An overactive mind

She/her. Hyperempathetic AuDHD

[an-overactive-mind]

There's this subtle, understated self-gaslighting that happens when you're dealing with neurodivergence/mental health issues. You start assuming that any hurt, any issue that arises is just. That.

[an-overactive-mind]

"I'm feeling hurt over something that happened, must be my sensitivity. I'm angry that I was excluded from something or that my friend didn't tell me something that they told everyone else; but I have rejection sensitive dysphoria so it's actually probably nothing. I have a bad feeling, but it's my anxiety acting up."

[an-overactive-mind]

There's this subtle, understated self-gaslighting that happens when you're dealing with neurodivergence/mental health issues. You start assuming that any hurt, any issue that arises is just. That.

[an-overactive-mind]

I get that it's hard for a lot of us to stand up for ourselves when faced with conflict. Many of us were raised in environments where expressing our pain was dismissed at best; punished at worse.

But I'm telling you right now - you need to learn how to plant yourself like a rock when you need to. ESPECIALLY in relationships. If you fold every time, hide how YOU feel every time, resentment and anger and pain will build up and it WILL cause damage later down the line. Damage that is often a lot harder to fix. After all, it's easier to rip up a weed when it's young and hasn't put down strong roots.

Just remember. If they can't stand you standing up for yourself, they aren't worth having you.

[an-overactive-mind]

I don't know if I've felt a worse mental feeling than to have your emotional mind and your rational mind be actively at odds with each other

[an-overactive-mind]

[theweirdwideweb]

[rimonoroni2]

unfortunately very true. Doing Better does not always mean never being upset or never being triggered or never having trouble. often Doing Better means experiencing those things and being able to keep going/cope healthily/move on. if you’re in a bubble with no sensation, if you’re numbing yourself out, that’s not what recovering really is. it won’t help you have a happier life it’ll just make your world smaller and smaller until you can’t fit anywhere anymore. gotta learn to make peace with the hard stuff too, that’s the only way to keep going

[magicratfingers]

[top-shelf-tender]

Resentment is weird because, yes,

I want to forgive you wholeheartedly,

but my mind is struggling to comprehend

why you did that to me…

[the-healing-mindset]

Sometimes, standing firm in your boundaries and walking away is the kindest thing you can do for yourself and others. It's about prioritizing your emotional well-being and recognizing that staying in a situation filled with resentment, even with good intentions, can be incredibly damaging. Remember, your peace and mental health are worth fighting for, even if it means letting go.

[classycookiexo]

[0oniee]

Having boundaries with toxic people sucks like actually. Like i love talking to you and being around you but certain things you do and say just hurt me. Like wdym I have to be the one to stop talking to you so i can feel better because you simply cant see the hurt you’re causing for not just me but you as well.

[toddycats]

My hope for whoever is reading this is that your life starts making sense and coming together. I hope the good days are right around the corner for you.

[atrovirens-mirage]

I wish to hyperfixate on actors and musicians instead of real people I interact with everyday, please. Brain chemistry please do that. Please take me out of this limerence. I beg. I am on my knees. My head is on the ground, chest on the floor. Please. Please. Please... i could be normal about this.

[an-overactive-mind]

I don't know who needs to hear this, but: minimizing, downplaying, or dismissing someone's symptoms, feelings, or thoughts IS NOT sympathy.

Criticizing someone and defending yourself by saying "I'm just trying to help you be a better person" without ever offering real validation or encouragement? You're not offering support; you're just tearing them down.

Trying to control someone isn't going to fix them. Telling them that they shouldn't let pain get them down won't lessen it. Preaching from your high horse doesn't help support them at all.

And if someone is doing this to you on a regular basis and refuses to listen? Get out. You deserve better.

[the1entirecircus]

Experiencing limerence as an aromantic is just the worse. Because like what do you mean I became obsessed over this one person who i have no romantic interest in? What do you mean I want to talk to them everyday and act all weird about it even though it is JUST platonic? What do you mean my autism is making it worse by having myself come off as strange and off-putting?? What do you mean I'm going to end up losing this person because of limerence making me act obsessive??? What do you mean I'm going to send paragraph texts thinking thats going to fix everything when in truth its just going to disturb the other person even more???? What do you mean I have to live with this?????

[an-overactive-mind]

It's really, REALLY hard to try and explain platonic limerence to anyone who hasn't experienced it because they assume it's a crush. "Girl, that's just a crush, you have to get over them." No. I have no interest in a relationship with them. I am well, WELL aware that such a thing would not even work. I've just tied my entire sense of self-worth to them and need to untangle that while also attempting to address the underlying issues that CAUSED it.

[notlayingroses]

Everything I read about recovering from burnout is like “it takes months or even years to fully recover” and it’s like okay…. I have a weekend before I gotta clock in on Monday

[hellothanksjellyfish]

Just gonna leave this here

[moonstone-reverie]

Me: Alright I’m going to be super productive tomorrow!

Me, the second my alarm goes off: