~*~*Elle*~*~

30s | transfemme | wlw/wlnb

[badwitchelle]

In bed, girlrotting. Wishing I was girl-frotting.

[alisonzai]

[kira-serialfaggot]

If I was a necromancer I wouldnt be raising undead armies to conquer the world, thats how you get adventurous heroes coming to stop you.

I would be raising the dead to help the local villages by taking over the labor tasks they dont wanna do. You provide your dead, and in exchange my skeletons will clean your houses and work the fields for you. Thereby ingratiating myself with the local towns and thus they will shield me from any asshole adventurers trying to stop me from my experiments.

Yes I still plan to overthrow the king but that's because I love the proletariat

[themooninthestars]

[petulantpony]

makes a weird little noise to indicate that i want you to touch me inappropriately

[uss0]

i highly recommend finding yourself a clingy (healthy) lovey dovey partner who's always super excited about you. life is too short to spend it with someone who acts like showing love is a chore.

[emisweets]

i just wanna get my tits played with. is that too much to ask for?

[card-designers-without-borders]

[revacholianrobot]

In hindsight it's very insulting to be told that flunking out of college due to adhd is actually "quite common"

[revacholianrobot]

just like, if there's a history at your institution of disabled kids not being able to make it you realise that's your fault right. like why don't you fucking do something about it. i guess they tried to do something about it with me and it failed so they let me go. crazy. nice work. why should we try to do any better.

[yourheartinyourmouth]

only 5% of people with adhd who go to college finish a degree. FUCKING. FIVE!!! PERCENT!!!!!!!!!!!

that should disgust and enrage you.

if any other demographic of students had a 95% failure rate, we would be demanding reform and studies to understand why that’s happening

when i was at my first university, trying to get accommodations for my ADHD, they just kept asking me what accommodations i wanted, and refused to answer when i would ask what was available to me. how the Hell am i supposed to know what i can have? what’s available???? also, i don’t know!!!! i’m an adhd sufferer, not a fucking disability expert for the fucking college, unlike you, DISABILITY EXPERT WHO WORKS FOR THE COLLEGE.

but because the us is OBSESSED with making sure no one gets anything “”for free””, she literally would not tell me what my options were until i broke down in tears and asked her why she was refusing to help me. and then she did a big sigh, like i was fucking up her entire career by *checks notes* asking the disability center in my university to help me, a disabled student

at the second uni i went to, i tried to explain to a dean that i was literally two gen eds that had nothing to do with my degree away from graduating and that i was burnt out and broke and exhausted and suicidal and i just needed to be able to finish my degree without the gen eds. and this. fucking. guy. looked me right in my face and said in the most patronizing tone he could muster “if you can’t handle it, then maybe college just isn’t for you.” keep in mind that up until that semester, i had been an honor student who made Dean’s List every semester and didn’t get below Bs. if it hadn’t been for my mental breakdown, i would have graduated cum laude, maybe even summa cum laude.

but this dean of students looked a disabled person right in the face and said well i guess you just can’t do it, short bus

[jecook]

Pulled these from a couple articles really quick but yeah the statistics are not kind. I remember writing a scathing essay about my issues with ADHD and college as part of an assignment for academic probation. I got back an email calling me entitled and lazy. Somehow, this thread helps me feel a lot better. I still have about a semester of school unfinished that I’m unsure if I’ll finish but… yeah. Makes me feel better to know it’s not just me.

[lady-harrowhark]

PSA: The Job Accommodation Network maintains a searchable database of accommodation suggestions for a wide variety of disabilities.

The full database can be accessed here and the ADHD page is here. The full database can be filtered by disability, by limitation, by work-related function, by topic, and by accommodation. Many of these accommodations are applicable to academic settings as well as the workplace.

Here are the section headers for ADHD accommodations ideas to give an overview of what the page contains - this post would become Do You Love the Color of the Accommodation if I attempted to list them all here

The ADHD page linked above also includes case examples and strategies for determining what sort of accommodations might be necessary. More broadly, the JAN website as a whole is a treasure trove of information related to the Americans with Disabilities Act and resources for both individuals and employers.

[trambrosia]

Oh fuck that's really nice, I will read it

Also just heard a podcast interview with a software developer who had good suggestions

Being a developer with ADHD

Do you feel like ADHD is holding you back? Maybe you don't personally have ADHD but you work with folks who do and you'd like to support the

[dandelionsresilience]

The head of disability accommodations at my college just kept ablesplaining to me that “accommodations are to level the playing field, not give you an advantage,” and that her job is to “protect the school’s rights” rather than help disabled students. The only accommodations they would offer me were 1. extra time on tests, and 2. an alternative test-taking location - neither of which I needed. I ended up getting (most of) what I actually needed by unofficially asking the individual professors, but it should have been legally protected.

[sarroth]

Job Accommodation Network?! Filters to find what might actually help? Shit that organization rocks.

Helping people is certainly @wholesomepostarchive right?! This makes my day.

[wholesomepostarchive]

1/30/2026

[gamebird]

Dang. I feel better about spending 9 years knocking about college. Admittedly, I emerged with many degrees instead of just one, but the one I needed for later work life was the one that I struggled to get.

[rembrandtswife]

At this point I'm pretty sure the only reason I got two master's degrees is that I was early admissions and lived at home for the whole time

[badwitchelle]

It’s kinda cute having a pathetic sub like @thewritersparadox impatiently waiting for me to get home. 🤭

[borrowed-thoughts]

@korinawray on instagram

[necrowyrm]

I seem to have recently become the type of girl who will, in actual fact, kick her feet in excitement if she happens to be texting a charming young lady while in bed

[mousidy]

speaking from experience, if you're a lesbian and you're attracted to a trans man then two options present themselves to you:

realize that you don't really see him as a man, or :

accept that you can be attracted to a man

a fork in the road like this would be a great place to examine your bioessentialist transphobia, but instead of doing that you can just ascend to a new enlightened plane and reach queer level 100 by deciding "welllll trans men can be lesbians"

[mousidy]

a lot of advanced level 100 enlightened queer thinking is really just bioessentialism in disguise frankly

like, no, it's actually not level 100 gender to expect trans women to top you, you just see her as a man and instead of examining your transphobia you're pretending you exist on the next plane of queer thought high above us bottom feeders who foolishly think having a penis might not necessarily mean she wants to perform a traditionally masculine role for you in the bedroom

[mousidy]

a lot of trans women I've met who initially discuss enjoying topping their partners have, over time, after getting space from the expectation to top, said that they've stopped enjoying topping and no longer want to do it

certainly a lot of trans women genuinely enjoy topping, but I think it's a lot fewer than many people imagine. we just aren't being given the space to genuinely explore what we want, often thanks to the presence of enlightened level 100 queers who see us as naive fools for thinking we might not want to top. how simple we are for not considering that Women Can Top Too! it's actually more radical for women to top! 😁

[mousidy]

no amount of pretending to be an advanced queer thinker can paper over the fact that you expect trans men to be like women in their sexualities and you expect trans women to be like men in our sexualities. you are not level 100 you're level 1

[gjjuddmk2]

[rios-prettiest-butch]

Love me a clingy, touchy woman, not just in the sexual sense, but in the everyday sense, hugs, cuddles, just hands all over me, fuck yeah love that shit

[t1ny69fr0g]

[dogpuppy]

[mono-red-menace]