āpeople on twitter are saying Peter is not that important and that Tony basically didnāt lose anyone, so he should be āfineā in Endgame.āĀ
Peter is really important in Tonyās life and Iām tired of seeing people diminish the relationship between them.Ā
Yes, they do have a father-son relationship, weāre NOT exaggerating anything and as a matter of fact I took the time to make a compilation of Directors, Writers, Actors/Actresses making Irondad canon in the MCU:Ā
Directors and Producers;Ā Anthony and Joe Russo:
āThey basically have a unique mentor-mentee relationship that continues to evolve as they move into this film.
Spider-Manās death scene is widely considered to be the most emotional. and unforgettable moment in Infinity War.Ā āIt was always in our heads that we wanted that scene to be very powerful.ā
One thing Stark does have, though, is his continuing relationship with Spider-Man. That father-son/mentor-student relationship seems to be a key part of Spider-Manās five-film arc in the MCU: Civil War set up the bond between Peter and Tony, Homecoming built on that, and according to the Russos, Infinity War will continue from there.
āI think that this mentor relationship that Tony has developed with Peter Parker is probably one of the most interesting things the universe has moving forward.ā
āOf course, there is also the possibility that the dream was meant to draw a parallel between the surrogate father/son relationshipĀ Tony Stark has with Peter Parker (Tom Holland). Stark would later mention that the young superhero is his responsibility in Infinity War, and Spider-Manās death following Thanosā Infinity snap is one that will undoubtedly weigh heavily on Iron Man.ā
āWhat 16 year old wouldnāt want not to go in such the way itās shown so we set up that relationship between he and Tony Stark in separate movies to lead to that moment-Ā itās a father-son relationship. Itās painful to watch.
āThe relationship between Peter Parker and Tony Stark is integral to the emotional core of the film. And its one that was set up in Civil War,
continued in Homecoming, and is furthered here. And it is a father-son relationship, and one that will ultimately end up being exceedingly
painful for Tony.ā
Anthony, āCircumstances sort of forced them to move forward into a more complex place with one another.ā
āPeterās death wasnāt originally drawn out like this. He [RDJ] kept driving to put more and more emotion into it and just went up to Tom and said, āYou donāt wanna go. Youāre a child. Youāre using your spider strength not to go.ā And now this is a colossal loss for Tony. As snarky as his relationship is with Peter Parker, he cares deeply about him. And to have him die in his arms will change him forever.ā
āAlso the fact that heās had this mentor relationship with Peter Parker, itās as if his personal life is becoming fuller and more important to him
than it ever had before. And thatās an interesting counterpoint to his life as Iron Man, and also his life as Iron Man is a potential threat to that personal life as well. Whatās happening with Tony Stark in this film is that heās beginning to feel the tension between those two things, and thatās a difficult conflict for him.ā
āI think he feels like the kid will be well-protected under his tutelage. You also find out in that sequence, when things go wrong the kid says,
āWhat do I do?ā and Tony says, āKeep your distance, web āem up.ā So heās obviously mentored the kid for whatās about to go down.ā
āWhatās going through Tonyās mind when Spider-Man dies?ā The Russos replied: āI think heās feeling like he lost a child. Itās about as painful as it can get for him.ā
Director, producer, and screenwriter; Jon Watts:
āThe Russo Brothers set up this relationship just so elegantly in Civil War,ā said Watts. So the question is, āNow what?ā That lays the ground work
for a lot of interesting questions like āHow much did Tony really think this through? What did Peter think now about his relationship with Tony? Is
Tony ready for this kind of responsibility? To me that movie raised so many fun and interesting questions that I used that as the spring board into
this story. I think itās a really interesting facet of Tony Starkās personality that we get to explore this relationship with Peter.ā Ā
āHe was always a part of it. That was always a big part, the idea of him being this reluctant mentor ā or the unintentional mentor ā to Peter.ā
āPeter Parker was probably like eight years old when he saw Tony on TV telling the world heās Iron Man. And when you start thinking about it as a whole
world like that, it gets really fascinating. You know? And now the most famous person in the world has picked Peter Parker and taken him on this crazy
adventure, and now dropped him back off and gone to deal with his own thing. And hereās Peter, left in his bedroom, you know, having had the greatest
experience of his life, and not being able to tell anyone about it. That would be crazy!ā
President of Marvel Studio; Kevin Feige:
āThe mentor relationship between Tony and Peter was also at the core of the pitch Marvel Studios president Kevin Feige gave producer Amy Pascal
to sell her on the idea of teaming up with Marvel.ā
āHis presence in āCivil Warā was meant to be the counterpoint,ā he explained. āThis kid basically feels like he hit the jackpot. The most famous man
in the world, Tony Stark, asks him to go to Germany and participate with the Avengers and he loves every minute of it. Thatās fun. Thatās who Spider-Man
is, and we can and will do much more of this in 'Spider-Man: Homecoming.ā
āThis amazing young English actor who was brought over here, got into our audition process and suddenly found himself in a room, doing a scene
