vivent les peuples

rachael | she/her | 25

[atheldamn]

redownloaded tumblr on a whim what is UP

[snackwizard]

a fools guide to not wanting to die anymore

by me, a fool who doesnt wanna die anymore 

never make a suicide joke again. yes this includes “i wanna die” as a figure of speech. swear off of it. actually make an effort to change how you think about things.

find something to compliment someone for at least 4 times a day. notice the little things about the world that make you happy, and use that to make other people happy.

talk to people. initiate conversation as often as you possibly can. keep your mind busy and you wont have to worry anymore

picture the bad intrusive thoughts in youe head as an edgy 13 year old and tell them to go be emo somewhere else

if someone makes you feel bad most of the time, stop talking to them. making yourself hang out with people who drain you is self harm. stop it.

[wildlyannoyingdoofus]

… 8|

That’s some pretty good advice. I don’t know what’s left of my humor after ‘guess I’ll just die’ jokes but it’s worth a shot.

[snackwizard]

Personally i went from “guess I’ll die” jokes to “IF I HAVE TO BE HERE FOR 5 MORE MINUTES I PROMISE YOU I WILL BUY JUST, AN ARRAY OF CLOTHES.” and other wild hyperbolic stuff. Just replace the death part with something ridiculous and off topic. Its very entertaining

[808lien]

This also works with calling myself things like stupid, worthless, trash, etc. Even if you do this jokingly to yourself, your brain still believes it, and keeps up the cycle. Seriously, I found that when I stopped saying these things about myself, even jokingly, it made a massive difference.

[maramahan]

Here’s a tip I picked up from a friend that’s helped me a lot — replace self deprecating jokes with ironically self aggrandizing jokes

Like every time I trip and fall, instead of saying “l’m just a disaster human” I say “I’m the epitome of grace and beauty”

Or like, when I draw a picture I’m not 100% happy with, instead of saying “my art is trash” I say something like “you know I think it’s time we replaced the Mona Lisa”

When you do that you get to make a joke, but you’re ALSO getting practice building yourself up, y’know?

And eventually it becomes a reflex and you get so used to it that you can say nice stuff about yourself even when you AREN’T joking

[marisatomay]

someone: you gotta sit with both feet on the ground

me:

[scorpios-wife]

THIS IS THE BEST THING IVE EVER SEEN

[uservik]

les mis moments that break my heart: 1/?

combeferre, bahorel & the rest of les amis trying to stop courfeyrac going after gavroche

[stormbun]

What is it, to be a hero? Look in the mirror, and you’ll know. Look into your own eyes, and tell me you are not heroic. That you have not endured, or suffered, or lost the things you care about most… and yet, here you are. A survivor of Hell’s Kitchen, the hottest place anyone’s ever known. A place where cowards don’t last long, so… you must be a hero. We all are.

FEMALE AWESOME MEME » [5/5] non-warrior characters: Karen Page

[arpeggia]

Paolo Fusco - Fiori 24h

Artist’s statement:

“Hardly anything is open 24h in Rome: a few bars, a few stores, self service gas stations and flower kiosks, a lot of flower kiosks. You can find them everywhere in the city and they never close. They never close. Their presence has always fascinated me, they seem like sentinels in the quiet roman night, small lighthouses populated by half-asleep immigrant workers. The photos were taken while wondering through the city in search of these islands of light and flowers.”

[princesconsuela]

mood

[dankmemesreasonforliving]

[pearls-for-cats]

me:

[michacljoncs]

a happy boy

[caitiward]

🌪 ‪If you’re having a rough day today, that sucks. Just know that I’m thinking of you and believe when the sun sets tonight and rises again tomorrow, it will be a better day. 🌞‬

[katiemcgrath]

I’m ‘a compel him to include women in the sequel  — WORK!

[phantombrushy]

Me when I write: Super eloquent. Uses flowery words. Sounds professional and mature. Seems put together.

Me when I speak: Stutters. Can’t formulate words. Lots of ‘um’s and ‘like’s. Repeats self. Cursing. Random noises sprinkled intermittently.

[borispavlikovskys]

if you’re still unlearning internalized problematic shit clap your hands

[anidragon]

#if i ever think i’m finished poke me with a stick

[taraljc]

if you’re fucked up and you know it

but you’re trying to unlearn it,

if you’re fucked up and you know it,

do your best.

