secret gardens in my mind

shan. australia. 28. multifandom mess

[maryoliveoil]

TAYLOR SWIFT Discussing Toy Story 5 on "20/20"

[cages-boxes-hunters-foxes]

[newlyy]

Not that I think all marriages are doomed but when deciding who to marry you should ask yourself “is this someone I’d want to divorce?” As in, is this someone I believe would be mature and fair, even when they’re upset and don’t particularly like me at the moment. Is this someone I could continue to trust while going through an adversarial process? And if the answer is no, don’t marry them.

[hempseeeeds]

also, dont't have sex-that-could-lead-to-pregnancy with someone unless you're reasonably certain they would handle an unplanned pregnancy in a way you can live with, and don't breed-on-purpose (or co-adopt) with someone unless you think they'd be willing and able to cooperate as both a visiting, child-support-paying noncustodial-parent of a child you are single-parenting AND as a loving, capable single-parent to YOUR child that doesn't live with you.

[kyraneko]

there's a concept in engineering called a graceful failure. that is, sometimes things fail, whether that's a marriage or a pane of glass, and what you want to do is design its features and select its components in ways that the likelier forms of failure will do the least damage should that happen.

so they do things like making windshields that shatter into tiny dull fragments rather than huge sharp shards of glass. they keep its positive features (transparent, for example), but avoid characteristics which would be bad in the situations where a failure would occur (sharp edges).

some of this you can do by talking things through with your partner, getting a fair, looked-at-by-separate-lawyers-in-each-of-your-employ, thoughtful prenup, and considering your partner's handling of frustrations and disagreements.

other things you need to do by keeping up your own financial independence, arranging your life for resilience including preparing to handle the sudden absence of your partner (people not only betray and divorce but also die, get into car accidents, and get called away to help family or friends across the country), and being familiar with your locality's divorce laws.

knowledge is power, an emergency savings account is power, and a precedent set by your discussions with your partner about values and what you each want the relationship and your future to look like is power. (if they rugpull you and turn into a monster after marriage, you'll be able to recall that conversation and tell the lie/unilateral change/shifted goalpost for what it is, and not second-guess your own right to not have that be done to you.)

[maryoliveoil]

TAYLOR SWIFT "I Knew It, I Knew You"

[sheisobvious]

Stevie Knicks™

[tswiftsedits]

Taylor Swift attends Game Four of the 2026 NBA Finals between the San Antonio Spurs and the New York Knicks at Madison Square Garden on June 10, 2026 in New York City (Photo by Al Bello/Getty Images)

[diamondseaside]

notice how taylor uses her time and energy to talk about her craft and process and genuine inspirations rather than her personal grievances or opinions of other artists

[coldasyou]

'Cause I'm miserable! And nobody even knows!

[missegyptiana]

this is everything

[tswiftsedits]

Taylor Swift after Game Four of the 2026 NBA Finals between the San Antonio Spurs and the New York Knicks at Madison Square Garden on June 10, 2026 in New York City (Photo by Dustin Satloff/Getty Images)

[tswiftsedits]

Taylor Swift attends Game Four of the 2026 NBA Finals between the San Antonio Spurs and the New York Knicks at Madison Square Garden on June 10, 2026 in New York City (Photo by Al Bello/Getty Images)

[stood-onthecliffside]

sometimes i do feel like i am standing on a cliffside screaming give me a reason. that is actually very true.

[sayspeaknow]

[confessionsdiaz]

i am well aware of the absolutely fucked up things eating disorders do to people’s brains, and i am sympathetic, but I still think acknowledging publicly that these celebrities are promoting looking emaciated on death’s door is important. Can you imagine being 13 and seeing this shit? Every celebrity event looks like a thinspo board, it’s awful.

[confessionsdiaz]

People talk about women's bodies far too much; this is true. But that doesn't mean we shouldn't be addressing the elephant in the room of insane weight loss and eds. it isnt fucking normal or healthy

[mossycakes]

we cant talk here. pictochat. room c.

[petruchio]

im literally always saying this

[hits-differently]

Don't you sweat it, baby