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[coyotebabe-deactivated20230727]

leather is the halfway point between wood and fabric. and wood is halfway between fabric and metal. fabric is halfway between liquids and metal and liquids are halfway between clouds and fabric. having come back to fabric the best kinds are cotton, linen, and rayon. these are just the laws of nature

[coyotebabe-deactivated20230727]

i just realized this post is basically the 25 year old version of putting all my toys in a row

[writingwithcolor]

Words to Describe Hair

Image: Words to Describe Hair: Afro | Curly | Straight | Look | Texture | Style | Color 

Photo credits: Alex Nemo Hanse

This began as a guide to describing Afro / curly hair but of course, I got carried away. From look and texture of hair, colors and various styles, this guide serves as a thesaurus of sorts for hair, as well as pointers for use in your writing.

Please check under the read more for an accessible version of these lists

Culturally Significant Hair Coverings:

Know the meaning behind head wear and why it’s worn, when and by whom, such as a Native Nation’s headdress, before bestowing a character with it.

Head Coverings Resources:

More on various head coverings.

See here for more Islamic Veils. 

See here for more on the Nigerian gele.

See here on African American Headwraps. 

View our hijab and headscarves tags for discussion on these topics.

Afro - Curly - Straightened

There are many varieties of braids, twists & Afro hair styles; have some more!

African/Black Hair: Natural, Braids and Locks

African Hair: Braiding Styles 10 African Types

Describing Black (Afro) hair:

Appropriative Hairstyles: Keep in mind that Afro styles should be kept to those in the African Diaspora, such as dreadlocks, cornrows + certain and many braided styles. 

Also, “locs” is a more favored term over “dreadlocks” for many people.

Tread carefully describing Afro hair as “wild” “unkempt” “untamed” or any words implying it’s unclean or requires controlling.

“Nappy” and “wooly” are generally words to stay away from, the first having heavy negative connotations for many and the latter, though used in the Holy Bible, is generally not acceptable anymore and comes off as dehumanizing due to Animal connotations.

There are mixed feelings on calling Black hair “kinky.” I’m personally not opposed to the word in itself and usage depends on the person’s race (I’m more comfortable with a Black person using it vs. a Non-Black person) as well as their tone and context (if it’s used in a neutral or positive tone vs. negatively/with disdain). Get feedback on your usage, or simply forgo it.

See our tags “Black Hair” and “Natural Hair” for more discussion on describing Black hair.

Texture - Look - Styles

Hair Colors and Style

Writing Tips & Things to Keep in Mind:

Combination Words: Try combining words to illustrate look of hair. A character with springy coils that dance across her shoulders with every movement, the man with thick silvery hair slicked back into a ponytail…

Mind Perspective: Depending on POV, a character might not know exactly what cornrows or a coiffure style is, at least in name, and it might make more sense if they described the hairdo instead. More defining terms might come from a more knowing source or the wearer themselves. One book I read described a girl’s afro puff as “thick hair pulled up into a cute, curly, poufy thing on top of her head and tied with a yellow ribbon.”

POC & Hair Colors: People of Color’s hair comes in all shades and textures. There are Black people with naturally blond and loosely-textured to straight hair, East Asian people with red hair, and so on. Keep that in mind when coding characters if you tend to rely on hair color alone to denote a character is white vs. a Person of Color.

Related Tropes: There are tropes and discussion related to People of Color, colored hair, and light-colored hair and features. 

Check out these posts on the topic: The East Asian Women + Colored Hair Trope - Black Characters & “Wild” Hair Colors - POC w/ Supernatural Colorful Features. - ‘Uncommon’ Features & POC Characters

~Mod Colette

Read more for accessible versions of the lists:

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[hostileintent]

[steakmilk]

charlie and the chocolate factory was supposed to be an allegory of privilege about a poor black kid who inherited the chocolate factory against rich white kids

also granpa joe’s enthusiasm to go with charlie makes a lot more sense now if he lived through poverty and racism and never had any such opportunity

[bunnellia]

Click here to support Help pay for vet expenses for emaciated cat.

Hi, my name is Fawn. Yesterday at about 11 pm, my mom found a cat sitting in the middle of the road. The cat is highly emaciated beyond belief. She's lighter than a stuffed animal. She has no fat and almost no muscle on her. She has been eating and drinking some, but I would really like to bring...

hey y’all would you pls spread this donation post around, my mom found this precious baby but she’s in really bad shape and needs to go to the vet. thank u in advance.

[homeosapphic-deactivated2019111]

tonight in vermont news:

the police department in our state capital was called because a skunk was wandering down main street with its head stuck in a yogurt cup

not wanting to risk getting sprayed, and unsure of how to remove a skunk from a yogurt cup anyway, the police googled “how to get a skunk’s head out of a yogurt cup”

this led them to an article, published by Arizona police in 2015, titled How to Take a Yogurt Cup Off a Skunk’s Head Without Getting Sprayed

using the method outlined in that article, vermont police safely caught the skunk, removed the yogurt cup, and sent the animal on its way

they did this without anybody getting sprayed in the process

“and then we recycled the cup,” vermont police wrote on their department’s facebook page, “so a win all around.”