[brunz]

Catch me in the bottom of a well eating moss and forgetting language

[corezi]

what TLJ probably meant: poor Kylo Ren look he had a reason to come into the Dark Side his own uncle tried to kill him :’((( it’s also all Luke’s fault, blame him, he gave up on Ben so easy!!

what I, an intellectual, learned form TLJ: if Luke “there is still good in you dad Vader” Skywalker takes one look at Ben Solo’s mind and thinks this one is irredeemable then well, shit, I absolutely believe him

[thefingerfuckingfemalefury]

Kylo: luke tried to kill me when I was just a child!

What Rey Should have Said: And if he had then you wouldn’t have DESTROYED MULTIPLE PLANETS

Kylo: …..

Rey: YOU SLAUGHTERED BILLIONS

Kylo: …….

Rey: YOU MURDERED CHILDREN WITH A LASER SWORD

Kylo: okay but Luke…tried to kill me…

Rey: Because he saw your future where you murdered children and blew up planets

Kylo: Okay but if I WAS DEAD that would be BAD for me personally

Rey: But good for the billions of innocent people who you brutally murdered

Kylo: But…bad…for me…

So

TRAGIC

Rey: I don’t think you understand how this “Sad Backstory” thing works

[hyena-princess]

Not just that, but literally IMMEDIATELY after almost getting killed by Luke he goes and kills all of the other jedi-in-training who won’t follow him. His first action after almost being killed, because Luke thought he was going to be evil, was murdering people.

[avada-matata]

I still can’t find the logical connection here like why would that be your second step

[fandomsandfeminism]

A not-evil person would have like…called their parents or…the space cops. Not murdered everyone else in his school.

[blueelectricangels]

man, even a slightly smarter evil person would have called their parents or the space cops or something

like if you’re trying to neutralize a good guy, getting him thrown in space-jail for trying to murder his nephew is a pretty good tactic! causing a rift between Luke and Leia is a great plan! Fuck, you could maybe even set yourself up as the new head of the Jedi Order - or your shadowy puppet master could. Or cause a schism, Jedi love schisms.

But no instead you went off and murdered a bunch of children, and now your mom is not mad, just disappointed and also marshalling an army to defeat you, and your uncle is on a depression bender but crucially is not dead and thus also available to kick your pasty Sith ass. Leia’s got a handsome new son, your dad’s out there somewhere probably having adventures, and all your best ideas are cribbed from the Galactic Empire, which, sure it was in power for about 25 years, but they lost.

The Sith Lords of old are fucking shaking their heads at Kylo “Sith-Lite” Ren and probably also what’s-is-face, the guy in the gold robe. Like, somewhere in the afterlife, Palpatine is absolutely aghast that these are his successors. They couldn’t manipulate their way out of a paper bag!

[405blazeitt]

i hate the trope of kids giving their favorite stuffed animal to a younger child as a sign of compassion and coming of age, as if this is something that should be expected of kids as they grow up

im 22 and i dont care who you are you’ll have to pry my ikea shark out of my cold dead hands

[dotdollplushies]

I can’t remember the name of the study, but there was a theory, supported by pretty good evidence, that if you have your comforter, be it blanket, plush, pacifier, whatever, taken away when you’re not ready to give it up, even if you’re a dinky little kid, it can have really long lasting effects. People who kept their comforters into adulthood were less likely to smoke, drink or do drugs, tended to have better family relations and home lives etc, while those that saw their comforter removed or destroyed were more likely to be drawn to more serious “comforts” elsewhere. The more extreme the removal, the more extreme the result. Typically.

We learn at our own pace to make and break connections and emotional ties, and the situation is forced upon us, we seek comfort. But whoa wait, you can’t possibly have comfort anymore, you’re five. You’re a big kid now.

So when parents are forcing you to “grow up” by tearing the only comfort in the world from you, they could actually be messing you up big time.

[star-anise]

In psychology they’re called “transitional objects” and they help the neurobiological process of helping children learn to internalize the experience of being loved and cared for, which is an essential part of learning to regulate your emotions.  They are REALLY important.

[imnotevilimjustwrittenthatway]

I wonder what it means psychologically that I’ve started getting a few more for myself?

[star-anise]

Well, there’s a process we call “re-parenting yourself” where you give yourself the love you missed out on in childhood, and thereby start to heal the pain you’ve carried since then.  And using childhood comfort objects can be part of that.

[zawesome-cd]

Oh..

[prolifers-r-gross]

Oh my god…

[celero-loves-dragons]

In the year of the lord 2018 our grown asses start healing.

[always-bookgasming]

This makes me feel less bad for being an adult that still sleeps with a teddy bear. My parents tease me about it but they never took any comfort items away from me.

[avpdsnail]

so much is going on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it’s too much!!!!!!!!!!!!! i just want to sleep in the forest for 190 years!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i’m tired leave me alone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!