8 Kuro

What up? I'm Laura from Kentucky. Japanese translator, substitute Doctor Who, expert fangirl/stalker, and soon-to-be ALT on the JET Program. Follow my blog for all kinds of dumb things and pretty boys. XD

[anthracoceros]

some of y'all didnt grow up as the person nobody has a crush on and it really shows

[areea-chan]

I definitely was that person and it definitely shows on my weirdass self.

[bemylova]

stop FUCKING telling people that no one will love them untill they love themselves. stop shoving this idea down everyone’s throat that they are unworthy of love because of their own struggle.

[areea-chan]

I absolutely hate this idea.  People keep saying this like it’s the reason I haven’t been in a relationship yet like there aren’t other factors.  Just because you don’t love yourself doesn’t mean other people can’t or won’t love you.

[fdsfjdsfjkf93723679267-deactiva]

millennial culture is being unable to eat dinner unless you are watching something at the same time. movie? tv show? twitch stream? doesn’t matter. just have to be able to click play

[planethealth]

i mean if im by myself what else am i gonna do?? be alone with my thoughts?? out of the question

[hilarioushumorfromouterspace]

[dankmemeuniversity]

[thatsbelievable]

[daco-broman]

shit I missed my window, next week I guess

[the-worm-man]

Reblog on Tuesday to let your followers know it’s safe to leave the bog

[scumbagsblog]

Story time because this was one of the most surreal experiences of my life and I need to talk about it

So when I was sixteen I worked in a Dairy Queen in a mall (which was as awful as it sounds) and during prom season we had people that’d walk around in prom attire to kill time before the dance started.

You also need to know that among those suits in boxes you can buy at Macy’s is a three-piece American flag suit. I’m not joking.

So imagine, if you will, six white guys who were fuck-you tall all walking around the mall in this exact suit and matching white cowboy hats. Hilarious in and of itself, my coworkers and I were all cackling.

BUT THEN

My mall also had these motorized animals you can ride, they were marketed towards kids but there’s no way they’re gonna say no to an adult willing to pay $14 to ride on an elephant for half an hour

So like ten minutes after we see them, all of them come

RIDING ALONG IN A FUCKING CONGA LINE

Just these six identical cowboys each on their own animal, each animal blaring it’s own rendition of B-I-N-G-O, and I basically nearly burst into tears.

I hope they went on to start their own boy band or something.

[antique-scarecrow]

the only acceptable usage of ‘Boys will be boys’

[alifechasingchaos]

Safety in Isolation.

When I was a kid, being alone meant I was safe.

There was no one there to be enraged or erratic; no one around who could elicit my fear. I became accustomed to seeking refuge in a quiet space.

Unfortunately, this habit seems to have followed me into adulthood.

I had learned that a safe life is a solitary one, but this sentiment became a catalyst for my lifelong tendency to isolate.

The pangs of loneliness aren’t even enough to draw me out.

I crave to be known while never wanting to be seen.

[onefitmodel]

realising that we’re almost halfway through the year 2013 and i have literally achieved nothing 

[favejonasbrother-deactivated201]

realising that you’re reading this almost halfway through 2014 and still haven’t achieved anything

[fakefrom2014]

realizing that you’re reading this almost halfway through 2015 and still haven’t achieved anything

[waluigi-on-a-squeegee]

realizing that you’re reading this almost halfway through 2016 and still haven’t achieved anything

[iagreewithgaydicks420]

realizing that you’re reading this almost halfway through 2017 and still haven’t achieved anything

[ramenis4foradollar]

realizing that you’re reading this almost halfway through 2018 and still haven’t achieved anything

[howhyisyouhere]

realizing that you’re reading this almost halfway through 2019 and still haven’t achieved anything

[githvyrik]

people who hate chatty cats are the worst like. your small friend is singing a song just for you! they have things to say! listen to them

[kedreeva]

Not only that, but cats basically meow JUST for your benefit! They don’t talk to other cats with meowing- really only kittens, because kittens are still learning how to speak cat. But cats have realized you can’t speak cat, but you DO respond to meowing, so they accommodate you!! They want to talk to you so much that these little creatures who aren’t really about doing work if they don’t have to are willing to work to talk to you!! That’s amazing!!

[spomincica]

I train all my cats to be chatty and yesterday I saw one of them on the stairs and I said “hey Nala, what’s up” and she meowed super quietly so I said “sorry, can you enunciate” and swear to god she looked at me and yell meowed for a full half a minute

[burntcopper]

…I’m not seeing anything wrong, per se.

[queenoftheimps]

this was great, but the part that’s killing me is Netflix’s follow-up

[dependsoncontext]

[awed-frog]

thanks I hate it

[siderealsandman]

You Got a Friend In Horse 

[garrettauthor]

YOU DO NOT HAVE A FRIEND IN HORSE

[mornington-the-crescent]

THERE’S A SNAKE GREEK IN MY BOOT HORSE

[merrybitchmas91-deactivated2019]

Why "doing something relaxing” does not help your anxiety

A lot of the time when people give advice intended to relieve anxiety, they suggest doing “relaxing” things like drawing, painting, knitting, taking a bubble bath, coloring in one of those zen coloring books, or watching glitter settle to the bottom of a jar.

This advice is always well-intentioned, and I’m not here to diss people who either give it or who benefit from it. But it has never, ever done shit for me, and this is because it goes about resolving anxiety in the completely wrong way.  

THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO when suffering from anxiety is to do a “relaxing” thing that just enables your mind to dwell and obsess more on the thing that’s bothering you. You need to ESCAPE from the dwelling and the obsession in order to experience relief.

