I've finally organized (the majority of) my posts with the proper tags! I'm so proud of myself, I genuinely thought I was never gonna do it but hey, miracles do happen after all!
It took me almost one year but now I've fully realized the importance of tags, this is what I call progress...
It was actually quite a helpful thing to do because I've identified what my major themes are and well, turns out I do write about a lot of stuff, don't I?
I'm sad to report that not all tags work for all posts, I don't know why this is happening and, honestly, I don't care right now. Things will sort themselves out... somehow... magically... in the future.... lol.
I like some of the names I've chosen, some others are too prosaic, what can I say? Inspiration comes and goes.
#the book of john: john winchester as a character is my current hyperfixation.
#myths we live by: general observations and/or criticism about the underlying myths that are prominent/popular in the stories I consume and that therefore play a part in my understanding of the world.
#movies in spn: it's not shocking news to anyone but once I've personally realized the depth to which movies in SPN are not just used as references but as foundational structures to write episodes on it was over for me.
#destiel and betrayal: dean and cas relationship as a marriage of (con)sorts based on betrayal.
#on resurrection: I see resurrections as rebellions against Time, a way to keep the past forever alive, which is the ultimate undead that must rise to be faced etc. And I use Supernatural to explore my obsession, thank you very much.
#billie won theory: I think Billie won because the weight of the role of Death in the narrative was eventually re-established. On one hand, it's a postive thing because Death is too much of a powerful symbol to be discarded the way it was in S10, it was bound to re-emerge. On the other, the way it was re-framed is quite... bad because it gives a problematic and conservative flavor to the finale where Death is glorified and romanticized. After all, let's all go back to the jolly old times that never were jolly, instead they're just old, and be content that there will be happiness in the after-life, yeah! No thank yewwwwww.
#phd in spn s12: I have a fascination with s12 which I can't really explain to be honest. I don't even like the BMOL storyline! But I love Mary and I LOOOOVE. LOOOOOOOOOOVE Kelly Kline so, you know. Maybe that's it.
#time travels in spn: I have a lot to say about time travels but I never manage to write down what I want the way I want so there's not so much in here for now. But maybe... somehow... magically... in the future... I'll be able to write coherently so that people can actually understand me etc.
#spn angels: I have. A.LOT.to say about them. I love them, they're the ultimate dysfunctional family. Apart from Cas, Metatron is my fave, be warned.
#spn s9 is complicated: well, nothing more to add. It is what it is. BUT, ALSO. S9 is kinda good, like... the episodes are, like, not bad at all. And the plot more or less makes sense which is a huge compliment for Supernatural.
#super-m/Others: mothers in SPN are my favorite thing. I mean, I know this is supposed to be THEE show about absent fathers but I honestly don't care, SPN mothers are wild and most of them are also dead. Lot to think about.
#spn lines: some lines that I like or that I want to analyze.
#jack the puer: I have this theory, you know, and it's about Jack and how he perfectly fits the imaginal archetype of the "Puer Aeternus" and one day I'll write more about it, hence the tag. It's like a promise to myself.
#b/w spn: this is about how SPN is a show about dichotomies and how sometimes the lines between polarities get blurred and some other times (too many times) are reinforced much to my chagrin.
Okay, soooooo, finally.... Order in my land of Chaos! Hope you enjoy it! <3
If there's sexual abuse subtext no there isn't, if there's allusion to sexual abuse you're ruining it for everyone else by talking about it, if there's a metaphor for sexual abuse you're reading too far into it and it's actually a metaphor for anything more palatable, and if there's on-screen sexual abuse? Well that's exploitative torture porn, of course.
Something I see getting overlooked a lot when discussing queercoding in historical media is that in many cases it's not evidence that the writers secretly shipped it; it was aimed at straight dudes specifically to freak them out. Depicting a male villain as sexually interested in a male hero reads as horror to the cishet male audience. Like, Venom didn't spend years and years being blatantly characterised as Spider-Man's creepy stalker ex because Marvel's writers were all closeted yaoi fans. That was meant to be scary – which of course doesn't mean you can't read it differently, but don't give them credit they don't deserve!
You can make a movie with where the only white character is a man named Ray Cism whose one line of his 16 seconds of screen time is “I seriously hate women and minorities.” and you’ll find fifty bajillion reader x Ray Cism fanfics and renaissance style drawings of him with a halo of golden light
one very real thing i've learnt over the past two years is that turning the things you hate doing into a habit is one of the best ways to improve yourself. this might sound counterintuitive, absurd or even dangerous but, like everything, when contextualized it actually makes lot of sense.
the thing about habits is that they tend to yield results. and once you see results, you start hating the thing you used to hate a little less. until one day, in a way that seems magic but it's real, you actually end up liking the version of you that has worked so hard to get beyond something they hated and become better as a consequence.
it's like... you don't see "the thing" per se anymore, you see how your relationship to it has changed and how you've grown... it's a feeling that really can't be bought nor given, only earned.
efforts towards a "positive vision of masculinity" or whatever are so funny because what these guys are trying to figure out is literally "what's a way of being a good person that's Not For Girls™"
The concept that married people live longer is interesting. I'm sure there is some merit to the idea that if you're married there is someone there to nag you about going to the doctor, but I think much larger factors are having the finances of dual incomes and access to an immediate support person.
Surgeries require having a designated person to look after you. Many injuries require driving to somewhere like an emergency room which can be hard to do if you are the one injured. If you're home with the flu, it's hard to tell when it's bad enough to go to the hospital without another person checking on you. And if you pass out it requires another person to find you like that to get medical aid.
You can prop it up as the benefits of marriage, but I think there's a much deeper discussion to be had about how we've built society around marriage as an inevitable conclusion and neglected to build support systems that function outside of romantic pairings.
Here’s the thing. Married MEN live longer. The statistics for married women are less clear, perhaps because one of the things that causes premature death for married women is getting murdered by their husbands. It’s good to have someone around to drive you home after your surgery, to nag you to go to the doctor, to take you to the ER if you need it, and it’s usually wives that are taking on that care role for husbands, but it’s often sisters and mothers who are doing it for other women.
Single women also tend to build networks in a way that single men do not, so they get the benefits of relationships in other ways.
I’m curious what the statistics will look like among same-sex married pairs, because I feel like they are both more likely to get the benefits of marriage than women who are married to men.
okay so i reblogged this but i am reblogging again to issue a correction on a thing i think is important: while obviously intimate partner homicide is obviously the most likely murder to experience as a woman, murder is just not a very likely way to die, and men are much more likely to be murdered, in general, than women both globally and in almost every individual country.
it's much more likely than married women die earlier because of the labor and time their husbands extract from them. married mothers get less sleep than single mothers. let that sink in.
i do think pop-feminist concerns tend to overvalue the more dramatic crimes men commit against women and undervalue the banal extraction of labor involved in everyday gender relations.
