#direct communication

[independent-fics]

Now, you can take that as a gift, or you can take it as a curse. And that's up to you.

Eliot Spencer and Parker Doing the Things Others Won’t

Leverage (2008-2012)

04x01 The Long Way Down Job

05x09 The Rundown Job

[autisticmind]

I don't have "ulterior motives", generally speaking, they are exterior motives— as plainly given as can be, if I know you want me to tell you or feel like I should share for one reason or another.

I don't really see the point in hiding most, if not all things— which can lead to info and trauma dumping and oversharing, when I don't understand/recognize when it's not appropriate.

Do not give me vague hints. Tell me when something makes you uncomfortable.

And don't misinterpret my wanting to know why as trying/wanting to argue with or pressure you— I am just trying to make enough sense of it to expand or fit it into my expectations. I don't, generally, have a problem with the thing itself, just the adjustment.

So explain— at least, try to as best as you can. Specify. State things honestly and openly and clearly. Directly. In another way if one was maybe too unfamiliar or unclear for me to understand.

I promise you, I will respond to and reciprocate the effort most appreciatively.

[1introvertedsage]

Direct communication is sexy.

[in-the-cannibal-glow]

I’ve been saying “No rush” sincerely my whole life and had no idea it meant “please DO rush” in passive neurotypical?!??? 😭😭😭😭

[sadiepickles]

I think dating for me has been a lot list of times people (or even myself) have told me to change my mind on things I knew I was pretty set on and then everybody having surprised pikachu face when it turns out that I'm pretty set on what I like

[daybreaksys]

I love how Gëŕrek communicates everything super directly. It's so Autistic! It's so clear!

The sentence "It's not that I would go but I'd just like the opportunity to be asked." got translated as kémaniś ma vélrakvalkéma, which means "I won't go to them but I want them to say they want me to go to them"

It's like it translates from Allistic to Autistic!

[anylemontrees]

i really don’t understand how neurotypicals will tell you clearly what they want and then it turns out to be the exact opposite of what they really want like how tf am i supposed to know ?? just tell me honestly we don’t need to beat around the bush