[nmbrs]

— buffy • 30 • (s)he

full name elizabeth

tme, bi, nonbinary, femme

nikkei (white & jpn)

autistic, disabled, mentally ill, plural, fat

this is a safe space for trans women

🍉🇵🇸

{most notable previous URLS: t4tvglow, ayekha}

[nmbrs]

done for now i just wanted to amplify some other more credible voices on the subject

[fourohfourlifenotfound]

I swear to god every year right before pride month someone tries to redesign the ace pride flag, citing boring colors or 'just not liking' the old flag.

If you are someone who sees the ace pride flag and cringes away from it, I need you to stop and examine why that is. Is it really because of the colors, or the (honestly kind of obscure) meanings of the stripes? Or is it because you associate that flag with a stereotype of ace people as boring / cringe / grumpy / etc?

Because, newsflash: Maybe you're too new to know this, but we as a community kind of went through this four fucking year long hate campaign called 'Ace Discourse' where people specifically crafted that stereotype to discredit us and exclude us from the queer community.

Changing the colors or design of the ace flag won't change that. It won't undo the harm we suffered to our community. It won't bring back the aces who went back in the closet and abandoned the community to save their mental health. It won't repair the damage done to our reputation by that stereotype, that continues to be perpetuated by bad actors fighting to keep the 'discourse' alive in 20-fucking-26

Like it or not, THIS is our flag. This is the most widely known symbol of our community. We can either continue to stay divided and obfuscate our identities under a dozen different color schemes, hoping against all reason that one of them will be the bandaid that fixes everything, or we can hold up OUR flag with pride and finally rebuild our community as a united front

[sanyu-thewitch05]

This is the most disingenuous analysis of the Asexual Progress Flag that I’ve seen.

The Asexual community been divided especially when it has continued to be absolutely horrible to Black Aces(something Ashabi the creator of the Asexual Progress flag and @debthedemi and even the black Ace culture blog have told people time and time again). The Asexual community is continuing to be horrible and furthering the “divide” by being racist to Ashabi over a flag that

1. She has been working on for 3 years

2. Got feedback from over 1000+ on why they didn’t like the white stripe (because why is a quarter of the asexual for allies). and what to replace it with.

3. The survey that got 1000+ responses probably would’ve gotten more feedback had AVEN decided to not continue their antiblackness towards Ashabi and other Black Aces (something @debthedemi could tell you as well)

Also as Ashabi has said time and time again that she isn’t replacing the four stripe asexual flag. She has said that it could be in tandem with it. Many black and POC aces have actually felt more seen and valued by Ashabi’s flag because the Asexual is so white-centered we don’t get a chance to speak out experiences without white people ruining it. You don’t get to tell us what flag is ours and you certainly don’t get to decide that the years of hard work by a Black Ace femme means jack shit to you because of Ace discourse. Ashabi was there for those four years too.

The four stripe flag is a bandaid as well considering white and non aces will continue to be racist to Black aces then say to our faces later every pride month “What the fuck is your problem, we’re both asexual! We’re in this together!” and expect us to wave that flag happily with yall knowing that we have to be in community that is populated by racists.

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[sanyu-thewitch05]

New Asexual flag design that was made by Ace in Grace.

Yes I know international asexuality day is over but I still wanted to share it.

It's International Asexuality Day

And I'm tired of overcentering 'Allies'. Let's talk about it.

[nmbrs]

just some thoughts about the fucking insanely unnecessary amount of hate the new ace flag variant is getting lmfao tldr you losers are fucking racist lmao

yeah i cannot even look through the tag for the new ace flag variant (all it is is a variant! much nicer than a lot of variants i have seen that celebrate shit like flat out Not Caring about other people yes that is one i just saw five minutes ago) because people are being such unapologetic DICKS about it when there is NO reason.

the only thing that even really sticks out to me is that this flag is created by a black woman and it happens to have a stripe dedicated to intersectionality and multiculturalism. and the vitriolic response is overwhelmingly white. i wonder what the connection is there. it's so hard to put my finger on.

you don't have to like every flag variant that comes out but this one is getting a LOT more flack than the MANY other variants that already cropped up within the last ten years and it is not difficult to see an underlying bias just seething out of some of these people who cannot seem to keep their mouth shut and just HAVE to rip apart an honestly gorgeous effort to be meaningful and inclusive and joyous. that is what this flag stands for. you people are tar pits.

[thescribblerdragon]

✨️✨️✨️New alternative to the ace flag just dropped!!!✨️✨️✨️

New Asexuality Flag; Final Updates and Thoughts

We've reached the finish line; Here's the Final Design!

Thank you so much to Ashabi (Ace in Grace) for creating this flag! The 2010 ace flag has been so important to me, but I've struggled with feeling like an outsider in the community and haven't felt as much kinship to it. This flag feels so much more welcoming and inclusive! I really like the new meaning for the color white (not for allies anymore, but for the spectrum of intimacy) and the new additions of pink and yellow!! The focus on joy and intersectionality and strengthening our community is especially warm and lovely!

✨️🖤🩶🤍💛🩷💜✨️

[parkchanwoohoo]

[nmbrs]

oh my god vriska, i am dumb

you are not dumb you're lucky to have forgotten about homestuck for a few blissful minutes

[nmbrs]

i might be dumb/uninformed but whats wrong with priska?

[steadyblossoming-deactivated201]

“How do we forgive our fathers? Maybe in a dream. Do we forgive our fathers for leaving us too often, or forever, when we were little? Maybe for scaring us with unexpected rage, or making us nervous because there never seemed to be any rage there at all? Do we forgive our fathers for marrying, or not marrying, our mothers? Or divorcing, or not divorcing, our mothers? And shall we forgive them for their excesses of warmth or coldness? Shall we forgive them for pushing, or leaning? For shutting doors or speaking through walls? For never speaking, or never being silent? Do we forgive our fathers in our age, or in theirs? Or in their deaths, saying it to them or not saying it. If we forgive our fathers, what is left?”

