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Bramble • he/fae • 20s • Irish genderqueer • gay a-spec • polyam? sure as hell amn’t a city queer

[bramblequeer]

You can call me Bramble (he/fae). I’m genderqueer and gay aroace. I like writing, chickens and holding hands. Constantly chasing the high of my first crush.

This started off as a mlm & nblm page but has sort of evolved to encompass queer a-spec masculinity. Expect posts about loving men, loving queerness, loving complexities of gender, hating amatonormativity and embracing ambiguity. Also hands.

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Best boy aesthetic, pretty boys, men <3, new gender dropped, polyam aroace

[aromanticofficial]

Being aromantic while liking romantic media is like sitting in the greatest cuck chair of all time. A cuck throne, if you will. Guards! Make them kiss! 🫵 and leave me out of it

the nosebleed seats are the most comfortable cuck chair of all time

[motherblackcap]

I actually really like the term genderqueer, because the only thing it specifies about your gender is that it's queer in some way. Does that mean you're nonbinary? Binary trans? Cis with some freaky cool gender presentation stuff going on? None of those or all of those? It doesn't matter and I think that's beautiful.

[beholdingslut]

in absolute tears about the pride module at my work

[dikdikpronouncedxylophone]

[bigfoots-biggest-fan]

HOLY SHIT GUYS, I WAS INSPIRED BY THIS POST TO TRY MAKE THE SONG AND YOU WOULD NOT BELIEVE THE SCREAM I SCRUMPT WHEN I DRAGGED THE TRAINING AUDIO OVER THE BACKING TRACK AND IT LINED UP PERFECTLY

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Tempted to actually put this on spotify so I can secretly stream it at work...

Tagging @batshit-auspol because as an Australian you're the only big account I know who might share (sorry).

[punkrorschach]

happy first day of pride everyone

[corporrealism]

Saint Sebastian. 24 x 18 inches. Oil on Panel

[brilliantsmiles]

I hate when someone gives me a look of pity when I tell them that I have no plans to marry or date. Like I wasn’t upset about it before but now you’re making me feel like I should be

[pangur-and-grim]

I honestly do think that doing HRT is really brave. because it means you're not giving up, and you think there will be a future for you

[aroace-ryland-grace]

hi aromantics and asexuals and aroaces. I love you.

[life-ennder]

i think completely pre transition trans people should be able to wear one tiny little pronoun pin and get gendered correctly every time. i think cis people should be transitioning just for the fun of it if they want to. i think you should be able to walk into any pharmacy and just buy hrt. i think that little boys should be able to sit in circles and play with dolls and paint each other's nails and make friendship bracelets. i think that little girls should be able to play with flaming monster trucks and play football and get competitive over video games. i think that arson (he/it/paw) should have paw's identity respected and treated as completely normal. i think that we should normalize neopronouns and weird genders and being weird or unusual in general. you should be able to explain your weird one of a kind xenogender to the least queer person on the planet and they should say "oh that's cool!! haven't heard of that gender before". you should be able to wear a tail in public you should be able to make out with your computer if you want i don't fucking care. i love transgenders i love neurodivergent people i love furries i love everyone outside the norm i love freaks i love nerds i love everyone.

[watermelon-jollyranchers]

fuckkkk blur was so right. sometimes you really are looking for girls who are boys who like boys to be girls who do boys like they’re girls who do girls like they’re boys

[feelthethundxr]

everytime i think about just how many men like me died without ever getting a chance to find themselves i have to take a minute before i start bawling. so many were stolen by marriage pregnancy children abuse before ever getting a CHANCE at a good life and getting to be happy as men. i am so so sorry to all of my dead brothers. i hope in your next lives the world is kinder to you all

[mythicalcoolkid]

Hey can we queers please remember that the rural queer experience has unique challenges thanks

[mythicalcoolkid]

Coming out is different when you know if you come out to one person you risk the whole town knowing. Coming out is different when religion is entwined in your entire community. Being queer is different when you can't trust that your doctor or therapist will stay confidential. Being queer is different when conversion therapy is subtle and normalized. Transitioning is different when there aren't gender clinics or gender therapists for 50 miles. School is different when other kids are put at risk by being seen with you. Can we stop acting like there aren't queer people living in rural areas and start supporting them

[lastoneout]

And also like supporting them in a way other than just telling them to move somewhere else.

