you know when i say we have to accept autistic people who have symptoms of autism that cause things like body fluid smearing, inconsistent or no personal hygiene, lack of volume control, etc. I'm not talking about some fringe cases of autistic people with "extreme" symptoms. these things are common. they're common amongst medium and high support needs autistics, but also amongst low support needs autistics. some of your peers at the local autistic peer support society are struggling with incontinence. it's just that they can control their liquid intake and use pads to manage symptoms. some of them are smearing fecal matter but they just clean up after themselves. the divide between low support needs and others isn't that low support needs autistics are actually more palatable, have fewer undesirable symptoms, or are in any way better than the rest of the autistic population. even if some people like to act that way. it just refers to the level of support they need. like being able to manage your own incontinence for example doesn't make you have it any less. we've gotta accept that various symptoms are part of autism. they're actually quite common. there remains a lot of social stigma around these symptoms, but that doesn't make them rare or not worth talking about. things like skin picking or hitting your head are behaviours that naturally arise from having autism, and we've got to accept that