[blackness-by-your-side]

If you identify this scumbag, contact Shaun King.

Signal BOOOOOOST!

[as-warm-as-choco]

Don’t throw your ECLIPSE GLASSES in the trash.

You can donate them for other kids and humans to watch the 2019 eclipse!!! ISN’T THAT RAD!? Wait for info by The Astronomers Without Borders (AWB) : https://twitter.com/awb_org (I will edit this post as well)

[michellekpoems]

We teach our sweet little girls to be liars and fakers from a young age: No, I’m not hungry. Wow, that feels great. No, I don’t blame you. Yes, I love you. No, I’m fine.

Michelle K., We Raise Liars (via elizajumel)

[turing-tested]

why didnt you call the cops or cps?

how about this: when i was 9 and my stepdad beat me until i passed out and i told my friends at school, my teacher over heard and i was interviewed by cps. they also went to my house when i was at school. when i got home, my step father was waiting on the couch, and told me who visited him that day. he told me if i ever snitched again he would beat me to within an inch of my life.

how about this: my mother locked me out of the house when i was 14 and when i cried so loud the neighbors called the cops, the cop told me i should have been respectful of my mother who was trying to sleep.

how about this. the demon you know is less scary than the demon you don’t.

children in abused households are raised to fear the idea of being taken away. children in abusive households see that help makes things worse.

dont you ever blame an abuse victim for not going to the authorities.

[turing-tested]

yes this okay to reblog!

[weavemama]

and that’s the tea babes!!!

[weavemama]

Snopes article that confirms Abe’s opposition to racial equality. 

“During his famous debates with Sen. Stephen Douglas, Lincoln explained to the crowd: “I am not, nor ever have been, in favor of bringing about in any way the social and political equality of the white and black races … I am not nor ever have been in favor of making voters or jurors of Negroes, nor of qualifying them to hold office, nor to intermarry with white people; and I will say in addition to this that there is a physical difference between the white and black races which I believe will forever forbid the two races from living together on terms of social and political equality. And inasmuch as they cannot so live, while they do remain together there must be a position of superior and inferior, and I as much as any other man am in favor of having the superior position assigned to the white race.”Lincoln was no different than most white males, North and South, at the time. He was a white supremacist.”

Ugh…. yeah….. this fucker was racist af and everything we were taught in elementary school about how much of a White Savior™ he is for “freeing the slaves” is all a damn lie. His statues can burn as well.

[jackedjacket]

The reason why we say he freed all the slaves is because he signed the Emancipation Proclamation that DID free all the slaves!!!!

In the North.

Where there were no slaves to free.

The Emancipation Proclamation didn’t apply to the South because this was during the Civil War, after the South had left, so since they weren’t considered a part of the US anymore, the EP didn’t apply to them.

So, yeah. He actually freed no one.

[myrosecolouredgirl]

That’s not true actually. What really happened was worse.

 The Emancipation Proclamation only called for slaves located in states that were “in rebellion” to be freed. There were slave-holding states that were not in rebellion (part of the Confederacy) and slaves there were not freed. 

In other words, the Emancipation Proclamation was intentionally written so that slaves in states that had not joined the Confederacy were still enslaved. It only targeted slaves in Confederacy states. Which were, you know, in rebellion, and therefore didn’t have any real obligation to follow the laws of the Union or the proclamations of its president.

[thespacegoat-deactivated2016100]

the fact women are viewed as being more sexy at 15 than 40 is the creepiest thing in the world

[candiikismet]

Horrifying really

[muffininspiration]

Looking through the notes, and people seem to be justifying this as evolutionary biology. They believe that human females are most fertile at the age of 15. Considering your body isn’t even done growing at this age, I find this incredibly hard to believe. Really? The best time for you to push a baby out of your vagina is when your periods probably aren’t even regular yet? Like the younger you are, the more likely you are to DIE from child birth. Well anyway, most websites claim you’re most fertile in your 20s, peaking at 27… So congrats on trying to blatantly justify pedophilia by using bullshit science.

[lesbian-lizards]

Pregnancy/maternal issues is the LEADING killer of girls aged 15-19 globally. Not only is “15 year olds are more fertile” a creepy, pedophilic belief, it’s also an extremely dangerous one.

[geekandmisandry]

There are guys defending this mentality in the notes and as far as I am concerned they are all disgusting perverted pieces of shit.

[downwithabusiveshipping]

I’d like to add: this is just my opinion but:

It’s not about attraction.

-I mean, it is, on one level, but. On a deeper level:

It’s about power.

A 15 year old girl, generally speaking, is infinitely easier to manipulate and take advantage of than a grown woman. That’s why our culture teaches us to sexualize teenagers so much.

So yeah, it’s not because of “biology”, it’s because  our culture is an abuse culture and everything goes back to that.