[non-beingnary]

Being a rural queer let me tell you one thing, it's a death by thousand cuts. You have to face abuse, discrimination and humiliation for something as slight as a hand movement, a facial expression, a like on Facebook or Instagram. And at the top of that you also have to face your abusers every single day... And be all smiles and roses. There is so much pain, so much grief and loss in rural queers. You have to see your lovers get married and dance in their weddings. They are not shown in media, cultural representation is cut off. So yeah being a rural queer is a fucking nightmare but urban queers almost seem to have disdain for rural queers because they can't name the winner of all stars 8 or something.

[writhingwrecked]

End metro-normativity. Not only is moving to an urban environment not an option for some rural queers, but some don’t even want it. Despite the struggles, many rural queers still have aspects of their rural lives and upbringing that they want to hold on to and be apart of. Stop telling us that the only way we can be our authentic selves is by moving to a city and instead help support us in our refusal to be bullied out of our homes and communities. Stop telling us our only option is to abandon everything we know and starting all over. It’s not the only option and it’s not as safe and shiny as we’re promised. As a rural queer that has lived it, I can say from experience there are bigots in metropolitan/urban areas too.

[murderonthedullexpress]

“Trapped”

Stone Butch Blues - Leslie Feinberg

@/lilboyblueish on Instagram

Poem by Keaton St. James (@boykeats)

I/Me/Myself - Will Wood

We Both Laughed In Pleasure by Lou Sullivan

cis people asking cis questions by Silas Denver Melvin (@sweatermuppet)

Tomboy Survival Guide by Ivan Coyote

[bramblequeer]

[bramblequeer]

My best friend is pregnant and it’s kind of thrown me off kilter. I know we’re not kids anymore but this is one place where we will never again be equal. She will now always be her+kid(+partner). I’m just me. We won’t be going away for a long weekend as a new yearly tradition. She’s going to have a little one too. I love her and I’m excited to be an auntie but it’s still a weird feeling.

[hankeatspaint]

Turned out way better than I expected lol

[thesitharts]

Once you start noticing the erasure and exclusion of trans mascs in everything from media to academics you can never stop noticing it

[burning-gray-mon]

Back when I was in university we were asked to do a brief research exercise on a health condition impacting a community. Can't remember what I wanted to look at now, but it was something to do with the trans community.

Whatever it was, to put it this way, if there were 10 studies on the trans community as a whole, there were 3 on trans women and trans fems and 0 on trans men and trans mascs, and 0 on nonbinary people. All of the mixed studies were also pretty much useless for my purposes as well because they were all so lopsided.

I think I swapped to a bunch of different things - addiction rates, smoking, depression, mental health in general - nothing that was even roughly equal in looking at all of us. Trans men, trans mascs and nonbinary people are so under researched as to be nonexistent.

To keep this brief since I've rambled a bunch - this is a major issue health wise since we have not a lot of literature on what testosterone does to certain bodies. This can lead to major health complications, not because of the testosterone itself, but because there might be an interaction thats missed or a complication that's not noticed (which is the same for any medication that's under researched on certain bodies. This is not me scaring people off of hrt, this is me pointing out its a medication like any other.)

[genderkoolaid]

