Hey so here we go. I really enjoyed sharing my thoughts and headcannons on this account, but as of late I can’t stand the fact that there is so much disgusting behavior that I have witnessed from several different places on this app. I’m not trying to stir drama, or make anybody look a certain way, but since I’m leaving the app anyways I can’t leave with a good heart knowing I allowed this behavior to go unnoticed.
I didn’t want to call out indi at all, because they’re not the main source of the problem. They’re just a vocal minority that is attacking a grooming victim. They have in the past participated in the harassment out of “personal grudges”, as seen here.
Does this excuse the poor handling in the anon askbox? No. But it should also be made clear the anon tagging themselves “🇨🇦” was not at all involved in the making of this document, or discussions involving this. However—some of the discourse we mention here WAS on “Galactic Redacted,” where the user may have gotten this context from.
There is a situation that unfolded that makes me sick. Auden, an underaged minor (and still is currently following this), has been roleplaying explicit erotic scenes with someone who is an adult. And not only that, but there are several other adults involved with this roleplay that have seen this grooming behavior unfolding and have not only been silent about it, but encouraged and participated in it. There is no reason this behavior should be happening in the first place, let alone have the underaged minor victim be villainized for it.
One (active) confirmed adult is Ryn—a 24 year old who was openly aware of—and a part of one of these “torture porn roleplay blogs.” They’re mentioned specifically in @/tiedupchewtoy—which may need a trigger warning for anyone searching for it.
LocalPigeon and Auden were active in the redacted roleplay community, making multiple blogs and AU blogs like the one above where sexual and romantic relations were explicit and public. To be clear—this is not to dog on anyone who wishes to partake in sexual or romantic roleplay themselves. HOWEVER, the issue itself arises when taking into account the fact that Auden was around 16 for most of this, with Jay (LocalPigeon) being an adult. Regardless, as an adult in this, there should have been boundaries set and the roleplays nipped in the bud. Fiction to a degree is fiction, however in roleplays like these this can become very blurry. I stress again that almost EVERY blog run by Auden was tied to Jay’s in some way.
Please keep in mind that a lot of this was found very easily by searching up the keyword “grinding.” That’s already not a great start. Again additional evidence can be found under @/tiedupinbows
When most of the Auden situational discourse began to arise—instead of discussion about these blogs and how that potentially might’ve played a part in what happened—a lot of people ran to harass him instead. People again, involved in this bandwagon were in their 20s, or at least adults. Keep in mind that at the time of the discourse listed below—Auden had JUST turned 17 shortly before this. Auden’s was pointed out and then quickly dismissed as “there’s loads of adults in here.” That doesn’t change the fact that there were users involved that ARE adults that can’t handle these things with grace or dig for additional information and context. These blogs mentioned are STILL very public and not difficult to find in the slightest.
Do I think the (again, adult) users in this situation are entirely perfect? No! However—there needs to be ways to handle situations like this one tactfully—which it’s clear many involved here lack any skills regarding that. You, as an adult, have to monitor your interactions with younger users, as it can very clearly affect them. Even in general: as an older person dealing with others younger than yourself—there are some boundaries you need to set, which clearly weren’t throughout this.
I also clarify I don’t wish to absolve or dismiss Auden from any of the actions they took in this. However, with this information deductions about their behavior and where it stems from can be made. Minors CAN be allowed to explore their sexuality (even through spaces like roleplay) but it’s up to those older in these circumstances to work to make it safe and know where lines need to be drawn. Sometimes speaking up can be difficult! But with things like this it’s insanely necessary.
I also wish to note that those dismissing this to NOT be grooming out of “personal experience” to reconsider. You do not get to dictate what someone else’s experiences are—and some cases are more severe than others. At worst, this can be classified as a case of grooming due to the sexually explicit nature of these threads. At least I can make correlations to previous experiences I’ve had and can see the similarities. Again, the “grooming” aspect itself is left only for the victim to deduce.
In conclusion though—I want to call out Ryn and other people who were aware of these roleplays and were either willfully ignorant or complicit. Many of you are adults. You aren’t expected to “know everything,” but you should know better. Do better. Responsibilities are placed upon you as the older individual.
And no, you don’t have to avoid interacting with minors. But I stress this again—you are the older one in this situation. In some cases, way older than Auden. This can’t just be boiled down to a “difference in opinion over roleplay” when a lot of you side with people directly involved in harassing or condoning erotic roleplay with minors.
All of the information discussed here and evidence for this can be easily found if fact checking is needed.
Tonight, I’m going to fall asleep in my bed, knowing I did the right thing. I hope you can say the same.
-T
