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Told my kid to lie about his age online, like I did at 16. Nailed it

There are gonna be people who won't like hearing this but if you want to live in a world where mixed marriages, families, and adoptions (particularly POC adopting outside their "race") aren't maligned and discriminated against, then you have got to get more chill about seeing someone partaking in something cultural that you don't think fits the "race" you perceive them as.

statisticalcats2

It's a vague memory now, it was a vague memory even at the time I made this post, but I think what sparked this was remembering stupid comments I saw about a Chinese-American cookbook that were complaining about it being written by a white woman and then I looked the white woman up and the briefest research showed she was adopted as a child into a Chinese-American family and just....

*pinches nose*

Fellas, is it cultural appropriation to inherit your family's culture but you don't pass the blood quantum test?

All of you are literally just racist. You've come full-circle. You're working under the belief that people are supposed to "keep to their own kind" and that means the socially invented concept of "race", and "race mixing" of any sort is unnatural.

asteroidtroglodyte

What discussing Cultural Appropriation was supposed to be about: why does Cheryl get to wear Dreads to work but Tyrone doesn’t?

What it became: Segregation 2 electric boogaloo

betweenishish

Litmus test for cultural appropriation: 1. are you displaying it for irony/aesthetics/clout? - appropriation 2. are you taking inspiration or passing on a tradition with full respect for the origin and meaning thereof, in a way that honors that history? - usually okay* *It's an important distinction, especially when you realize that if more people don't learn a language, it will die. If people don't learn the recipe, it will disappear. Tell the story. Sing the song. Credit the originator.

torstherapy

tinsnip

Per @spoonstrek

#it's true even if I resent it #and we also need time to grapple with or grieve hard things #i try to do 10 percent kvetching/catastropizing #and 90% doing #though who am I kidding usually it's 100% 100%

fairycosmos

look. i don’t think my stretch marks are beautiful. i don’t think they’re tiger stripes or natural tattooos. i don’t think my acne is beautiful. i don’t think the bags under my eyes are beautiful. i just think they’re human. and i don’t think i have to be beautiful all of the time in order to be accepted and loved and sucessful. i don’t think every small detail of my outer appearence needs to be translated into prettiness.

serotonin-sunrise

fun fact: this POV is actually called “body neutrality” and it’s SO MUCH more accessible/realistic for a lot of people. it’s based on the idea that the way we look is the least interesting/important thing about who we are, and that our bodies are worthy of respect regardless if they fit the mold of the current beauty ideals.

#oh it me #my body is a fine body usually #it does human things #we work well together

surii

BRENDAN FRASER as RICK O’CONNELL ODED FEHR as ARDETH BAY THE MUMMY (1999) dir. Stephen Sommers

#a favorite #aka the movie in which nearly everyone is fuckable

godkissedme

I’m not avoiding my destiny I just had to lie down

#one does not negate the other

milkcastro

And what if rap WAS only about sex, violence, and drugs... what then? Would you be justified in looking down upon it as not being "real" art? What would your justification be? Sex is immoral and taboo? Drugs should never be mentioned outside of D.A.R.E programs? Songs about violence turn children to it? Would you turn that standard to other genres as well? I know you wouldn't, I know you haven't, because it's never really been about the topics explored.

11thfempachi

rap is often about politics and punk is often about sex and drugs but tumblr users wouldn't know because they listen to neither

#hey now #i listen to both #the look on my sister's face when I started singing along to It Wasn't Me #like I'm some sort of uber white alien with neither ears nor taste

dollelujah

Me watching the little mermaid: surely a contract signed by a minor can't have any legal standing.

#if she's old enough to marry #maybe the age of majority unda the sea is 16

littlebeetlebro

me: *sobbing in the woods*

The eldritch horror that’s been watching me from behind a tree: ….Red Lobster’s hiring.

me: *turns around* oh shit fr?

jobeeseverafter

I am so freaking stoked for this new spinoff line from Monster High, Moonspell Magic! I want ALL of them! They're so witchy cute! I really hope they come out with a 6th new character with a playset, so I can get all of them. I usually only buy dolls in sets of two.

