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How to Love Me: A Guide to Harper

Dear Friends, Family, Esteemed Colleagues, Internet Strangers, and Friends of My Mom, This is a brief owner’s guide for loving me without burning me -or you- out. In most cases, I would quite literally set myself on fire to keep someone else warm, and that has to stop. Over the past decade, I have gone through three really hard friendship breakups and a couple of less serious ones. My…

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Tabletop Inn- Marion, North Carolina

The Tabletop Inn is a board game themed bed and breakfast nestled in the foothills of the Blue Ridge Mountains that was created by owners (and board game designers!) Grace Kendall and Mike Belsole. Located just about an hour from the Asheville Airport, the Tabletop Inn combines the convenience of being near an airport and a city with small town charm. You can visit their website at…

Tabletop Inn- Marion, North Carolina

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River Love Dillon Cottam

I’ll have more to say when the grief isn’t so fresh. For now, here you go.

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February 2025 Senate Republicans Voting Records

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Tna-XcAJWJo5HHn6baAiM81Zv2d6hMqC/view?usp=sharing How did your Senators vote on protecting Medicaid for pregnant women and for children? How did your Senators vote on blocking tax credits for the ultra wealthy? How did your Senators vote on protecting the health care of our nation’s veterans? How did your Senators vote on reinstating the fired Federal employees…

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A Tale of Two Articles (well, 1.5 really)

I’ve heard that AlJazeera isn’t a good source because they’re too biased. So let’s look at these two articles. The first, published by AlJazeera on October 10, details a UN report that states that Israel is guilty of the “crime of extermination” (among other things) since October 2023. The report details the killing and torture of medical professionals in Gaza. Both articles mention that the UN…

A Tale of Two Articles (well, 1.5 really)

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Too Much Not Enough

TW: Suicidal Ideation, Dog Health, Friendship Breakup I didn’t think I needed to write about this at all. Today, when I saw the person in question posting a very passive aggressive quote about not spending energy on people who drain you, I was pretty pissed. I immediately deleted them from all of my social media because I will not let them continue to hurt me. I spent about two hours writing…

Too Much Not Enough

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River Update 8/18/24

If you are new to my blog or don’t know much about River Love (my 10 year old Airedale Terrier), you may wish to read this post before proceeding: https://stayafraidbutdoitanyway.wordpress.com/2023/01/05/3288/ In late November of last year, River started having difficulty with her back legs. After going to her primary vet, we figured out that River’s thyroid was low, which could be causing the…

River Update 8/18/24

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LOKI | S2E1 'Ouroboros'

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Peace Corps Sued For Rescinding Offers Over Mental Health

I encourage you to read this article before continuing to read this blog post: https://www.nytimes.com/2023/09/27/health/peace-corps-mental-health.html Also feel free to take a peek at my Peace Corps Application Timeline to see the hoops I personally had to jump through with major depressive disorder, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and generalized anxiety disorder diagnoses, when all three…

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When People Show You Who They Are, Believe Them

I used to be really terrible at setting boundaries. Someone at one point (not so lovingly) called me “Lady No Bo.” Not that I’m super great at it now, but I’m actively working on it and have been improving. In a recent therapy group I participated in, the facilitator reminded us that while some people can grow and some change is possible, adults that we know are very unlikely to change in…

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London

I made it safely! London is very flat, very humongous, and had more golf courses than anyone could possibly need. Also, it looked from the sky as though it would be a beautiful sunny day. Upon landing, I realized it is drizzling 🙂 I have seen a double decker airplane and a pink airplane!

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GOT Bag Review

My health insurance company notified me that there is a portal where I can get discounts on certain items. I went to check it out and saw this bag that I thought would be PERFECT for my Glencoe hike. It’s water resistant, made out of ocean impact plastic (so it’s environmentally conscious, which is important to me), it’s a great size (17-24” expandable x 13” x 16”), and it’s available in all…

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Taylor Swift: The Eras Tour- Bag Plan!

Taylor Swift: The Eras Tour- Bag Plan!

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(via GIPHY) I’m very proud of my GIF creations!

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I made a GIF and I’ve never felt more proud.

[justzawe]

Since a lot of people are migrating to ig- just a list of known anti-Zawe racists who people should be aware of, particularly those who post in Russian and ppl may not realize: ryzhikova.tatiana, iradonskaja (has like 30k followers which is horrifying), s6eta, hiddles_witch (who has been posting a lot lately- super pressed), zaychik880 and of course the og hags zaweashtontea and zaweashtonfans - also NO ONE interact with thespaffmaestro, they have wished very explicit harm on Zawe supporters

Also thescarlettlady, who’s super racist

[iradonskaja]

What interesting lists do you have. Are your accusations of racism supported by anything? Are you of legal age? This may have a legal sequel.

[justzawe]

Lmao are you planning to sue us for saying these people are racist? And yes, these “accusations” are based on shit we’ve seen with our own eyeballs

[positively--speculative]

I smell a sea lion.

[positively--speculative]

@zawe-daily

This person has one post on their blog. They created a blog just to pester you. 🤣

[iradonskaja]

Are you talking about me? Yes, I have one post because I don't use this network. I was sent that I was put on the list of racists. I need an answer and proof. I'm not going to let my name be ruined.

[positively--speculative]

[telltalebatman]

tbh i did scroll through the majority of this person's IG, and i really have yet to see even a mention of zawe ashton? i do realize that many people /are/ horrifically racist about her, but at the same time i could not find a single evidence against this particular person, and considering none was actually shown... they kinda do get to be upset.

https://www.instagram.com/iradonskaja/

[caniessexhisserpent]

So what I will clarify with this list is that some of the people on it say openly racist things (saying they are upset the baby won’t be blonde and blue eyed, calling Zawe a monkey, etc) and some of them like iradonskaja just associates with them and had expressed her dislike of Zawe on many occasions.

Her post of Loki screaming the day after the pregnancy was announced is in regards to that, as well as a post of Loki being kicked in the nuts when the baby was confirmed to be born. So it may not be fair to automatically lump them in with the other openly racist users, but they are definitely a Zawe hater who jokes and regularly interacts with explicitly racist accounts.

Regardless of how we label them, people who do not want to see Zawe insulted might not want to interact with them.