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Hot take platonic love can be just as strong and even stronger then romantic love a 10 year+ friendship has more love in it then a 2 month romantic relationship
"but aromantic people can still be in romantic relationships! i headcanon this character as demiromantic" okay then
where's the "do i really love them romantically? or did i just convince myself i do?
where's the "am i still really aromantic? what if it was just a phase? what if i'm normal, actually?"
where's the "what even is romantic love. what even is the difference being romantic love and platonic love. nothing is inherently romantic, it all depends on intent. but that can't be the only difference, can it? then people could just chose to be in love. but that's not how it works, is it?? "
where's the not being aro enough for aro spaces but being too aro for allo spaces
where's the "i keep falling for my friends and it keeps costing me friendships. help!"
where's the "what even is dating. how does that even work"
where's the not getting crushes. it's either completely fully in love or nothing
where's the being perfectly happy without a romantic partner, but also happy if you happen to have one
where's the needing unusually long to get over a relationship and detangle yourself
where's the "love at first sight is fake, it doesn't work like that"
where's the "i don't know you well enough yet to be romantically interested in you. i don't even know you well enough to know if i could be romantically interested in you"
where's the usual aro stuff. having difficulty with romantic relationships or situations without knowing why. not being able to relate when others talk about their crushes and relationships. advice always being either "talk about it" or "break up" if asked. feeling like there's something wrong with you bc you don't work like everyone else
demiromantic people are still aromantic. you can't use that as a cop out to write aro characters as if they're allo
- sincerely, a demiromantic person who'd like more accurate representation
I think perhaps instead of romantic or platonic or whatever the fuck, as I grow closer to someone, I weave a love for them all its own, defying all categorization
if you say “but aros can still date!” about your aromantic blorbo, I need you to mean it. you can’t make the ship just boring old romance.
your blorbo is still aromantic, so how would that color their relationships? how would that affect their daily life? do they struggle with feeling “greedy” because they can’t love their partner back the way their partner loves them? do they have a hard time with an allo partner because on a fundamental level they don’t quite understand what romance is like, even if they’re experiencing it? on the positive side; what societal boundaries of romance do they cast aside or embrace? how do they navigate a romantic relationship differently than their peers? if it’s an aro4aro partnership, how is it unique? how much does being aro define their relationship vs. just their own personal quirks? is that even a line that can be drawn?
an aro relationship is different from an allo one. I promise, it’s so much more fun to explore what that means and the consequences of that than just “oh aros can date so they’re dating in the same way any allos would”.
"aros can still date!!": boring. tired. overused. frequently used to make aros look more palatable and acceptable to amatonormative society.
"alloros can still stay single!!": fresh. new. exciting. hearing it could change many people's lives for the better regardless of romantic orientation
being arospec feels like a constant battle with myself where i'm trying to figure out if i want a romantic relationship or if i just crave any kind of meaningful connection with literally anyone.
sorry to be aromantic but i need more stories w characters who get absolutely no romantic interests, plots, or romantic ending ‼️ gimme ppl w complex interpersonal relationships put into emotional life situations ‼️ but they all get zero bitches ‼️
romance is this strange weird concept to me. it’s like everyone is a fish and they have gills and they breathe underwater. and i am a frog and i breathe underwater by absorbing oxygen through my skin. and im pretty sure we’re doing the same thing, until someone goes more into the specifics of it, and i think “wait, what????” because the thing everyone else is doing is definitely not the thing i am doing. yea
i think queerplatonic relationship kinda got the same treatment as nonbinary where people assume its a special third relationship status directly between the romance and friendship binary. which it CAN be but its also an umbrella for "literally anything that isnt quite friends and isnt quite romance" you can be official queerplatonic partners or you can just be something unspoken and undefinable. you can be fuckin homestuck moirails for all i care. its all queerplatonic babey. thats the point.
My brain gave me this image.
While separating relationships into strictly sexual, platonic, or romantic or some combination of those is fine for understanding the aromantic and asexual spectrum at a basic level, we must eventually understand that some relationships will never fit into these categories and often queer relationships are more complex than that, and our definition of queer relationships must include abstract relationships. As a community based on gender anarchy, debasing gender roles, and freedom to love how we will, we have to move away from immediately defining relationships. 2026 edit: I’m serious if someone says that a relationship is ambiguous or anarchic or unlabeled and you say it’s a queerplatonic relationship you are labeling their relationship.
You’ve heard of hopeless romantic? I’m a hopeless platonic
arolovic & lovequeer aromantic culture is for always and forever caring about your loveless and other lovepunk aromantics <2
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You know what I like so much about the aromantic community?
We have so many concepts that the average alloromantic person has never heard of. Concepts that make it so much easier to explain our experiences, desires and struggles to other people. They make it so much easier to exist as an aromantic person in this world. Of course, every aromantic person can decide whether they find these concepts helpful and applicable to their experiences. But I find it amazing how many cool concepts the aromantic community either came up with or took pre-existing concepts and made them our aromantic 101. I don't think the allos really get how being aromantic can fundamentally change your worldview. And to be honest, I think they're missing out because I think everyone would benefit from at least being familiar with those concepts.
Being aromantic is basically like this:
Aromantic shrimp colours are real.
Anyways, aromantic community, y'all mean a lot to me and I'm so happy I found y'all and now share your "secret" knowledge!
Being aroallo and lovequeer and yearning for a life partnership is an agonizing existence because like how do I explain to alloroses that I want a non-romantic, intimate, life partnership that has sex but no it’s not romance despite how much amatonormativity has taught you that such a relationship looks to be romantic at a surface level and also most aroallos only want fwbs and non-committal hookups and while I do nod my head and tip my hat in solidarity I can’t help but feel a sense of dread and loneliness that I’ll never be able to find someone who wants the same kind of relationship I do.
Starting off small: friendship isn’t inherently romantic
Getting bigger: living together isn’t inherently romantic
Even bigger: going on dates isn’t inherently romantic
Getting larger again: kissing isn’t inherently romantic
Oh my god is this too big: having sex isn’t inherently romantic
Megalophobic people run: marriage isn't inherently romantic