I already love all of them, and have headcanons for them, and I want to make art of them and write fanfics for them and everything. They are my little witchy babies now, and I love them.

betweenishish

I'm definitely looking forward to it. I'll take two of everything

#dolls #fashion dolls #moonspell magic

keskeaa

She needs a name

betweenishish

soooo cute

#doll #handmade #bunny #ooak

bananahkim

Making Delphine

betweenishish

this is so emotive

teaboot

The only downside to talking to small children like they’re normal people and treating them like normal people (as per my mom) is that as they develop into bigger children they are viscerally aware of every single moment in which they are pandered to like stupid little accessories (as per my dad, my teacher, the special ed aide, every adult in my middle school) and you end up getting a lot of phone calls from people reporting your kid for (checks notes) “undermining authority”, “disrupting the classroom environment”, “disobeying elder peers”, and “unionizing the grade eleven gym class with intent to incite a mutiny” (as per me) and you end up with a Grown Adult who will absolutely encourage and enable other people’s children to fuck the sustem

teaboot

Anyhow the most empowering shit you can say to a kid in my experience has to be

“Wow that adult was being a jerk”

“That sounds really frustrating”

”Good job handling that, I would have lost my mind”

“It’s cool, I don’t expect you to remember me”

“You don’t have to hug me if you don’t want to”

“Yeah sometimes (authority figure you can’t avoid) doesn’t know what they’re talking about, it’s not your fault, just do your best”

“I don’t totally understand what you mean but I get that you’re upset, is there anything I can do?”

”Wanna go yell and break stuff with me?”

“You don’t need to be friends with that kid as long as you can still be polite”

“If an adult tells you to do something that will get you hurt, you don’t have to listen.”

“My number one goal is to keep you safe, but I don’t know everything and sometimes I’m wrong, so let me know if I make a mistake.”

“Man. Today sucked.”

“Yeah I also kinda wanna cry right now”

“Whoops, yeah, my bad”

“I don’t know the answer to that but we can probably figure it out”

tyrantisterror

The core appeal of Willy Wonka is that he's a nigh-omnipotent maniac who uses his near limitless powers over reality to trick shitty people into killing themselves. You can't make him the protagonist of a whimsical coming of age tale - you have to treat him like Jason Voorhees, or Dracula, or any other horror icon. Give him some new victims and new interesting kills and set him loose, that's all audiences want.

bcomic-blog

I feel like I watched a somewhat different movie...

tyrantisterror

fluidstatick

Gene lobbied hard for Wonka to be introduced as a feeble limping old man who suddenly falls into a forward somersault and leaps to his feet, because "from that moment on the audience won't know if he can be trusted." On a related note: the director told Gene what would happen during the boat scene, but none of the other actors were prepared; to this day, none of them are sure what he ad libbed and what was scripted.

My favorite detail, though, is his performance of Pure Imagination. On the surface, the song is charming and inviting, but if you look closely at him throughout the scene, you'll notice that Gene never blinks. He looks around, down at his feet, up at the trees; his eyes never fully close. He moves erratically, stuttering up and down the steps of the chocolate room. The lyrics are warm and friendly, but his face is blank. He bows to permit his visitors to run amok, but his posture is stiff. He helps Violet and Mike reach a couple of treats, but there is no joy in the gesture. The final post-chorus feels like a dirge, a threat, and a warning, all at once; Wonka sits in repose under a tree, but his eyes are glassy and dispassionate. "There is no life I know to compare with pure imagination; / living there / you'll be free / if you truly / wish / to be.......... "

Fantasy in excess, like anything else, will destroy you; that's the real message of Gene Wilder's Wonka. He taunts his guests with unrepentant disdain, and doesn't care if they live or die. He toys with their emotions, their safety, and their grip on reality, feeling no regret or remorse, no pity, no compassion. Fantasy is colorful and compelling, but it's false, and ultimately empty. Wonka is a walking maladaptive daydream, and as far as I'm concerned, that's the real reason the 1971 film has endured in the culture for so long.