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a good example of aĀ āsocial constructā is national borders. bc like:
arbitrary and made up
but strongly enforcedĀ
often unfair & unreasonably defined
used as a tool of oppression
can be changed at any time but only by the powerful (and so are usually only changed to benefit the powerful)
individuals spend their lives accommodating them at great cost
so when we sayĀ āsocial constructā we donāt mean ānot real.ā we meanĀ āhey we control the way this thing works, and the way it exists now is hurting a lot of people. so we should probably design it better & make it less rigid. which we can do, bc we built it.ā
being smart enough not to work in school and then seeing everyone u thought u were smarter than succeeding way beyond u bc they actually developed a good work ethic and didn't just rely on being able to bullshit at the last minute is pretty crushing but also absolutely deserved
I LITERALLY THINK THIS EVERY TIME THE SONG COMES ON
What song is this talking about?
āBaby Itās Cold Outsideā
Otherwise known as the original āBlurred Linesā
HEY FRIENDS HISTORICAL REMINDER: āWHATāS IN THIS DRINKā ISNāT TALKING ABOUT DRUGS,Ā HE IS NOT TRYING TO ROOFIE HER
THE SONG IS TALKING ABOUT ALCOHOL
but still a pushy song
historical reminder that the reason pina coladas and pink squirrels are known as āgirly drinksā is because they mask the taste of alcohol and men were know to give women these drinks without informing them that they were alcoholic. It takes a couple of drinks to realize youāve been consuming alcohol and by then youāre more susceptible to suggestion, making it easier for him to convince you to stick around and have a third drink. When this song was written in 1944 most women didnāt drink regularly, meaning they had a low tolerance and it would only take 2-3 drinks to get her drunk enough that she wouldnāt be able to put up much of a fight. This was the 1940s version of being roofied
No no no it was not.
āHey whatās in this drinkā was a stock joke at the time, and the punchline was invariably that thereās actually pretty much nothing in the drink, not even a significant amount of alcohol.Ā
See, this woman is staying late, unchaperoned, at a dudeās house. In the 1940ās, thatās the kind of thing Good Girls arenāt supposed to do ā and she wants people to think sheās a good girl. The woman in the song says outright, multiple times, that what other people will think of her stayingĀ isĀ what sheās really concerned about: āthe neighbors might think,ā āmy maiden auntās mind is vicious,ā āthereās bound to be talk tomorrow.āĀ But sheās having a really good time, and sheĀ wants to stay, and so she is excusing her uncharacteristically bold behavior (either to the guy or to herself) by blaming it on the drink ā unaware that the drink is actually really weak, maybe not even alcoholic at all. Thatās the joke. That is the standard joke thatās going on when a woman in media from the early-to-mid 20th century says āhey, whatās in this drink?āĀ It is not a joke about how sheās drunk and about to be raped. Itās a joke about how sheās perfectly sober and about to have awesome consensual sex and use the drink for plausible deniability because sheās living in a society where women arenātĀ supposedĀ to have sexual agency.
Basically, the song only makes sense in the context of a society in which women are expected to reject menās advances whether they actually want to or not, and therefore itās normal and expected for a ladyās gentleman companion to pressure her despite her protests, because he knows she would have to say that whether or not she meant it, and if she really wants to stay she wonāt be able to justify doing so unless he offers her an excuse other than āIām staying because I want to.ā (Thatās the main theme of the manās lines in the song, suggesting excuses she can use when people ask later why she spent the night at his house: it was so cold out, there were no cabs available, he simply insisted because he was concerned about my safety in such awful weather, it was perfectly innocent and definitely not about sex at all!) In this particular case, heās pretty clearly right, because unlike in Blurred Lines, the woman actually has a voice, and sheās using it to give all the culturally-understood signals that she actually does want to stay but canāt say so. She states explicitly that sheās resisting because sheās supposedto, not because she wants to: āIĀ oughtĀ to say no no noā¦āĀ She states explicitly that sheās just putting up a token resistance so sheāll be able to claim later that she did whatās expected of a decent woman in this situation: āat least Iām gonna say that I tried.ā And at the end of the song theyāre singing together, in harmony, because theyāre both on the same page and they have been all along.
So itās not actually a song about rape - in fact itās a song about a woman finding a way to exercise sexual agency in a patriarchal society designed to stop her from doing so. But itās also, at the same time, one of the best illustrations of rape cultureĀ that pop culture has ever produced. Itās a song about a society where women arenāt allowed to say yesā¦which happens to mean itās also a society where women donāt have a clear and unambiguous way to say no.
I feel so much better about this song now!!!
that explanation is so much better, because its clear in her singing and her voice that she is happy, so the āfactā that it was āabout coercion and rapeā totally didnāt make sense to me. thank you for historical context.
Thank the Lord that someone else has this knowledge.
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destiel??? putin????????
so this is the mishapocalypse
maybe if they make stucky canon kim jong un will be next
Imagine showing this post to someone yesterday
Maybe Johnlock will be canon after this
Letās make all the gay ships canon. Hopefully Modi will die
And take Jeff Bezos with him
Before this day we were mere fan-people peacefully (although in some cases probably not so peacefully) shipping non-canon gay ships. But today we are P O W E R F U L.
I recently started working in hospitality, and Iāll tell you guys right now, the trope of āthere was only one bedā is not as rare as youād think in real life. A few times a week, at least, I have guys come in who are working together on projects in town or passing through who have to literally book the last room I have available for the night and lo and behold ā there is only one bed, and guess what, they give each other a side-eyed look and begrudgingly take it. So write it up, it happens all the time!!!
all those days chasing down a daydream all those years living in a blur all that time never truly seeing things, the way they were now sheās here shining in the starlight now sheās here suddenly I know if sheās here itās crystal clear Iām where Iām meant to go
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what is it about gimme! gimme! gimme! by ABBA that makes me feel like i'm a master criminal committing a heist
the lyrics say gimme a man after midnight, but the music says jewel thief dodging lasers and swinging from grappling hooks before driving away from the cops in a high-speed chase on my sleek hot pink motorcycle
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Why you should watch Enola Holmes (2020)
- female teenage protagonist (Enola) is 16, played by actual 16yr old Millie Bobby Brown instead of an adult woman
- love interest (Tewkesbury) is played by 17yr old Lewis Partridge and not a man thatās way older than Millie
- Enola is not sexualized once in the entire movie
- Enola is not made to look older than 16
- period movie that isnāt depressing or super dark
- criticisms on society that are very valid today
- Tewkesbury cries on screen (let men show their feelings 2020)
- Enola is not a damsel in distress, in fact sheās the one that goes out of her way to save Tewkesbury
- Enola is 90% of the time wearing an outfit that is comfortable on her and allows her to move freely, the only times she doesnāt are when sheās undercover
- a genuinly fun story thatās easy to follow, appropriate for kids and not boring to adults
- no love at first sight bullshit, it takes Enola ages before she realizes her feelings and love is not her main motivation
- Mycroft is an absolute abysmal human being and the movie never tries to sympathise with him. Heās just straight an asshole and isnāt given a redemption or sympathy
- movie is written and produced by women
And if all thatās not enough, it is a delight to watch.Ā Action, adventure, cool costumes, plot, this film has it all.
I am reasonably sure this is the most seriously anyone has EVER taken a Middle Grade novel, and I am BEYOND THRILLED about it.
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