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Do you think it’s possible that someone genuinely identified as trans for years of their life, and instead of the realization being like "oh, i was never trans to begin with", the realization is just that you identity has shifted over the years? Like, i don’t feel like i was wrong about identifying like that, i just feel like i am a different person now than i was 6 years ago

I think that's fully possible! People can be very fluid. Your interests six years ago are probably different than they are now. You've since discovered new things about yourself. That doesn't mean that six years ago, your favorite tv show wasn't your favorite tv show, or what you were studying in college wasn't your major, or the job you had wasn't what you did for a living - it just means it's changed in the past six years.

For me, I didn't feel like I had never been trans, just that it was no longer something I identified as. Over time I came to realize that for me, it was a mix of internalized misogyny and a disconnect from gender that led me to identifying as transgender - but that doesn't mean I didn't identify as transgender and I'm not going to say I was wrong for doing that, or misled, or anything like that. I learned a lot about myself from the experience. You probably did too.

#exactly this!#so glad to have found people who feel like I feel #detrans

detransitioningisvalid

I thought a desister was a female detransitioner .-. Because they go back to being...sisters. Oops.

I like that haha. I actually don't know where "desister" came from, but when I started desisting, I called myself a detransitioner, and then I found out that since I'd never medically transitioned I couldn't call myself that and I was told the term for that was "desister."

I like to think of it as social detransitioning rather than medical detransitioning, but I use the word desister here because it's more commonly used, from my knowledge. There aren't enough resources for detransitioners online (and about half of the ones that do exist are from actual Republicans and I would not trust those resources at all.)

#oh that's interesting #also that's me #i mean the social detransitioning #detrans #desister

plarnston

this pride month let's not forget intersex people, transneutral & transandrogynous people, cistrans/tris people, detrans people, aro/ace people, and everyone with complex, misunderstood, uncommon &or contradictory identities!

#detrans #pride month #transneutral #transandrogynous #tris #cistrans #aroace #arospec #aspec #intersex #detransition

discolor3d

The person I reblogged this from deserves to be happy.

floral-ashes

Someone anonymously messaged me to tell me that writing about detrans folks makes me a traitor to trans people, because all detrans people want to push conversion therapy on us and forcibly detransition us.

That’s precisely the kind of narrative that ends up pushing detransitioners into the arms of TERFs and the religious far-right.

There’s nothing inherently wrong with detransitioning. Sometimes people realize that transitioning no longer suits them, or never really did. And that’s fine.

When we systematically push them away regardless of their politics, we make people feel like the only places they can get support are among transphobes. That’s not a good thing. Building de/trans solidarity is an critical tool for disarming anti-trans movements.

#thank you for this post #transgender #queer #lgbtqia #trans #lgbt #detrans #detransitioners #trans rights #lgbtq #trans rights are human rights #trans health #trans healthcare #gender affirming care #gender affirming healthcare #detransition

snonkerdoodlefizzy221b

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allforreading

How have I been? Thanks for asking!

I've not been feeling well for the past two weeks, then it became tonsillitis... so I've been resting a lot...

BUT it's getting warmer here, summer even, and I've been watching a hell lot of movies (25 this month so far) and reading a lot too. So life's not too bad but I hate being sick

How are you doing?

snonkerdoodlefizzy221b

I wish you a speedy recovery! I also am happy that you've been able to do so many fun things. 🫂

I am okay, just have exams to look forward to 🫠 after that it's summer though so I can do whatever :D

allforreading

Good luck with your exams!! 🍀

snonkerdoodlefizzy221b

A MONOCLE DUCK!!! REET REET REET REET

allforreading

How have I been? Thanks for asking!

I've not been feeling well for the past two weeks, then it became tonsillitis... so I've been resting a lot...

BUT it's getting warmer here, summer even, and I've been watching a hell lot of movies (25 this month so far) and reading a lot too. So life's not too bad but I hate being sick

How are you doing?

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Who's your favorite video game protagonist?

Feed your dashboard by answering my question, blogger.

Connor from Detroit Become Human

#detroit become human #april fools #ask game i guess

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Couch co-op or online?

Feed your dashboard by answering my question, blogger.

Couch co-op because I don't have online gaming friends lol

#ask game i guess #aprils fool

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What game feels like "home" to you no matter when you come back to it?

Feed your dashboard by answering my question, blogger.

Lol, okay, a game that feels like home? The Sims or Stardew Valley.

#cozy games for the win #ask game i guess #aprils fool

openmindpsych

shoutout to neurodivergent people who get ignored. who get left on read, left on seen, left on delivered. who get spoken over and left out of the conversation. whose questions go unanswered, comments go unacknowledged, interests go unappreciated. i see you. i love you. i hope you're having a good day.

perths

real

loth-catgirl

this gets funnier the older you reblog it

toastbutteregg

sorcererest-sorcerer

Do not cite the deep magics to me, witch. I was there when it was written.

#yep #and proud of it

grumpypedant

I think a lot of people have trouble understanding transgender issues because they try to see themselves as trans, but come at it from the wrong direction. e. g. a cis woman tries to understand transness by going, “what if I felt like/wanted to be a man” when she should be approaching it as “what if I, a woman, was so easily mistaken for a man that I had to pretend to be one”,

And I think this is something to keep in mind and to explain away when trying to get these matters across to people who’re new to the idea.

anscathmarcach

All this discourse over who does "painting with light"

Hiroshi Nagai's paintings need sunglasses to look at.

They look like how it feels to walk across a parking lot on a 98° summer day without a speck of shade in sight.

They look like heaven but also like you'd burn your bare feet on the ground.

Even when you can see shade you know it's not enough and the minute you step out you'll be burnt to a crisp like a vampire.

And it's BEAUTIFUL

dbarenzu626

I'll throw in the wonderful Eizin Suzuki into this ring too, a man whose work just breathes light without actually using dynamic lighting in the usual way. It's no surprise both Nagai and Suzuki are both considered prolific in art pertaining to the city pop genre because they're able to paint these kinds of scenes with a delicate touch.

This feels like I could trip on that radio and fall right into that water, feeling the crystal waves as I drop in.

And this, a nice stroll down a resort strip, where my sunscreened skin could literally feel cooked if I leaned too close to the tiling.

And then a nice stretch of summer street, wherein you could see your face in the flushed red of that car provided it didn't blind you from its sunny reflections.

I don't think I even need to say anything more, Suzuki's a massive influence in how he even places colours so warmly in such unorthodox manner. It's a naturally sunkissed talent~ 🌊

#ART!!!! BEAUTIFUL ART!!!!

batmanisagatewaydrug

and what if I told you guys that virtually everyone you ever meet will turn out to be really interesting if you give them a chance

batmanisagatewaydrug

some real miserable fucks in the notes I fear

batmanisagatewaydrug

I'm not even saying you have to talk to every single person you meet. and you're certainly not going to LIKE all of them. but every person does have a rich interior life and complex feelings and unique worldview. sorry.