[writingsforwinter]

I’m really, really, reallllyyy tired of men committing domestic violence and then reporters allowing quotes from neighbors like “They seemed like the perfect couple, he seemed so normal, he was a great family man, we never expected him to do this” to show up everywhere on tv and in the news and papers.

If you’re a journalist, reporter, or news anchor?

Don’t broadcast those quotes without explaining them.

Why? Because you’re playing into this toxic and disgusting narrative that domestic abusers just “snap,” that they lose their control and can’t help themselves but were otherwise decent human beings.

They’re not.

Don’t broadcast these quotes without explaining them.

Why?

Because you’re playing directly into the hands of stereotypes about domestic abusers - insinuating that these men are the “good ones,” and that most domestic abusers are alcoholics, are living in poverty, are homeless, never had jobs, never graduated from college, are “deadbeat dads,” etc. etc. 

No. Domestic abusers can be ANYONE. And typically, they’re white, wealthy, and privileged. They’re not the “good ones.” There are no good domestic abusers.

Also? Guess what. Domestic abusers are MANIPULATIVE. They are deadly, deadly smart. Why do you think the neighbors didn’t know? Why they saw the picture-perfect family? Because the abuser did everything they could to hide the abuse, and they were damn well good at it.

Don’t broadcast those quotes. The only reason you should broadcast those quotes is if you include all the commentary mentioned above to make a point. 

We don’t need any more stories about shocked neighbors. I’m sorry the neighbors are shocked and in grief, but this isn’t about them.

It’s about the victim. We have to stop miss-selling these stories just to earn a dime. 

If you’re going to include the quotes, tell us WHY the quotes matter - because they play into stereotypes, and they show us that abusers are hyper-image conscious, cunning, and smart. 

[angryjewishsuggestion]

hey @ goyim could y'all reblog this if you're actually willing to listen to Jewish people and protect us?

we really need allies right now, and I know seeing this on people’s blogs could be comforting to other Jewish people.

[stfuprolifers]

The president of our Michigan clinic escorting group drew this zine by hand! Check it out! 

[mercifulvoodoo]

I'm Being Evicted

I live in an apartment attached to an old home, which is empty. We have somewhere between 400-600 sq ft and that all. We also have a lot of stuff in the apartment, as this is my husband and I’s first apt together.

The other night, an electrical fire took out one of our wall sockets and half the electricity in the house is out. There was nothing near the socket, and the same things have been plugged into it for years

We call our landlord, who calls an electrician. The electrician says the wiring is fucked up to start with, needs redone. It was done in the 40’s. Landlord doesn’t care, says it’s our fault anyway and tells up we’re basically animals for having so much stuff and says he’s evicting us.

I know there are legal resources I can look into since this is shady as fuck, but in the meantime, I still have to move me, my husband and our terrier to…somewhere we can afford. Which is not really anywhere.

So to my RP friends, I’m sorry if I seem out of it, or don’t reply quickly. I’ve just been hit by hard times and I have to get us to somewhere safe by next month this time. Please be patient with me.

[mercifulvoodoo]

Some asked if I had a PayPal - you can find it using [email protected]

I actually have 2 storage units already, one where I live, and one in my hometown from when we sold my dads place. So I can store some stuff. I can’t legally live there though, that’s on the contract, or I totally would be.

I need to figure out what legal issues are even at work here. We are on a month to month lease, but landlord has not been able to produce said lease for 5 years now.

I’m so stressed, I just wanna cry. I’m sorry.

[mercifulvoodoo]

Husband made a gofundme: https://www.gofundme.com/qshdw3xt

I wish I was better at tumblr moniker and could make a link or whatever. I’m sure you’re all tired of hearing of this by now, but this is kind of my life.

We needed to stay here through Sept 2018 just so I could finish a bankruptcy and open up enough money for us to move, but that’s not happening.

[mercifulvoodoo]

Updates: I’m typing this by the side of the road. On top of everything, my car died today. The tow truck won’t be here for an hour, and the police basically refused to come wait with me, regardless of traffic.

This is my only transport, my only way to work and the only way for me to support my family. And now I can’t do that. I’m losing everything without a car.

I don’t know what I’m gonna do guys.

I’ve never been so scared.

[libraford]

Hey guys, I hate to be a bug about this, but these folks are in a dire situation. To recap, their landlord is blaming them for damage caused by sub-par wiring in their apartment and they’re being evicted. Just now, their only method of transit died by the side of the road. 

The best way to help their situation right now is money for:

legal fees to fight their landlord

fees for moving (to haul their stuff and also a deposit on a new place)

car repairs

Here is the Gofundme page again if you missed it. 

These folks are awesome, they make great art and they’ve made a lot of sacrifices to do the work that they love. Please consider a donation. If you cannot donate, please boost. 

[voidfort-has-moved]

anyway here’s your reminder that lgbt muslims exist and islamophobia shouldnt be tolerated within lgbt communities!

shout out to lgbt muslims living in places where our identities are still criminalised. 

[voidfort-has-moved]

btw i encourage everyone especially non muslim lgbt ppl to reblog this. if you see islamophobia within the community, you should help us instead of telling us our religion is ‘horrible’