#the therapist who wrote my permission slip for hrt was a trans man#and during that appointment we talked about the erasure of trans men from basically everything#and i talked about an article i had read a week or so earlier about trans people and hiv#it very in depth about risks prevention treatment etc#except that it exclusively referenced trans women with a single sentence at the end basically saying 'oh trans men are at risk too'#less than a year later i saw that same therapist speaking at an hiv organization fundraising event#he talked about how he had just recently been diagnosed with hiv#and had to sit there while this doctor told him all about how the treatment options had never been tested on trans men#none of them#they knew that the treatment would work#but not how effective it would be in comparison to its effectiveness in other demographics#no idea what kind of side effects he might experience#how it would interact with his body and his hormones#what the long term effects would be#nothing#he had to sit there while his doctor told him he would have to be a guinea pig but its not like he has a choice#the only alternative is dying from aids#that whole thing was kind of a wake up call for me#and i started paying more attention getting tested regularly myself and all that sruff you're supposed to do#and over time i befriended the person who did most of my testing#they were also trans masc and we would talk about this kind of stuff#and i told them i wanted to get on prep but every doctor i asked had a wildly different answer on if i even could take it#which verison i could take etc#and they said that only one form of prep has been approved fot trans men but its never actually been tested on trans men#and that one version isnt good for long term use because it has some pretty serious side effects long term#and they said that they regularly go to conferences and meet with representatives from all these drug companies#and they ask 'wheres the data on trans men' 'when are you doing clinical studies on trans men'#and the answer#every single time is: we have not done any studies on trans men and we have no intention to ever do studies on trans men#this is not some passive result of trans masc invisibility it is an active act of erasure that needs to be recognized as an act of violence

[archaeologistic]

Im at a university that is relatively progressive. We have researchers in essentially every field, to some degree, it's a top university in North America, all of my classes on archaeology and anthropology have referenced papers published since 2020 alongside earlier papers, etc.

In particular, we've had a lot of discussions on modern concepts of intersectionality and marginalization. Talks on disability, poc, economic status, etc and how all of these different marginalizing factors come together to influence a person's privilege and vulnerabilities in society. A good number of these classes have mentioned trans people, at least in passing, and at least two have had more in depth discussions around trans people.

Out of all those classes and discussions, not a single one mentioned trans men or trans masculine people. Not. One. When I was early in my Bachelor's and things were still online from COVID, I took a course that was explicitly about the performance of femininity (a philosophy course, for approach and methods). We read about cis women. The we read about trans women. Then we wrote about the intersection and about how different people are expected to perform femininity from a very young age. Yet there was not a single mention of trans men.

As an archaeology student, this was not really part of my program. But at the time I was also very strongly questioning my gender. I wanted to learn about being a woman because I never actually felt like one. And I got a good look at all the structural ways in society that we make women perform, and how difficult it is to learn that as an adult, and how heavily policed it is, etc. But my burning question of "what about the people it's entirely wrong for? What about the trans men?" was never even approached or acknowledged.

If I were to take that class now, I would approach the professor about it. But at the time, I was new and shy and not used to voicing opinions to people in positions of authority. So I said nothing.

Again, this is at a top university with cutting edge research and awareness of current events and topics. If they're not discussing it, it might as well not exist in the academic sphere. THAT is how invisible trans men are. And unfortunately, it means it's up to us to change that, even as much of the world turns against trans people. Even when, for many of us, it would be more comfortable to just go stealth and allow ourselves to disappear. We need the visibility because without it we have no rights, no health care, and no support. And that is something that claims lives.

[intersexfairy]

transmascs who dont pass as cis men should still be treated with respect.

transmascs who dont want to pass as cis men are allowed to never pass.

transmascs who express their gender femininely are doing nothing wrong.

transmascs who are genderfluid, bigender, multigender, xenogender, etc. aren't less transmasc.

you don't need to conform to cis standards of masculinity to be transmasc.

transmasculinity holds a wide array of experiences of gender. each and everyone of us is unique.

what we all have in common is that we identify or express ourselves more masculinely than we have traditionally been expected to.

for some of us, the identity piece matters more than the outward expression.

for others of us, our identity and expression are opposites on the gender binary.

or maybe we don't really have a gender identity, or we werent AFAB, but we still find ourselves transitioning masculinely.

there's so many possibilities - many more than i've listed here. and that's what makes transmasculinity so incredible!

we've been taught all our lives that there is only one right way to be masculine - and that it was something we would never obtain for ourselves. something we were born to never touch.

but we still went for it. we discovered on our own and in community with others new, more inviting and fulfilling ways of being masculine.

we bring life to the world. all of us. our fems, femmes, fats, butches, bears, queers, genderfuckers, nonbinary people, microlabeled individuals, intersex transmascs...

transmasculinity is a gift to the world. truly.