Hey so I have a question... I'm 14 and followed an artist for NSFW of some characters I liked (they have a private account and don't know my age, they're apparently in their early 20s and while they have yet accepted my request still.) They don't know my age but I was thinking about it and thought "Is this really ok?" Because this may get them in trouble but at the same time literally NOBODY knows but like... it's been eating away at me and I'm nervous.
You're doing an asshole thing, sorry. You may not be a jerk! But the thing you're doing is what a jerk would do. You're breaking their trust, being entitled to things you are not of age to consume, going behind your parents backs, and lying to people by omission. Those are some pretty harsh things to get saddled with for a few drawn lines that look like a boob.
You're actively making the internet a less safe place, and fueling the kind of thing that political movements are using to ban all signs of sexuality (and in turn LGBTQAI+ folk) from the internet, by invading adult-only spaces against the consent, and will, of those adults. You're taking away their safety. You're now the kid that "got access to pornography" too easily that they use as a strawman to harm others. It's 4 years until it's legal, sit on your hands and follow the artist when you're older. Their art will still be around then, and you won't be deliberately making the choice to ignore their boundaries because you wanted something real bad. If you want kids to be safe, you have to in turn allow adults to be safe too. This is true for roleplay spaces too!
You're at an age where you're really malleable to certain things whether you realize it or not, and porn can really effect how you see certain things in life, or set you up for misunderstandings about how things are going to work. You're at an age where you're probably going to ask questions, but stick to sexual health websites that give accurate information instead of giving yourself some wild ass fetishes. You can end up completely changing how you interact with the world by doing this. I know it's fun and interesting, I know it's something illicit which can be a thrill, but like... respect people. Respect others. Respect yourself.
You can wait just a little while and this won't even be an issue anymore. You have the rest of your life to enjoy this stuff without breaking people's trust. And then? Then we'll accept you happily into adulthood and you can look at all the wacky drawn peens, vageens, and weirdo things you want. I know I sound like a stuffed shirt who wants to ban all fun, but it's becoming obvious that the more kids invade adult spaces, the less adult spaces we have. Imagine, a kid who gets online at 13 has 5 whole years where they need their training wheels and shouldn't push one little button/boundary. Then they have 60+ more years where they can do whatever they want. That seems fair!
But when you break that trust repeatedly, and people yell "what about the children" and people have to lock everything away tighter and tighter and become more and more illicit and illegal and "wrong" because those 5 years are 'too long to wait'? Those decades of freedom aren't very free, they're constantly haunted by new kids doing the same thing you did, and making it harder and hard to be an adult online. So please, do rethink the follow. Lying sucks for everyone. Set a reminder for your 18th birthday and go re-follow them then.
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