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Supporting aroallos requires you to be sex positive

That means you can’t read “casual sex” and think “fucks around without caring about anyone”

That means you can’t treat “no strings attached” like it’s synonymous with “heartless fuckboys using women for sex”

That means you can’t look at someone who wants casual sex and is open about it and claim they must have a “fear of commitment”

That means you can’t blame someone’s depression on their “missed connnections,” aka their one night stands that didn’t blossom into romantic endeavors

That means you’re gonna let others make their own choices about their sex life without judgement or shame or any implication that they’re in any way lacking morals for wanting to have sex with people they’re not in any sort of long term relationship with

asterosian

I might as well reblog this cause I’m seeing a few non-aroallos saying that showing an aroallo character having casual sex is bad representation. It’s not. Treating casual sex as an inherently bad thing is sex negative and leads to arophobia against aroallos.

Aroallos are not doing anything wrong if they decide to have casual sex.

Portraying an aroallo having casual sex is not a bad thing unless you paint the aroallo as dirty and predatory for it.

We’re people, and that means we’re gonna vary quite a bit. Showing variation is actually a good thing. Not to mention we’re trying to navigate sexual relationships in a society that was never designed for us and we’re all gonna find our own ways to make do, you really have no business dictating to us what we should do, especially not without our input

aro-to-the-knee

Why can’t casual sex be more of a thing? Blow your mates dick! Sleep with your BFF. It’s so much safer than random hookups and without the hassle of a romantic relationship?

If you trust someone, and want to blow off steam, the idea that you can’t just fuck is bizarre? Why are casual relationships and flings such a filthy idea? There is a bond, a bed, and time.

Friendship sex 2k19

aro-to-the-knee

Okay everyone in the comments here’s a brief explanation of what I was on about

I’m aromantic, not ace.

I’m talking about social stigma of sexual relationships and safe sex with people you trust

I am NOT talking about breaching personal boundaries. If your friend isn’t interested then Don’t. If a friend is pressuring you into sex then they aren’t a good friend

I’m not telling ace people to have sex with friends

I’m genuinely only talking about casual, consensual, no strings attached, fun with friends.

alloaroworlds

I’ve reblogged an earlier version of this post, but I’m reblogging again because of the response the OP has gotten, including what even is this comments, the belief we should instead emphasise non-sexual intimacy between friends, someone talking about sexual assault, an asexual talking about how they just don’t get it and someone talking about exploring sexuality and asexuality.

It’s beyond frustrating that a non-asexual aro/allo-aro can’t make a post about casual friendship sex without … well, this. This post was not for or about asexuals, and yet this post wasn’t allowed to exist as one expression of allosexual aromanticism without some asexuals (and other folks) putting in their unwanted two cents about how this post doesn’t work for them or doesn’t cover what they need from relationships or should instead talk about something else!

If you’re asexual, allo-aro posts are not meant for you to come and talk about how you don’t understand or desire sexual relationships, sex or sexual attraction.

Not everything a-spec is for or about you.

Let us non-asexual a-specs have our own damn conversations for once, please.

OP, I’m really sorry that you had to endure this nonsense on your post. It’s not okay, especially when society takes such a dim view of what you’re describing to the extent that we only have the horrible term “friends with benefits” to name it. We need more conversations that validate allo-aros’ want to explore beyond Western society’s narrow conventions of how to go about relationships, sex and intimacy, and it’s disheartening to get this sort of response when these conversations are still few and far between.

femmesupportgroup

ace lesbians... aro lesbians... effervescent.

quiet-the-alloaro

My favorite thing in the world is aros being confused when people describe romantic attraction

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Alloaro wallpapers

alloaroworlds

[image description: a gradient of @arotaro‘s allo-aro pride flag, starting with dark green at the top, fading into white, light green, yellow and then gold.]

I wanted an allo-aro gradient flag overlay for my website background (as part of the projects I’m scrambling to finish so I can get back to properly being online), and I’m also running out of allo-aro pride art, so I thought I’d post this. This flag is so pretty and cheerful, and I enjoy the absence of colours like grey and black.

You can download a larger (5000 x 3000 pixel, 300 PPI) version of this flag from my website. Free use, credit not necessary but appreciated.

justanaroacedisgrace

Arospec girls: 💚😁👍🐝🐝🌈🌈🖤

Arospec boys: 💚😁👍🐝🐝🌈🌈🖤

NB arospecs: 💚😁👍🐝🐝🌈🌈🖤

Ace arospecs: 💚😁👍🐝🐝🌈🌈🖤

Allo arospecs: 💚😁👍🐝🐝🌈🌈🖤

Arospecs: 💚😁👍🐝🐝🌈🌈🖤

astralaspecs

#aro #aromantic #alloaro #wlw #aro wlw

chroma-imp-draws

May I offer you some frogs in this Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week?

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[id: A digital drawing of five frogs in a stack that are each in a colour from the aromantic flag (from top to bottom: dark green, light green, white, grey, black).]

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