Lovelessness Wins

banner by @golden-art-place pfp by @abluepatientsoul [Header: Art of Chara and Asriel from Undertale. The siblings are smiling together in the Ruins. /End Header] [Icon: Soule from TFJ on the loveless flag. They are brown skinned, fat, with dark hair and small horns. He is wearing a white dress, and playfully smiling with their tongue out. On desktop, Soule is in their true form, a dark haired anthro goat-bunny with curled horns sprouting leaves. He has a long pink mustache and bushy eyebrows. /End Icon]

[ascel-aro]

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ascel - it/xey/ve - bodily early 20s

voidpunk nonbinary, lovequeer + loveless aroace on the apl-spec ! 🍏 also plural :]

linktree / pronouns.page

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im passionate about activism for bodily rights/respect along with queer and neurodivergent identities- and do my best to uplift voices thru reblogs of disability positivity, fat positivity, aspec positivity, and etc ! (feel free to check out my #aro and #apl tags !)

will also be reblogging special interests (mainly undertale) and ocs (mainly tfj) from time to time :]

ingat ka !! o7 (take care !!)

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important links

Daily Click (repeatable on multiple browsers/devices)

Decolonize Palestine (resources about Palestinian history)

ANERA

Vetted Gaza GoFundMe Pages

Spreadsheet of Vetted Gaza Fundraisers

Crips for eSims for Gaza

Friends of the Congo

Maui Rapid Response

[ID: Art of Flowey from Undertale wearing a nonbinary ribbon, drawn on the loveless aro flag. Flowey is winking, tongue sticking out with a smile. A white star is in the upper corner. /End ID]

above flowey art drawn by awesome friend @golden-art-place ! <2

[77pink-prin-cess77]

Please don't forget about loveless people this pride month. Love doesn't make us human. People don't need to love in "other" ways to be valid. Some people are aplatonic, some afamilial, some asensual, some are heartless. They still belong. Abolish conformity and the idea that someone needs to be something specific to belong at pride.

[literally-thecouncil-lol]

hey. you should check out my stream here in about 2.5 hours. We're gonna play a minecraft server known as Ya Dead, Ya Dead; Obsidian!

Watch this video on Twitch Live

[alloarboreal]

Happy pride to every alloaro! 💚🤍💛

[forestgreenandgray]

Hey do you know what rumination is?

Rumination is probably the most common type of OCD compulsion, but I rarely see anyone talking about it. I've talked to multiple people diagnosed with OCD who didn't even recognize it as a compulsion.

Basically, if you have OCD you have terrible intrusive thoughts. They can be about anything, but common themes are fear of being a bad person, fear of hurting someone, fear of contamination. etc.

Rumination is when you get stuck in a spiral. Rumination is when you spend hours catastrophizing, overthinking, analyzing, telling yourself it's going to be okay.

I'll say it again:

Rumination is a compulsion.

Rumination is a compulsion, and that means you have to stop doing it.

I did ERP (exposure response prevention) for my OCD with a therapist! For 9 months! And it did help, but the idea didn't really click until I found this website a couple years later.

And Oh My God. It made things make so much more sense, and I was able to pull myself out of an episode even though I wasn't in therapy or on meds at the time.

Genuinely if you have OCD, or even if you suspect you have OCD, I'm begging you to read some of these articles.

Like this was genuinely life changing for me.

Here are some of the ones that were most helpful to me:

Defining Rumination

How to Stop Ruminating

ERP Exercises for Compulsive Rumination

What to Do When You're Triggered

[sortingmyideas]

I'm so fucking cool. Being aspec is so cool. the allos will never understand it

[knighthearts]

happy pride month for it/its users, polyamorous people, xenogenders, non-transitioning trans people, and other "weird" identities. btw

[servaltherium]

im going to start turning people aromantic

[mar64ds]

Happy pride! If you’re looking for aspec stories, I could recommend you my RPG Maker games.

-Friendship Test: A long story-focused game that explores different aspec identities (aromanticism, aplatonicism, lovelessness…). Lots of aspecs have seen themselves on this game, maybe you’re next. Jokes aside, it’s a passion project that means a lot to me and it’s completely free for you to enjoy!

-Exe tries to save the holidays: A short follow-up to Friendship Test! While the main focus is not on aspec themes, we do have an aspec protagonist whose identity is important for her character. The game only costs 1,30$!

-Estranged Family: A spin-off to Friendship Test which is currently on development, but there is a 2 hour long demo available! I continue to explore more aspec themes here, maybe you’ll like this one too!

-Obsolete Friends: A short semi-horror game, unrelated to the Friendship Test series. Aspec themes are not the main focus, but there are aspec characters that are important to the story. It’s my newest game and it costs 2$!

