Andersmmg

[airtightalibiproductions]

New logo who dis? 👀 We love Amelia Darnell's updated look and hope you do too!

[unconventiononthelawofthesea]

atheist quarterback throws a hail darwin

[akindlyowl]

agnostic quarterback throws a hail maybe

[elly-mental]

Sometimes I really think people hear that "(some) autistic people see their interactions with others as transactional" and immediately assume that's a bad thing. They hear "transactional" and receive it as "we're soulless automatons incapable of engaging with other humans unless it directly benefits us."

But that's simply not true, is it? At least for me, "transactional" just implies that I have a goal in mind for this interaction, and once that goal is achieved, I see the interaction as a success. That "transaction" doesn't have to be something cold and detached from others. Sometimes, the thing I'm trying to accomplish is "make this other person happy" or "help this other person with their problem." I give them something (support, assistance, a gift) and they give me something (the satisfaction of helping them or making them happy).

"Transactional," to me, can even be a good thing. Transactional can mean, "I don't have an ulterior motive for this interaction." It can mean, "I am having this interaction with you and I do not expect anything from you going forward." I don't necessarily do nice things for people because I expect something in return later or even because I want to become friends with them. I do nice things because I think I should do nice things. If I give someone a compliment, it's because I think there's something about them I should compliment. If I help someone with a problem, it's because I think someone should help them.

I think that's something neurotypical people just have a really hard time understanding. Autistic people can be nice, have empathy, and appear friendly and social, like anyone else. We just might not read into the interaction as deeply as a neurotypical person does or realize how a neurotypical person might view the interaction. That doesn't automatically mean we're cold unfeeling robots. It's just a different way of understanding what it means to "interact."

[intheclowncartrunk]

Chairs

Sitting on a stool

Waiting in lines

Standing to perform at concerts

Playing board games

Walking to class, the store, or church

Playing games that my niblings want me to join

Obstacles that feel insurmountable

My 5 year old niece, arranging pillows for me in her playhouse

My little sister, sacrificing her own strength to hold me up

My flute teacher, arranging chairs across the stage for me

My mom, constantly making sure I am comfortable enough

My family, changing their plans so my back is supported

My best friend, making me brave enough to sit, and often demanding it

Through them, I feel the intense love that the world has to offer

[fagcrisis]

i hate the word spicy can we bring back calling things erotic

[maryoliveoil]

rolling up to Wendy's to get an erotic chicken sandwich

[jovishark]

some advice for people entering their 20s:

-dont go to the emergency room with dental problems. go to the dentist

-bagged greens are cheaper than pre-made salads

-taco bell is NOT worth the money anymore. 1/4 cup mayo, 1/4 cup sour cream, 3 tblspoons pickled jalapenos+2tblspoons of the jar liquid, 2 tsp paprika 1 tsp cumin 1 tsp garlic powder 1 tsp onion powder salt+pepper. all in your blender. creamy jalapeno sauce

-dont quit your job unless you have a bunch of job interviews lined up immediately after

-use resources. food bank, unemployment, housing assistance, financial aid, etc. yes there will be paperwork. but Do It

-dont stay awake longer than 20 hours. you Will start to become impulsive and cranky. resting for 20 minutes is better than trying to stay awake

-for every 2 hours you spend looking up close at screens, spend 20 minutes looking at something far away from you. stretch your wrists a lot

-dont do that yoga stretch where you roll your head around your shoulders. youre grinding down the joints in your neck

-be nice to your friends, bullying them as a joke gets old. if you need a ride somewhere at least offer them gas money

-brush your teeth at any time of the day but especially before you sleep. dont snack in bed if you can help it. make your bed the Clean Teeth Zone. keep floss picks by your bed

-dont tell your boss youre adhd/autism/depression/suicidal. dont trust your coworkers with that. you NEVER know how people will take it and its none of their business

-train your pets to go to the front door when they hear a fire alarm

-get regular oil changes

[vexheart]

The fine line between wanting to say so much and knowing that it's better to say nothing.

[dogpuppy]

[revivivivify]

[the-greatest-taste-around]

nice outfit LOSER. 1443 called but in a dialect of Early Modern English that hadn't experienced the Great Vowel Shift yet so i don't know what it said

[emwheezie]

Salad

[headspace-hotel]

thought about that quote "homosexuality exists in 1000+ species, homophobia only exists in one" but how awkward would it be if we discovered another species that was homophobic

"homosexuality exists in 1000+ species, homophobia only exists in two. what? oh, humans, and the yellow-patched cuboid pinecone wren that was recently discovered on an island off the coast of canada. they're fucking bigots"

[depsidase]

[confused-book-noises]

Crochet

[omtai]

the shit you do to make a dying phone work when you dont wanna buy a new phone is amazing. my phone no longer charges unless i plug and unplug the charger exactly ten times & then flip the charger around then it works. I dont want to say i have to fuck the port a little bit first but i have to fuck the port a little bit first

[versesofourhearts]

-versesofourhearts

[eymurn]

Don’t let your empathy be greater than your self respect.