gonna start a cult again

he/she/they why did i do this i don't even like talking to people

[saltwater-goldfishy]

ok I know everyone’s considered Ryland grace wearing an “I put the ace in space” t shirt but. have we considered the infinitely funnier option of putting this shirt on eva stratt

[raviolireptile]

I had to draw this

[undead-moth]

I do love that when the Heated Rivalry’s show runner was asked about casting queer actors to play queer characters he ignored the bait and was just straight up like “You can’t ask that. That’s illegal.” lmao because yeah. It is. Weird how a lot of discourse on this subject acts like this is not a factor.

[oldcoyote]

if you ever doubt that your ao3 comments matter or mean something: i have been struggling with my writing for 6 months straight, crying myself to sleep afraid that i will never be able to write again, that the thing i love most in the world has left me, that my writing is just gone

this morning i got this comment:

and after i stopped blubbering over it, i picked up my writing notebook, and re-read all my fic research, and opened up my document again for the first time in weeks without being afraid of it

you have no idea how much writers treasure every single comment we get. you have no idea how big an impact you can have. sometimes, just sometimes, your one "insignificant" comment changes everything

[paperstorm]

I love you weird fanfiction. I love you unpopular kink. I love you unsanitized sex scenes. I love you fics that the mean girls make fun of on twitter. I love you monster fucking. I love you daddy kinks and foot fetishes and water sports. I love you stories about complex human emotions and bad choices with no consequences and characters hurting each other. I love you threesomes or polycules. I love you rare pairs. I love you furry art. I love you dark fantasies. I love you kink that’s so specific and self indulgent it was clearly written just for the person writing it. I love you ships that people think you shouldn’t be allowed to ship. I love you anyone who has the courage to put their art into a public space when that art is weird, or dark, or taboo, or something that will be considered unacceptable by the puritanical fandom police.

[gffa]

#PERFECT ANIMATION OF OBI-WAN KENOBI #OBI-WAN SWINGING HIS LIGHTSABER LIKE A BASEBALL BAT #IS THE ABSOLUTE FUNNIEST THING #’HE’S ONE OF THE BEST DUELLISTS IN THE JEDI ORDER. HIS STYLE IS REFINED AND–’ #MEANWHILE OBI-WAN KENOBI:  [HITS YOU WITH A LIGHTSABER BAT]

[gffa]

#no no#this is WHY he’s the best duelist (via @markwatnae​) Yes!  You understand!!  Obi-Wan is one of the best duelists in the Jedi Order, but people are wrong about why.  They think he’s the personification of refinement and elegance. N O ! ! ! HE WILL JUST STRAIGHT UP BLOW OUT YOUR KNEE WITH A HARD KICK, PUNCH YOU IN THE FACE, AND BEAT YOU TO DEATH WITH A BASEBALL BAT LIGHTSABER. OBI-WAN KENOBI STREET FIGHTS AND YOU’RE ALL SLEEPING ON THIS.

NEVER CROSS OBI-WAN KENOBI IN A LIGHTSABER FIGHT BECAUSE HE WILL FUCK YOU UP IN THE MOST DOWN AND OUT WAY. JUST STRAIGHT UP BEAT YOU INTO THE GROUND. LIKE, YES, HE’S A JEDI MASTER AND HE IS GRACEFUL AND HAS HONED HIS SKILLS, HE VERY MUCH IS ABOUT DISCIPLINE AND FINE TUNING HIS TRAINING. HIS FINE TUNING HIS ABILITY TO DROP YOU TO THE GROUND AND SWING A LIGHTSABER BAT AT YOUR HEAD.

[izzieedraws]

This cracks me up. Never mess with Catch-These-Hands-Kenobi

[tankie-transfeminist]

If you hate narcissistic people you need to unfollow me. Only people who love and support narcissists are allowed on this blog.