— Thomas Builds-the-Fire, Smoke Signals (Sherman Alexie)

[backshelfpoet]

“He says ‘I don’t get it, why are you still a virgin at 24?’ He says ‘I don’t believe you, I’ve seen you walk, virgins don’t walk like that’ He says, ‘That ain’t natural, people are supposed to fuck.’ He asks ‘Why though? No offence though.’ I ask ‘When was your first time?’ He says ‘I was 12’ He says ‘I know what you’re thinking, that’s too young.’ I look at his knuckles, he has two good hands. He says ‘She was older than me.’ I ask ‘How old?’ And he says ‘It’s better that the girl is older, that’s how I learnt all things I know’ He licks his lips. I ask again ‘How old?’ He says ‘I could use one finger to make you sob’ I think of my brother in prison and I can’t remember his face. I ask again ‘How old?’ He says ‘Boys become men in the laps of women, you know?’ I think of my mothers faced lined with her bad choices in men. He says ‘If you were mine you wouldn’t get away with this shit, I’d eat you for hours, I’d gut you like fruit.’ I think of my cousins circumcision, how she feels like a mermaid, not human from the waist down. He says ‘I’d look after you, you know?’ I laugh, I ask for the last time ‘How old?’ He says ’34.’ He says ‘She was beautiful though and I know what you’re thinking but it’s not like that, I’m a man, I’m a man, I’m a man. No one could ever hurt me’.”

— Punch in the Face Poetry: “crude conversations with boys who fake laughter often.,” Warsan Shire 

[nmbrs]

i bought some very femmey clothes recently, lookie

this is my torrid haul from today plus a bunch of stuff i Already Owned just to give a feel for my Budding Femmey Wardrobe, i have been really feeling very cute lately in a lot of these

i'm trying to replace my "boxy t-shirts and camo pants" wardrobe with just. pretty things. idk. sobs.

this is my special pride dress and cardigan for the winter obviously they are not meant to be worn together lol, dress will be paired with a denim jacket most of the time

and i also got this mesh o-ring cover up

and this skirt

and this pair of gauzy pants that are very flattering on me if i do say so myself

and that's today's haul, i am NOT looking at my torrid credit card balance right now no way (it's fine lmao)

anywho

a while back i got this dress that i wear all the time with a denim jacket

and this weird gauzy thing but i still have yet to find bottoms to wear it with because shorts do not work

this cardigan i LOVE so much and wear with a sage green maxi skirt and a navy blue tank top

aaaand this cardigan was actually my first adventurous purchase it's very

hm what else from torrid

uhhhh lemme go to a different website i have bought stuff from

oh i just got this poncho i'm waiting on right now

oh shit i have to reblog and add more LOL oops, standby

[nmbrs]

okay adding some more pictures because i got limited before

i got all these from halara i'm waiting on

the black is experimental as fuck and probably going to get sent back, probably the green courderoy too, but i know the longer ones are my style™ and the dress will be good with the denim jacket as well

oh I forgot my athletic dress from torrid, i can't find it on the app. oh well. it's black with built in shorts and a gauzy skirt.

uhhhhhhh midnight hour okay

i wore this skirt to the RKS concert

i don't actually love this next one tbh but it was one of my very first purchases a while back and yeah. it's actually a body suit and a skirt, and i don't dig how they look on me. if anyone wants them please hmu

this dress needs a belt but i'm fat so it's a work in progress

celestial cocktail dress i got to try for masquerade that will be versatile later

uhhh and i guess there is another dress that i also don't like very much lmao i am NOT digging the all black for myself these days. i can't find it on the website anymore, but if anyone is curious i can take a pic of it and if anyone wants it By All Means. Take Her Away.

on toooo dark cottage in the next reblog

[nmbrs]

and dark cottage time

i am getting these soon allegedly. this top will be in purple and it can be worn both of these ways

and this skirt is pretty nice too i like the blood color lol, i have tank tops that'll go well with it

FAVE TIME. i have this patchwork skirt i ADORE. not this tank top but this jacket as well, the artificer jacket. very soft and flowy

and i think that should be it for dark cottage

there are some "fancier" dresses i got from VERY cheap sites just for masquerade that aren't worth a picture but they did the job for that. i also got stuff from holy clothing for ren faire but that's another vibe entirely, not really everyday wear

all in all, i just wanna get rid of the body suit, sheer black skirt, and unpictured halter dress so if any goths want a go at it, hmu

so yes! this is just what i've been accumulating over the past many months and i don't feel as dysphoric which means i'm happier so i'll recover financially (lmao) and be cuter about it and everything

now the question is labels lmao

oh edit: i just ordered some belts after making this post because it made me realize. i have the power.

it will be a trial run. they're all very cheap lmao dw

[nmbrs]

oh i forgot one thing!

this jumpsuit as well :-)

i love it so much

i also have floral pants and a suede purple shacket from torrid i can't put pics of but they're fun and good for a job interview

[finnslay]

things you DO NOT need to be a man

a dick

he/him pronouns

XY chromosomes

things you DO need to be a man

the swiftness of a coursing river

the force of a great typhoon

the strength of a raging fire

the mysteriousness of the dark side of the moon

^this post was brought to you by LGBT^

Let's

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To defeat the huns

[pjackk]

Dont be very woried about me since i deserve all of this

[inthesensethat]

[kororobus]

my piece for the turbophone! (learned a lot of disturbing facts about seabirds in the process) we had 24 hours to draw from the previous participant's picture, check out the wonderful and unexpected transformations in all the teams!

[dappermouth]

And then you had that dream again.