Ok so lately I’ve noticed there’s a big influx in trans acceptance to sapphic spaces, and I love that, but with that influx is coming a lot of poorly informed fetishism, so I’m going to do my best to deal some of the issues there.
This post is in no way saying “no trans women fit these attributes”, but simply outlining the way it feels like our acceptance is almost entirely predicated on our willingness to conform to a societal view of “inherent” masculinity.
Almost every post I see about trans bodies lately, especially those posts written by cis women, describes us almost exclusively in one way. Thick cocked, full of cum, ready to breed and top a pretty femme (often as a butch). SO I’m gonna dispel some myths.
Most trans people experience a degree of dysphoria; this means that for many (probably a majority) being assumed to be “butch” or “masc” based on our genitals, kinda fucking sucks. It’s something that people have called me since I came out, no matter how many times I told people it didn’t seem to fit; and it took my current partner to realise that it’s something I only accepted because I thought “yeah I don’t like this label, but at least I’m included”.
This dysphoria also affects how we fuck, a majority of us do that “differently”, we use different words for our bodies, penetrating somebody might not feel like an option, the way we enjoy oral and being stimulated changes. We don’t want to just “feel like the girl” in the relationship, we are the girl, and often thanks to societal pressures, that means wanting to bottom, to be babied, cared for, to feel like ‘the princess’. These differences aren’t just emotional, they’re physical as well because that’s what hormones do.
On that topic: hormones. Most trans women who are out are either on them or want to be on them. And hormones have a lot of affects that you know, softer skin and hair, titties, cry lots, but a common misconception seems to fall around our genitals.
Oestrogen shrinks your junk, it stops you producing cum, your doctors ask you dozens of times if you’re willing to become infertile and potentially never get hard again.
And to a lot of us, that’s a fucking good thing, it’s a relief, tucking becomes easier, erections aren’t going to spiral us into dysphoric panics at random and inconvenient times.
But now there seems to be a bit of a shift that is hitting people in a way I am only used to experiencing from men.
Y’all are accepting us not just “with our bodies” but in a lot of cases, because of your own perceptions of our bodies. The acceptance is now in the form of “hell yeah thick cock girls are so hot and should pump me full of cum” posts that remind the vast majority of out and transitioning women that they’re actively losing the thing people are fetishising us over, the thing that is giving us the acceptance we need.
SO, this is a reminder to think about your trans followers, mutuals and friends, and just consider the difference between accepting them, understanding them and loving them; and fetishising them for their porn category attributes.
You can love girls with thick cocks dripping with cum all you like, just don’t forget how similar that feels to being fetishised when trans girls are treated as fake or strange for NOT being comfortable with being seen as “the hot top with a built-in strap”
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