For anyone who's still around and wants to be educated, "narcissism" is a personality disorder, which is a fancy way of saying that it's a way of existing, which has real disadvantages, but which has also been effectively criminalized by the medicarceral system. If you hate narcissists, you are complicit in the ongoing social processes which deny them bodily autonomy, human connection, and basic dignity.

Narcissism/being narcissistic/having NPD is not a moral failing. Treating narcissistic people like shit is.

[tankie-transfeminist]

If you don't have NPD it's actually more important you reblog this. It's been really great seeing a lot of people with NPD react to this really positively, but I need everyone who does not have NPD to enforce this for their own blogs too.

[voredere]

friendly reminder to ppl who don't have NPD

-NPD has one of the highest suicide rates of any mood related disorder; slightly less impulsivity based attempts than BPD, but NPD sufferers are more likely to succeed in their attempts.

-NPD, like most cluster B disorders, is generally traumagenic, meaning it usually develops as a means of coping with childhood trauma, abuse, or neglect.

-"Narc abuse" is pop psychology with no real basis in reality. NPD sufferers are infinitely more likely to be abused than become abusers, and are typically more prone to self destructive than anything.

-If your parents sucked shit, it's because they *chose* to treat you like shit, not because they had a magic version of NPD that makes them a Bad Person. sorry you had to find out this way.

-Random people online with NPD aren't your parents and it's really creepy to project your trauma onto them.

treat the NPD sufferers in your life like people or die trying.

[the-haiku-bot]

treat the NPD

sufferers in your life like

people or die trying.

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[shadowseductress]

adding geologist to my resume after hitting rock bottom

[sneakysnek1123]

Can we be nicer to people who are on the aro/ace spectrum who aren’t aroace please? Aroallos and alloaces and aplatonic folk and cupioromantics and those who want queerplatonic relationships and those who don’t and aros who date and aces who have sex and people who don’t fall on the “sex-favourable to sex-repulsed” line because they feel like it doesn’t describe them well enough and greyromantics and demisexuals and those in polycules and selfshipping communities and those who fight for aro/ace visibility and those who don’t and those who haven’t fully come to terms with their identity yet and this community is such a beautiful place can we see it beyond “uwu innocent aroace doesn’t know what sex is” please god I am begging you

[aro-ace-chaos]

Aspec Glossary: QPR

What is the Aspec Glossary?

A QPR (queerplatonic relationship) is a type of relationship that does not conform to typical expectations for a romantic relationship. Aspec folks are often in QPRs, but they are not exclusive to aspecs. Anyone can be in a queerplatonic relationship.

What exactly a QPR looks like is determined by the people in that relationship, but, in general, it is a platonic relationship with the same level of intimacy and commitment that is typically expected of a romantic relationship, but without feelings of romantic love.

A queerplatonic relationship is called such because it "queers" what is expected of a platonic relationship.

QPRs are no less important than romantic relationships, just different. The terms of the relationship are defined only by the people in the relationship. In this sense, QPR is an umbrella term for a whole host of relationships, wherein, typically, the only stipulation is that it does not involve romantic love or involves romantic love in a non-normative way.

To an outside observer, a QPR may look like a typical if strong friendship, a platonic marriage or a marriage for tax benefits, friends with benefits, some combination of those, or something else entirely.

No two QPRs are the same. In some ways, a QPR is moreso a category of relationship.

[reveredsky-deactivated20171222]

“the gay community was never racist”

shit y’all still are to this day

[andthenyoufoundmy-deactivated20]

:/

[reveredsky-deactivated20171222]

I’m glad my post got around.. ppl need to see some history

[the-haiku-bot]

I’m glad my post got

around.. ppl need to

see some history

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[eroscestlavie]

Why am I finding out just today that Salvador Dali designed the Chupa Chups logo

[eroscestlavie]

????

