Aro culture is being very cool. There's a lot of "I'm so sad to be aro" and "wish I wasn't aro" and I'm going to assume it's a lot of just figured it out maybe kids and you've been told all your life "this is the point this will happen" and you're mourning that but consider: the whole world tells you you have to be one way and you put your foot down and say no? Very punk rock of you. And you figured it out! Congratulations, it took me ages, I spent years knowing I wasn't straight but not having a word (maybe that's why aro felt like a relief for me). And labels are only for you, if you're not ready to tell people yet because you don't know how they're going to react? You don't have to tell them, you don't have to tell anyone ever if you don't want, the only person I've told is my brother. I get that maybe you wanted that, but you can still have a romantic relationship if you want, or there's the queerplatonic option, you get to decide how you go about it all, it's your life, there's no one who can actually tell you you're doing it all wrong, you're meant to feel like this, because if you ask them? I bet everyone you ask will give a different description of what love feels like to them. There has never been a right answer to this, it's just what you feel and what feels right now. And maybe aro won't be the right word forever! That doesn't mean you can't use it as the right one right now, you've got your whole life to figure out the rest, where you want to fit, and how you want to interpret the words you choose for yourself. And no matter what it feels like there will be so many people who do care about you because romantic love is not the be and end all of life and your friends do not stop caring about you just because they start dating, and you will go through life making new friends (if you want that). Maybe you'll make some because you found this adjective to describe yourself and they use it too, people talk about communities and that's all a label is, an adjective you can use to find other people like you, to find the place you want to be in right now, and to work out what it all means to you because the real aro culture is whatever you want it to be
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