Hello! I'm seeking emergency assistance with moving after having been displaced by domestic violence and gentrification from my home in San Francisco. I'm a chronically ill/disabled writer, a White queer femme, and a 5th generation Californian with deep roots in the Bay Area. I've lived there...
Hello!
I’m seeking emergency assistance with moving after having been displaced by domestic violence and gentrification from my home in San Francisco. I’m a chronically ill/disabled writer, a White queer femme, and a 5th generation Californian with deep roots in the Bay Area. I’ve lived there since ‘02, played & loved there since the early-mid 90s.
In the process of having had to leave San Francisco for the Midwest, I left behind my dear & vast community, my team of amazing doctors, a culture that’s supportive of my identity, and a beloved Sunnyside house that’s been home longer than any other in my lifetime.
In ‘05, I was robbed and raped at gunpoint in my Oakland house by an intruder, which led me to move to the home in Sunnyside, San Francisco. It was a fortress and a creative haven. Many lovely artists shared the Sunnyside home with me over the decade, and it is a much mourned & beloved household.
Not long after my assault, I entered into a marriage with a technology executive. A marriage during which I was subjected to continual coercive control, a pattern of abuse which was damaging to my already precarious health. Unfortunately, I got crushed in my recent divorce, via having been coerced (while I was gravely ill) by my wealthy ex-spouse into a mediation that gave me a only a measly third of the spousal support that California courts would’ve ordinarily ordered him to pay me. This last act of financial abuse made it virtually impossible for me, as a disabled woman, to afford to live in my home in S.F.
In addition to C-PTSD, I have a cluster of incurable autoimmune diseases (PsA, AS, FM) that leave me in constant joint/spinal pain and chronic fatigue. I am a writer, and am in the lengthy process of applying for disability. Money is very scarce.
Now I need help in order to move all of my worldly belongings out of storage in the Bay Area, and to transport them to my new home in the Midwest, this November.
If 250 of you throw in $20, I will meet my target goal of $5k. Any surplus monies above my goal, I will put toward my ever burgeoning healthcare costs.
If you can drop a dollar, please do. If you can share widely within your own networks, please do. Thanks ever so much for just having read this! Your compassion, kindness, solidarity, and generosity melts my heart and saves my day.
Somebody’s gonna play her in a movie in 20 years when people start making Selma-esque movies about Ferguson & Police Brutality and this is going to be the direct quote they use bc is so fucking brave and profound and iconic. Lesley McSpadden (and Esaw Garner) are such important women they are such important voices in news media right now
Valerie Castile had not even buried her son when CNN asked her if she forgave the killer.
Here’s her answer ^^^^^
Stop asking black victims of white violence if they forgive their victimizers
It’s a strange and offensive phenomenon in America.
When a black family loses a loved one to some type of racial terror — be it at the hands of police, white supremacists, or another angry caucasian, they are often asked a question that you rarely see asked of anyone else in a similar position…
…Why in the hell would you ask her that? Has that man asked to be forgiven? Has he admitted that what he did was wrong? Has he repented and accepted some form of justice? Has he been arrested or charged with a crime? Has he reached out to the family to communicate his feelings about their unimaginable loss?…
Do you think any family members of the slain police officers in Dallas were asked this weekend if they forgive Micah Johnson?
When Syed Farook and his wife killed 14 people in #SanBernardino and injured 22 others, nobody was rushing to ask people if they forgave him.
In other words, when the roles are reversed, and white people suffer any form of violence, it’s just common sense that you don’t ask them, particularly in the immediate aftermath, if they have forgiven their victimizer. You particularly don’t see this ridiculous question being asked of white people when a person of color was responsible for the violence.
Just stop it. Don’t rush our grief. And if you want forgiveness, earn it, and start providing some justice in this country.
like who’s gotta clean that shit up, and how long does it take that shit to get rank & moldy before someone is forced to clean up the nasty?
yarnbombing is NOT tenderpunk.
encouraging your friends to be mindful by not yarnbombing IS tenderpunk.
Literally like instead of yarn bombing, make blankets and sweaters. 1. They’re actually useful and 2. They’re not left there to get nasty and moldy forcing someone to clean it up
also yarnbombing on trees is really bad for them! it strangles necessary nutrients from the bark and when it starts rotting it introduces all kinds of harmful bacteria to the tree.
I remember a couple years ago someone was making scarves and sweaters and putting them on statues with little tags saying “if you’re cold, take this, it’s yours” and that seems like an infinitely better thing to do that “yarnbombing” tbh?
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