And that’s the most frustrating thing about depression. It isn’t always something you can fight back against with hope. It isn’t even something — it’s nothing. And you can’t combat nothing. You can’t fill it up. You can’t cover it. It’s just there, pulling the meaning out of everything. That being the case, all the hopeful, proactive solutions start to sound completely insane in contrast to the scope of the problem. It would be like having a bunch of dead fish, but no one around you will acknowledge that the fish are dead. Instead, they offer to help you look for the fish or try to help you figure out why they disappeared. (x)
This is actually a really good way to explain it, I think.
I WILL NEVER NOT REBLOG THIS
I’ve seen this reblogged without the original caption before and boy was i confused
Wait, this version of the post misses out what I think is the most important bit of the paragraph “The problem might not even have a solution. But you aren’t necessarily looking for solutions. You’re maybe just looking for someone to say “sorry about how dead your fish are” or “wow, those are super dead. I still like you, though.”“
^^^^^
Since realizing this, I’ve started asking friends who are upset, “do you want a solution or do you just need to vent?” Because those are two very different things.
Yes, asking someone if they want advice or sympathy/commiseration is a habit I’m really trying to get into! Generally I’m not so bad, but I still slip up