[eroscestlavie]

Hey. What

[trash-slvt]

"relax. sucking does not kill" would make for a fun shirt

[sprachgefuehle]

I am happy to inform you what chupa chups can translate to <3

my favourite lollipop: sucky sucks

[the-haiku-bot]

I am happy to

inform you what chupa chups

can translate to <3

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[monsterboyjunction]

Saw a post and decided to fix it ^^

[weevilwoodpecker]

i always reblog pro wasp propaganda to spite my phobia

[the-haiku-bot]

i always reblog

pro wasp propaganda to

spite my phobia

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[chyarui]

Happy Pride from our asexual king!!! 🖤🩶🤍💜

Having kids the normal way? Nahhhhhhhh asexual reproduction is the way to go 💪

(would have included the other clones if i thought jango thinks of them as his kids but wellllll—)

[poorlemons]

every character is aromantic if you can truly believe

[the-haiku-bot]

every character

is aromantic if you

can truly believe

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[scribefindegil]

I was in a long-term relationship that fell apart partially because I was ace and my partner was very much not, and every time we looked for relationship help we got told that I was the problem. Not just that a significant mismatch in sexual desire could be a problem in a relationship, but that it was My Fault, Specifically, for not being willing to suck it up and have a bunch of sex I didn't want. To my ex's credit, he cared about consent much more than any of the professionals we talked to and refused to pressure me even when my (lesbian, billed as progressive and pro-LGBT) therapist was actively telling him to.

But it meant that we had absolutely no help or support when we were trying to work on the relationship in ways that *did* value my autonomy. There's basically no advice for people who want to try to make a relationship where there's a big desire gap work that isn't "well you should just have sex anyway" or "just break up lol". And that sucks!

Sometimes breaking up is necessary, and that's what ended up happening with us because there were other reasons we worked better as friends, but there *should* be better frameworks for discussing what people want and need that don't automatically assume that one partner's feelings are automatically more important or valuable than the other's.

[geese-in-flight]

I was dating someone who wanted to be accommodating and work with me to figure things out but lacked the EQ to do so in any effective way. It was my first relationship and I was still figuring out what being ace meant for me. It’s been eight or nine years, but I still remember very clearly the moment I realized we’d been approaching the entire discussion as if my orientation was the problem to be solved, and that it would be equally as valid to say that hers was.

She was significantly less impressed with this revelation than I was, but I tried to hold on to it ever since (although obviously the real problem wasn’t either one of us, but the mismatch and the lack of tools to deal with it). I think it’s super important to remember that we aren’t the ones in the wrong while our theoretical partners are the ones in the right. I was surprised by how much I’d internalized the assumption and I don’t think I’m the only one.

[ineffectualdemon]

The other frustrating aspect of this is allo relationships will often have periods of time where libido does not match (I'm not derailing and this will swing back to asexual people)

Just after giving birth, during a family crisis, during a mental health episode, during health problems, during stressful periods at work

There are a lot of times when one person is horned up and raring to go and the other has no interest

And the solution often presented is that the person who is going through something should just put out because they are the problem instead of like...finding ways to engage in non sexual intimacy to reaffirm closeness

An asexual person is going to get 10x the amount of pressure and blame put on them and no advice on how non-sexual intimacy can help their relationships and if they get that at all it will only be to sell it as a bridge to sex they don't want.

I really hate the selling of intimacy as only equaling or facilitating sex. Intimacy comes in many forms and should be explored more by every couple as a non sexual act. And it the given importance it deserves. In fact I would argue if we as a society put more value on non sexual intimacy more relationships would be happier and healthier

And asexual people would stop getting shit for being themselves.

[the-haiku-bot]

And asexual

people would stop getting shit

for being themselves.

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[depsidase]

[unicorncryptid]

"my life isn't a crime, I'm not one of those people -"

"you sure? new parameters for Those People just dropped. check again."

[lizardywizard]

And if you truly cannot imagine this, if you're convinced that it will never happen to you, consider this one thing.

Would you want scammers to know the state of your loved one's dementia?

[the-haiku-bot]

Would you want scammers

to know the state of your loved

one’s dementia?

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[hollanoveau]

saw this possibility mentioned on another site and actually wanted to run myself over with my own car thinking about it