How do you mend a broken heart?
First step? You don't. It would be silly to even think that you can. You're fooling yourself. There are no ways that you can mend your heart let alone find somebody who'd do it for you. Give it time, let yourself feel the pain and let those freaking tears fall because believe me when I say it would feel good to just let it all out.
And just like any other wound, it would sting. A LOT. It's nothing like getting stung by a bee or bitten by an ant (no matter how big the ant is!). The pain would feel like nothing you've ever felt. Regardless of how many heartbreaks you've experienced. And it won't even matter how long you've been together with this person. If you loved and trusted, the pain would always always feel worse each time. No two pain or heartaches is the same.
It would still hurt like FUCK.
And again, like any other wound, brokenhearts would look ugly. You'll feel ugly as hell and you'll question all the saints and angels in heaven why it has to happen to you. No, you are not ugly. You're not horrendous. And yes, you have a beautiful personality and you are every bit as beautiful. All your friends can atest to that. Hell, you can ask anybody you want (just not your ex or his current) and they will tell you that you are brilliant and smart and beautiful. But even with all the confirmation and testimonies, you will never get your answer of "Why did he leave?" NEVER.
The problem is not on you. Believe that. Understand that it's not also your fault why you fell off your bike when you're a kid. Things just happen, and some things don't work out as planned. And falling - whether in love or off a bike - is meant to teach you a lesson.
And your wound would itch.
It's your body telling you that you're healing - all by yourself.And it's going to be tempting not to do something about that itch. You're gonna want to call the guy just to hear his voice even for a few seconds. You won't even say hello. You're just gonna wait for him to answer his phone and then end it once you hear his voice. DON'T. Please restrain yourself. You're only going to make your wound worse. Don't fool yourself with the idea that scratching that wound will make you feel good afterwards. It's the opposite, trust me. Don't pick up that phone, don't text him and don't even look into his profile page. Just STOP. If you proceed on acting on that itch and after you look back on your wound - it's bleeding. AGAIN. OUCH.
You'd have to start over again. Yikes!
So, no matter how bad the itch gets, no matter how much you want to go over his house and talk to him - telling yourself you want closure or perhaps a decent goodbye - stop. You're on your way to healing and recovery. Why go back? That pain that you feel right now is gonna go away. That ugly wound you see? It won't even leave a scar if you're really careful. All that would be left is the memory of how painful it is to fall. Nothing more. Don't fret, you're doing just fine.
Finally, never forget why and how you fell. Make it a life's lesson. Remember all the reason why it happened so it can make you a better person. And remembering should not turn you into a bitter human being. NEVER. It will be hard, yes and everyday will be a struggle. It's true. However, your experiences may it be good or bad, should not make you weary of the human race. Indeed, it won't be the last time that you'll fall and get hurt but it doesn't mean you should stop trying. Keep moving and take risks. Don't let that one bad fall burn you for the rest of your life. Keep living. You'll get there. I promise. And once you find that person you want to take risks with - you're armed now with life's lesson and experiences. You're wiser. :)
