, pause or end the scene as needed, get feedback, let them know you need reassurance. Its completely normal and valid. If someone doesn't want to reassure you, that's a huge red flag
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Final notes
There are many "Doms" that are bad actors or abusers. They crave power over others not to seek out a mutual consensual fantasy, but because they want to stop other people from saying "No" to them, and have nonconsensual control over their life.
There are also many "subs" who are bad actors or abusers. Some are thrill seeking with little care for their own emotional or physical well-being, putting themselves and their dominant at risk by refusing to learn about safety or respect others boundaries. Some dehumanize Doms, essentially treating them like jerk off machine that doesn't have boundaries or feelings or require any effort.
Any standard you hold for yourself as a dominant, about consent, about boundaries, about safety, should also apply to any submissive you play with. No exceptions. Both Dominance AND submission need to be continuously earned, not given. If someone thinks otherwise...
You really start to understand that the “angry black woman” and “mean lesbian” stereotype only exists to shame us for the fact we get reasonably upset about people wanting to horrifically abuse us indiscriminately. Let’s get meaner !
by default i dont understand people with boobs who argue against freeing the nipple and think top nudity is shameful. but ESPECIALLY i dont understand it when you live somewhere where temperatures can exceed like 80F. youre telling me you havent ever wished it was socially acceptable to walk downtown with your tits out when its hot outside. youre just okay with having to wear shirts in all weather and this doesnt bother you. i simply do not believe you............
Ahoj, upozorňuju že zítra bude v senátu první čtení o tom hrozném trans zákoně, takže máme dnes poslední šanci napsat maily senátorům. Informace jak na to jsou zde, zde a zde a já jsem pod čarou vložil ten můj pro inspiraci.
Také jsou protesty organizované homophobiivcrnechceme:
Dnes (16.6. od 18:00) je v Brně před správním soudem.
Zítra (17.6. od 17:00) je v Praze na Palackého náměstí (před památníkem F. Palackého)
Prosím přijďte pokud můžete, ať už jste trans či nikoli.
Konec hlášení
Žádost o zamítnutí senátního tisku č. 248
Vážený pane senátore XXXXX,
píši Vám jako znepokojený občan ohledně zítřejšího projednávání zákona o tranzici.
Na začátek musím upozornit na zrušení diskuze odborné veřejnosti v rámci senátního slyšení při návrhu zákona. To považuji za nedemokratické a obávám se, že díky tomu bude pro navrhovatele jednodušší debatovat s domněnkami a předsudky než s fakty.
Protože podle odborníků je tento zákon v přímém rozporu s evropským právem, mezinárodními standardy zdravotní péče i s judikaturou Soudního dvora Evropské unie a Evropského soudu pro lidská práva. Každý člověk má právo na soukromí, na osobní svobodu a tělesnou autonomii a tento zákon by omezoval tato základní lidská práva. Podobný nesouhlas formuloval i výbor sexuologické společnosti.
Před rokem byl schválen zákon o zrušení nutnosti lékařského zásahu na úřední tranzici, protože to bylo podle Ústavního soudu v rozporu s lidskou důstojností. Byl to krok správným směrem ke společnosti, která je skutečně otevřená všem. Širokou veřejnost to nijak neovlivnilo, ale trans lidé brečeli radostí a spousta z nich začala vidět svoji budoucnost v zářivých barvách.
Včetně mě.
Já jsem trans muž z XXXX a v roce XXXX jsem Vás volil.
Píši Vám, protože se bojím, co se mně a ostatním trans lidem stane, pokud tento zákon bude schválen.
Prosím Vás, abyste hlasoval proti návrhu zákona, který se snaží jen ublížit minoritě, nepřináší nic pozitivního do společnosti a je v rozporu s odborníky na právo a lékařství.
