Supporting neurodiverse people in Lincolnshire

[theconcealedweapon]

Every autism struggle is assumed to be "fear".

A sound bothers you? You're "afraid" of that sound.

You don't approach anyone because you can't read signs of interest or because you literally have no idea what to say to them? You're "afraid" to approach them.

[pangur-and-grim]

I think some of the loneliness of autism is that you feel like you hurt people just by Interacting Wrong, but you don’t know how to Interact Right, and the more effort you put into it, the more exhausted you are and the more artificial it comes across (with the end result of people still being upset with you). and it’s not anyone’s fault for not liking Being Interacted With Wrong, and it’s not your fault for doing it so wrong, but it is very, very lonely.

[aropride]

the thing about autism is you end up struggling with understanding really basic instructions and tasks bc of how often something is "implied" but not stated and you're the only one who doesn't know that when you're told "do A, then do B," it actually means "do A, unless B is more important, which you will have to figure out on your own based on some implicit and unexplained rule, and also sometimes you don't even have to do B at all, depending on circumstances that have never been explained to you, and sometimes you also have to do C, but we aren't going to even tell you about C." and then you do something wrong and people are like "well why didn't you do this obvious common sense thing that nobody ever told you was an option." so you end up questioning everything because you never know what has some secret other unspoken stipulation or whatever. and then you end up spending half your life asking questions like 'if the prepaid return box says "no postage necessary if mailed in the united states' and i am mailing in the united states does that mean i don't need postage"

[adhd-alien]

I get so bored and understimulated that I listen to my impulsive thoughts, like I'd do ANYTHING to not feel that bored sometimes. I can't even remember how many toys I disassembled just to see what'll happen - and then I was sad they were broken lol WHAT WAS I EXPECTING

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[theconcealedweapon]

What's Actually Happening: I struggle to explain something and I don't want it to be misinterpreted as what people expect, so I'm jumping through hoops in an attempt to explain how it's different from what people expect.

What Neurotypicals Assume: I mean exactly what people expect but I'm using big words because I enjoy sounding smart and confusing people.

[wheelie-sick]

so much autism "advice" boils down to "just spend more time socializing and you'll catch on to the rules :)" as if one of the main points of autism is that you can't "just catch on"

[visorforavisor]

I think disability justice would be easier if abled people understood that being disabled is a mixture of all three of

I can’t do that without negative consequences

I can’t do that unless I have support for it

I can’t do that

and that trying to treat one of these as if it’s another one will get you nowhere.

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Neurodivergent Masking Can Show Up As:

Social mimicking of peers

Suppressing natural reactions or stimming

Over explaining yourself

Apologizing excessively

Pretending to understand when you don’t

Overcompensating in work or school

Smiling or laughing when uncomfortable

Constantly monitoring behavior

Hiding sensory preferences or needs

Life in an Autism World

[autistikait-moved]

People talking about how being autistic and lonely really drives home just how disabling autism really is.

To all of those who are saying that autism is a superpower, please stop for a minute and think, REALLY THINK, about your day to day life as someone with autism. This may not feel connected at first but promise me it will make sense further on as i write this.

How many times have you been left out due to your social awkwardness? Don't lie to me, this has for sure happened to you, especially if you're autistic since autism is literally THE social skills struggle disorder among other things.

And this reminds me of sensory issues, when was the last time you flinched or reacted in some way to, say, a loud noise for example? I can go on and on. But i know you get my point now. Autism affects those who have it every day, in almost every single way beyond just the criteria.

Thanks for coming to my poorly formatted TedTalk.

[gayvampyr]

people don’t want to acknowledge that adhd can actually be debilitating. they’ll just be like “why do you keep ruining your own life. you’re so lazy”

[autiebiographical]

I hate the term 'differently abled'. The only reason it exists is because the word disabled makes abled people uncomfortable.

[alexithymic-culture-is]

Autistic alexithymic culture is telling someone that you feel blank or feel nothing, and them getting concerned about you when you don't mean it in the way they thought.

Blank is always taken in a bad context, and I understand logically why since it's often associated with anhedonia and emotional blunting in things like depression, but for me it's literally just my baseline, and pretty much always has been because of how my brain struggles to comprehend emotions. It's not good or bad or even neutral, it literally just feels like nothing: the absence of good, bad, or anything in between.

I'm using the literal definitions of the words, and being autistic, if I felt "bad" or "good" in the most broad senses of the words, I would say that. I may not know the exact name of what I'm feeling, but I have the general idea based on bodily cues or behavioral patterns.

And usually, the general idea for me is absolutely nothing in any direction. Utterly blank.

🧵 [ He / Him ]

Why is feeling nothing automatically bad anyway? You'd think it would be the most neutral but nope! Suprise! Now everyone's worried!

[adhd-alien]

ADHD can have a serious impact on your life and mental health. These are some of the things that were and still are the hardest for me.

Thanks for to everyone who joined me on stream while I was working on this 🫶 Coping strategies here, look specifically for the "Buttons" one Comic Archive List of ADHD Resources here I stream here

[autie-j]

The way allistic people meme about autism nowadays, sometimes I just want to be like, can you tell me anything about autism that doesn't have to do with special interests?

[autiebiographical]

I remember reading someone say "ABA doesn't punish anymore, it encourages proper behaviour," and then listed off ways they're changing non-harmful behaviours. What's wrong with lining up toys? What's wrong with rocking? What's wrong with not maintaining eye contact? What's wrong with non-harmful autistic behaviours? You're forcing kids to go through hours, and hours, and hours of "therapy" just so they act less autistic.

Sure, most ABA may not punish children with physical violence, or neglect, or withholding food anymore, that doesn't mean it doesn't have a LONG way to go. Honestly, if it keeps to its roots, it'll never be good.

And before my comment section is filled with people saying "Well my experience with ABA was positive," keep in mind that a lot of clinics offering good therapy, that actually helps autistics, label themselves as ABA, not because they're actually ABA, but because that's the only way they'll get government funding, or that your insurance will cover it.

[theorahsart]

Here's a comic about autistic special interests :3

[birdofmay]

April 22nd: If you had to describe to someone who knows nothing about autism what it feels like/what its like to be autistic, what would you say?

In my case:

It's like having to sift through millions of little puzzle pieces of information and having to put them together manually to make sense of your surroundings.

Then you have to step back and look at the picture, which is a 3D picture, so it takes you a while to know what you're seeing there. Making sense of the 3D picture is making sense of the situation you're in.

So for me autism mostly is manually making sense of my surroundings and the situation I'm in while new information keeps coming and my brain runs windows 98.