with Robert Downey. I swear it, the exact dynamic that we wanted between Peter Parker and Tony Stark, we had between Tom Holland and Robert Downey Jr.ā
āThe decision came after Marvel and Sony execs saw the āgreat chemistryā between Downey and Holland in Civil War, which made them realize
they āhad to work hard to get these two back togetherā in Spider-Manās solo film.ā
Sony executive and film producer; Amy Pascal:
āBasically [Peter figuring out his relationship with Tony] is what the whole entire movie is about,ā Pascal added.Ā
Screenwriters and producers; Christopher Markus and Stephen McFeely:
āPeterās just fun to bring everywhere,ā said McFeely. āHeās still wide-eyed, heās still a kid. And we value that Tony-Peter mentor relationship thatās
been built over two films.ā
āTony tries to save him, tries to protect him, and actually he does save him, sends him home. Kidās too much of a hero for that.ā
āTony starts the movie talking about the possibility of having a child and effectively loses one at the end.ā
Director, producer, and screenwriter; Jon Favreau:
āI think Spider-Man made me smile every second the character was on the screen. I was so pleased with the tone of the film in general,
but those sequences specifically, and I just loved the way they introduced the character. I love the version of Tony Stark I saw, especially
in those scenes. As somebody who was part of the beginning of the screen persona of Tony Stark, I thought that this was really impressive and a wonderful expansion of that character.ā
Directors John Francis Daley and Jonathan Goldstein:
āHeās also a natural father figure for Peter, in that it was set up in Captain America: Civil War that it was Tony Stark who asks Peter to come fight in Germany alongside him. Heās the one who gives Peter his suit. The groundwork was already there and we just picked up the thread.ā
āWe were given a packet of characters and settings that we could glean from, but we didnāt really have any marching orders as to what to truly include in the movie. We did love the idea of having Tony be there as this mentor, and sort of an estranged father figure. If this werenāt a superhero movie he would be a dad like Ethan Hawkeās character in Boyhood.ā
āHe (Stark) is like, 'we need back-upā, and heās searching to see who is available and all that, and he kind of gets a lead on a prospect ā like a baseball talent scout. Then he, fortunately, just develops this belief in Mr Parker. You what it is like? Itās like your kid turns sixteen and that means that they are supposed to be able to drive. But now there are all of those apps where you areĀ supposed to be able to find out where they are. Itās kind of like that. Heās attempting in his own half-assed way to do some modern parenting, and, of course, the stakes are a lot higher than as if youāre going to get a ticket or get into a fender-bender.ā
āI think [Marvel] is smart: āOh yeah, we like the Parker/Stark thing. So letās keep them at close quarters as long as we can.Ā Someone under your tutelage is now firing on all cylinders, but youāre responsible for bringing them into deeper water.Ā We knew that would be fruitful.ā
āI never thought Iād wind up being like a father figure to another avenger but I couldnāt pick a better character or actor to do it with,ā Robert said on the red carpet at the world premiere of Spider-Man: Homecoming.
āI think weāre seeing the beginning of a sort of father-son relationship. Obviously Tony hasnāt got any kids, and Peter at this point hasnāt got any male figures in his life, so I think thereās a really lovely dynamic that Robert and I are forming.Ā But then there is that level of him caring about him like his own, and Robert has really brought something lovely to the character. Itās a very different side of Stark than youāve ever seen before.ā
āItās interesting more so from the point of Tony Stark because he sort of has the responsibility of someone else other than himself. He really has to think about keeping Peter Parker safe, and he does that by telling him to be the friendly neighborhood Spider-Man rather than this world-saving Spider-Man. He says help the old lady across the street, help get the cat out of the tree, but Spider-Man wants more.ā
Continuing, Holland admits Spider-Man "wants to be an Avenger, and I think the reason Tony doesnāt want him to be an Avenger is because he doesnāt want anything bad to happen to him.ā
āOf course itāll develop. The bond theyāve formed is pretty strong and Tony has a great deal of responsibility for Peter and his actions. I think Peter may grate on Tony a bit more in this movie, which is fun, but our relationship definitely blossoms some more.ā
āIn this film, heās [Peter Parker] grown up quite a lot, but Tony Stark isnāt ready for him to have grown up that much. So Peter questions Tony Stark quite a bit and is maybe a little cockier with him than he was in the previous movie.ā
The beating heart of Infinity War is really the relationship between Tony Stark and Peter Parker. Spider-Man: Homecoming set
this up beautifully by establishing Tonyās fear Peter will die and heāll be responsible.āIf you died, I feel like thatās on me,ā Tony tells him in one scene. Infinity War also sets up the idea that Tony wants to have a child. But in a way, he already does, as for the past three films, he has been acting as a father figure to Peter.Ā
So yes, in case anyone is wondering if Irondad is canon, if they really have aĀ āfather-sonā relationship, is theyāre important to each other, HERE IT IS.
Iām sorryĀ madasthesea for making this long post on your answer.
Add more if you find more canon facts.