You can find all my games on itch.io! Or you can watch full playthrough on the official channels for each game. Sorry I can't link anything cause Tumblr always makes sure my posts don't show up on the tags when I include links. But you can find everything on the blogs @friendship-test and @obsolete-friends ! Either way, thanks for reading!

[mar64ds]

happy pride to the loveless, the dreamers and me

[decompose1]

neovaginas can get wet naturally

a neophallus can get erect with an implant (this will either be a bendable rod or a device that inflates with saline at the press of a button, usually in the testicles)

both can feel sexual pleasure and experience orgasm

most neovaginas will be able to tolerate larger insertions with enough dilating/training

the nerves in neophalluses take a while to regrow but it is incredibly rare to experience no sexual nerve growth

both can look and feel "normal" if that's what you want, just take good care of your scars and look at your surgeons' results portfolio (and don't be afraid to be picky! its your genitals, you get to decide!)

in fact it's possible for many people to stealth and for their sexual partners to never know. even for phallo, some people with natal penises have erectile implants too, ED is common. neocaginas are often indistinguishable from natal vaginas

many surgeons are starting to offer preservation options for patients who want a more mixed look/don't want to lose what they have

YOU HAVE OPTIONS! demystify bottom surgery

[anistarrose]

As Aromantic Visibility Day (June 5th) approaches this year, friendly reminder from an aroace: it's Aromantic Visibility Day, not "Aroace" Visibility Day! Not all aromantics are also asexual — there are aromantics who are allosexual (aroallos for short), aromantics who don't separately label their sexual orientation at all, and aromantics whose sexual orientation doesn't fit into an ace/allo binary, as well as likely even more aros who don't fit into "aroace" for even more reasons — and all of them are equally included in Aromantic Visibility Day, because they are equally aromantic! In fact, those aros who aren't ace are disproportionately erased and in need of visibility, even more than aroaces are (which is really saying something, because aroace visibility itself is already terrible), so including them in Aromantic Visibility Day is vital, and using the correct name for the occasion instead of calling it an "aroace day" is a start.

Overall: again, speaking as an aroace myself, we aroaces will not be offended if you just call Aromantic Visibility Day the thing it is actually called! I care about sharing this upcoming day with my fellow aros, so stop excluding them, even accidentally! We aroaces celebrate this day but it is not for us exclusively!

[no-longer-poet]

Happy pride especially towards EVERY a-spec person

[heartbeat-sys]

btw. "plural" is an opt-in label. you can call yourself plural for any reason. its not a diagnostic label and its definition is very loose. "i'm not plural i just-" i promise theres an entire segment of the plural community that is full of people who are plural for specifically that thing. you're not plural because you dont identify with the label, not because that experiences "doesn't count."

[bugstabu]

Happy Pride Month! Today i offer you: aspec knights. Choose your fighter.

I also had idea for anattractional monarch but i never finished it

[motherblackcap]

[ID: four drawings, showing knights dressed in aspec colours. The first drawing shows Aro and Ace. Aro is an archer with a white shirt, chainmail on their shoulders, and a green hood with an aromantic flag-coloured feather sticking out the side of it. Ace is a knight in grey and purple armour, with a black and purple cloak. They hold a spear with a blade shaped like the spade on a pack of cards, and their helmet has the same shaped face opening. The second drawing is Aplatonic, Afamilial, and Asensual. Aplatonic wears a long cloak and wide-brimmed hat, both a dark purple. They also wear green trousers and a green neckerchief, and their hat has a green apple shape on the band. Afamilial wears a grey breastplate, white shirt and hood, and black trousers. They have a dark red band tied around the top of hood, and a dark red waistband and shoes, as well as a satchel. Asensual has spiky grey pauldrons, and a white and black breastplate. Two tiny pale yellow eyes peek out from its round helmet. The third drawing is Lovequeer, Loveless and Heartless. Lovequeer has a gold helmet and pink gloves, and is playing a lute. They also have a dark green cloak and matching hat, with a pale yellow feather sticking out the side of it. Loveless has a full set of dark grey armour, with a green feather at the back of the helmet, and matching green cloak and dagger sheaths. They are flipping their twin daggers in the air. Heartless has a green tunic and trousers, and a dark red cloak and sword sheath. They have a large shield held up that has enscribed on it “no romo and no love”. The final drawing is two black and white sketches of Anattractional, who has a white cloak with a black crown and face covering. In the first sketch they have their hand on their sword, and in the second sketch they are writing in a book. /End ID]

[mintoezz]

Saw the sentence "i want to be free more than i want to be loved" and i think it resonates a lot with most loveless people here.

[grub-muncher]

This is not an extensive list of types of delusions, these are only a few common types of delusions, there are other less common types of delusions which are not mentioned in this comic