You can drive to a quiet farm, drive to the beach, drive to a park, or anywhere else, but as someone who has tried it all many, many times, trust me–it’s a waste of gas. You will just end up still sad and stressed, only with sand on your butt. You can’t physically escape your sadness. Your sadness is inside of you. To escape, you need to give your brain something to play with for a while until you can approach the issue with a healthier frame of mind. 

People who have anxiety do not need more time to contemplate, because we will use it to contemplate how much we suck.

In fact, you could say that’s what anxiety is–hyper-contemplating. When we let our minds run free, they run straight into the thorn bushes. Our minds are already running, and they need to be controlled. They need to be given something to do, or they’ll destroy everything, just like an overactive husky dog ripping up all the furniture. 

Therefore, I present to you: 

THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT DO WHEN ANXIOUS

–Go on a walk

–Watch a sunset, watch fish in an aquarium, watch glitter, etc.

–Go anywhere where the main activity is sitting and watching

–Draw, color, do anything that occupies the hands and not the mind

–Do yoga, jog, go fishing, or anything that lets you mentally drift 

–Do literally ANYTHING that gives you great amounts of mental space to obsess and dwell on things.

THINGS YOU SHOULD DO WHEN ANXIOUS:

–Do a crossword puzzle, Sudoku, or any other mind teaser game. Crosswords are the best.

–Write something. It doesn’t have to be a masterpiece. Write the Top 10 Best Restaurants in My City. Rank celebrities according to Best Smile. Write some dumb Legolas fanfiction and rip it up when you’re done. It’s not for publication, it’s a relief exercise that only you will see. 

–Read something, watch TV, or watch a movie–as long as it’s engrossing. Don’t watch anything which you can run as background noise (like, off the top of my head, Say Yes to The Dress.) As weird as it seems, American Horror Story actually helps me a lot, because it sucks me in. 

–Masturbate. Yes, I’m serious. Your mind has to concentrate on the mini-movie it’s running. It can’t run Sexy Titillating Things and All The Things That are Bothering Me at the same time. (…I hope. If it can, then…ignore this one.) 

–Do math problems—literally, google “algebra problems worksheet” and solve them. If you haven’t done math since 7th grade this will really help you. I don’t mean with math, I mean with the anxiety. 

–Play a game or a sport with someone that requires great mental concentration. Working with 5 people to get a ball over a net is a challenge which will require your brain to turn off the Sadness Channel. 

–Play a video game, as long as it’s not something like candy crush or Tetris that’s mindless. 

THINGS YOU SHOULD DO DURING PANIC ATTACKS ESPECIALLY:

–List the capitals of all the U.S. states

–List the capitals of all the European countries

–List all the shapes you can see. Or all the colors. 

–List all the blonde celebrities you can think of.

–Pull up a random block of text and count all the As in it, or Es or whatever.  

Now obviously, I am not a doctor. I am just an anxious person who has tried almost everything to help myself.  I’ve finally realized that the stuff people recommend never works because this is a disorder that thrives on free time and free mental space. When I do the stuff I listed above, I can breathe again. And I hope it helps someone here too. 

(Now this shouldn’t have to be said but if the “do nots” work for you then by all means do them. They’ve just never worked for me.)

[lovelyplot]

This would’ve been great an hour ago

[h0lyhandgrenade]

This is good advice for anxious peeps and peeps with anxious friends. Seems obvious now but I hadn’t thought about it this way before.

[randomslasher]

oh heck this is…really really useful advice.I wonder if it would also help when my brain does that ‘too fast can’t settle’ thing and flips from activity to activity at ludicrous speeds.I think I’ll try it next time. <3

[anxietyproblem]

[fleshcrypt]

Signal boost the h e c c out of this. I always forget the differences and its occurring to me that ive been having an anxiety attack for about a week now

[kitchenwitchupinthisbitch]

I didn’t know they were different! All these years I thought they were interchangeable.

[tainted-petals]

Recently found this out myself when my therapist told me I suffer from high level anxiety and panic attacks. Thought they were the same thing too.

[coffee-cup-studies]

💬 Onomatopoeic/Mimetic Vocab List 💬

A few of my favourite onomatopoeic words! I might make a part 2 at some point? Please feel free to correct any errors! ♡

うらうら…gently and clearly shining

オロオロ…flustered bewilderment

くんくん…sniffing, especially a dog

ケロケロ…ribbit sound

ごろごろ…purring sound, or idleness

さやさや…soft rustling sound

さばさば…relieved, refreshed or easy going

しとしと…light rain or drizzle

すやすや…sleeping peacefully or soundly

そっと…softly, gently

ちびちび…little by little

ちんまり…snugly, cosily

ほんわか…warm, cosy, pleasant

テコテコ…the sound of walking

なんたらかんたら…something or other, “what do you call it?”

ふわふわ…soft, fluffy

ムギュウ…squeezing, hugging

メロメロ…madly in love or falling down drunk

もぐもぐ…chewing food, similar to “nom nom”

もじもじ…bashfully

りんりん…bell ringing or chiming

わくわく…trembling, nervousness or excitement

にゃん…meow

わんわん…woof

[millennial-review-deactivated20]

[dukeofbookingham-deactivated202]

Oh hey I haven’t yelled about voting in a while

[dancinbutterfly]

Reposting this because some of y’all need a reminding.

[lady-feral]

This.

Also, vote in the primaries too and tey to shift the Overton window back to the left. “Left unity” can wait until after the primaries. Use all of the tools we have, kids.

[druminor-deactivated20190329]

So there is a movie called Ghost Shark, and this is pretty much all you need to know about it.

[leg-stealing-bee]

No i want to know more