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[effiecalvin]

After no end of technical issues, proofs for DOTS have finally been approved and I should have preorder links oh fuck I'm bleeding

[effiecalvin]

there was a scab on my nose and now its a lot of blod

[effiecalvin]

anyway preorder links soon

[v4mpgrrl]

SAINT SEULGI OF THE DAY!!!!

[cozycryptidcorner]

So the sun doesn’t set in most parts of Alaska during the summer, so fireworks during the Fourth of July doesn’t really work. Instead, you can go watch cars being launched off a cliff 🤟😛

You can hear me screaming myself hoarse haha.

[cheaphalloweencostume]

“everyone is mad at me and they just won’t tell me” —> “no one has said anything about being mad at me and i haven’t done anything to warrant being mad at so if someone is silently fuming about me and not saying anything that’s their problem and actually quite weird of them and i can effortlessly move on with my life”

[cheaphalloweencostume]

this took SUCH a huge deal of unlearning because, like so many of you, i came out of a home where being quietly in trouble WAS the default state, and i DID grow up not just with the assumption but borderline religious conviction that Everyone Is Mad At Me, I Am Bad, I Must Exist In A Constant State of Attempting to Pacify The Natural Rage I Inspire In Everyone. and no it actually turns out that my family are the freaks . and yours are too

[cheaphalloweencostume]

“this isn’t true because i DEFINITELY silently fume at people in the hopes they’ll figure out what they did and apologize” that’s not good. you shouldn’t do that

“this isn’t true because the ex-friendship that traumatized me ended explosively after they were mad at me and never told me why” that’s not good. they shouldn’t be doing that

“i don’t think this is true because my current friend group is constantly icing me out until i figure out what ive done to upset them and properly apologized without being told” hey thats not good. they should not be doing that

if the peacefulness of your relationship with someone (familial, romantic, friendly, anything) can be destroyed by effective communication/asking them for effective communication, you have got to get out of there. if you can’t get out of there, you’ve got to throw away any ideas about what that person thinks of you because they have their own shit to figure out before they can accurately read anyone else

[termagax]

"you only like her because shes a woman" yup "you let female characters get away with too much" yes "if a man did this you would hate him for it" indeed

[catmanbowser]

Im fucking losing it over this entry. Don't get mad.

[justarandomart]

dont get mad ok

[3liza]

cancel your mullvad subscription

tech news today is that Mullvad VPN has gone mask-off about being the major funding source for the Swedish Orebro party, who are racist nationalists. unfortunately all discussion of this is occurring on fucking Mastodon instances i can barely load

if you are a mullvad customer (as i am) and want to get out, here is guidance from this guy

If you don't want your Mullvad fees going to fund neo-Nazis - or @mozilla VPN fees, which is rebranded Mullvad - cancel and get a refund immediately that's whose "free speech" the official account is talking about here, and that's where your fees go to EDIT: Mullvad has a 14 day refund policy. But the message below is a direct call to ask for a refund if you don't want to give money to Nazis. If Mullvad refuse a refund, call your consumer protection agency. And reverse credit card charges on the basis of deceptive refund policy representations. It's not like you ever want to be a Mullvad customer again. archive copy of Mullvad statement: https://web.archive.org/web/2026062717

[lesblackwidow]

reminder to visit museums, even if you feel out of place. you feel out of place because there is an established concept of inaccessibility of "high culture" to the masses, purposefully developed to distinguish between social classes.

take up space, read the plaques, get the audioguides. you are just as entitled and right in being there. visit museums, boycott museums, be expressive about your opinions about museums.

a lot of museums are free, or discounted for youth and students. take advantage of that. check your local art museum. check your local history museum. museums are there for you, they are there to educate the public, not to distinguish between class. it isn't a private collection, it's a public exhibit.

GO TO MUSEUMS!!!!!!!

[caniddoe]

Don't shy away from chatting with staff and curators either!!! Please!!! They love it when people come to them with questions or a desire to learn further!! Get involved, see if they take volunteers, as local museums often struggle to receive the funding to be staffed properly, and public assistance helps greatly. Museums, as institutions, are flawed, but many, many folks involved with them do want to make them better, and the way they get better is by diverse bodies, voices, and people engaging with them!! PLEASE go be a nerd.

[effiecalvin]

I got a papercut drawing this.

[effiecalvin]

"Adale, where did our floor go?"

[amanonthecorner]

I'm sure I'm decades late on this, but I really appreciate how RGU maintains a stance on "playing the roles authentically or duplicitously is largely irrelevant; it's the roles themselves that are harmful and toxic".

It doesn't matter if you think marrying this gal will allow you to make music, give you power, or make you noble/chivalrous. It's seeing her as a means that is the heinous act.

And sin, young man, is when you treat people as things.

Terry Pratchett

[effiecalvin]

The biggest fantasy element in TOI is the authority figures tell the peasants to stay inside while they go out and fight the monsters

[effiecalvin]

Divine right of kings is an easier sell when the king and also his queen are not only prepared but honestly psyched to throw down with whatever the fuck is stealing our goats

[regallibellbright]

Tonight's agenda:

Finish writing at least the penultimate scene of Reaching Out, Reaching Down?

Get drawn into a debate about Revolutionary Girl Utena, culminating in rewatching episodes 39 and 38 (in that order) to beat by beat analyze the presence of Dios as an ultimately useless ideal of princelihood and episode 38's various refutations of the idea of a prince, to argue the thesis that Utena does NOT ultimately become a true prince, what she does is inspire Anthy to leave through the power of HERSELF separate from any princely ideal.

Spend two and a half hours on that, instead.

Eh, I don't regret it in the slightest. And I'll be seeing the movie IN THEATERS in two weeks, so. May as well refresh myself on one of the most satisfying finales in television.

[skeletonclaw]

Gav’s Tavern Hi, I hope you like this. It is different from what I usually do. Also it was a lot of work.

[catprinx]

What does it mean to have a rival?

Lydia and Elaine from Just Between Us, a sapphic YA figure skating graphic novel about two girls who fall in love during the high-pressure year leading up to the olympics. Releases 2/24/26, find it anywhere you can buy books!

[effiecalvin]

Amazon (US) Amazon (UK) Amazon (Canada) Barnes and Noble Kobo Waterstones Bookshop Books-a-million

[homunculus-argument]

Those who think that wisdom and whimsy are mutually exclusive have neither. It's vitally important to do the right thing when the consequences are dire, and to do a whole bunch of utterly frivolous silly dumb shit when it doesn't matter what you do.

[localcryptidsteg]

Often, the wise thing must be disguised as silly frivolous dumb shit in order to actually work

[bonyassfish]

I still do not understand the people who say voting doesn’t matter…why else would there be a concerted effort to gerrymander and redistrict and purge voter rolls and create draconian ID laws? (Mostly targeting black voters and majority black districts)

Isn’t it kind of insulting to the people who fight for an actual democracy, to the places in the world without free and fair elections, to the people (particularly black, native, and disabled people) who are regularly purposefully excluded from voting, to just say it doesn’t matter? How the fuck do you view your own inaction as some type of moral high ground? How did we get from “the Democratic Party has major issues in regards to corporate donors and neoliberalism” to “both parties are equally bad”

I am not playing this game with you. It does make a difference who is in power. It does make a difference who draws election maps, who sits on the courts, who decides funding, who enforces laws (and what laws they do or do not enforce).