Something I wish everybody would understand about bigotry of all sorts is that the thing our society is punishing is non-conformity. The more you do not conform the more you are punished.
Nonconformity can be anything from something as small as being goth, or generally not dressing like everybody else, to things as big as being a different race than the majority, or a different religion.
When you start thinking of bigotries in this context it really puts things into perspective. This might be a really helpful lens to look at these things through and help you understand political retoric and theories.
For some examples of this theory, let's look at racism. Dark skinned people have been talking about light-skinned privilege forever. While light skinned black people do still deal with racism, they're closer to conformity than dark-skinned people so they are punished less.
It's the same thing in the trans community. People who "pass" or are otherwise not immediately visibly distinguishable as trans are punished less than people who are visibly trans.
The same is true with anti-Semitism. Jews who do not keep a kosher diet and observe Jewish holidays are punished less than the ones who do because they are not conforming, while the ones who don't observe Jewish holidays are conforming.
And of course the same is true with disabled people. If you have the sort of disability that is invisible and doesn't need much accommodation you generally aren't punished very much by society, comparatively. But if you have a visible mobility aid and/or you do need accommodation you are viciously punished. But even if your disability is invisible, punishment is waiting the moment you don't conform. As a disabled person with an invisible disability, I am always shocked by how quickly and viciously I am punished on rare times when I do need accommodation.
But perhaps the best proof that what's actually being punished is non conformity is the treatment of intersex people like myself. Bigots will cry all day about the horrors of gender assignment medical procedures when they're used by trans people to live as their authentic selves, but they're suspiciously quiet about those same treatments being used on intersex kids. It's because those treatments are perfectly acceptable when being used to make an Intersex kid conform, but when they're used by a trans person to stop conforming to their assigned gender it's a horrible dangerous violence and should be banned.
That's why I'm suspicious of political movements that try to broaden the definition of what conformity is rather than trying to end the practice of punishing anybody who doesn't conform.
