literally just some guy

Lane, 22. Nonbinary lesbian (they/them). Boston.

[cheerychimchar]

Gonna take a little Tumblr break. Tired of discourse. See you on the other side!

[renthony]

"Using stereotypes as the basis for queer headcanons can be very hurtful" and "certain stereotypes have been used in historical queer coding, and queer people are allowed to have complex relationships with that coding" are thoughts that can co-exist.

For example, writing/headcanoning all bitchy single women as lesbians CAN be lesbophobic, but "bitchy and single" was used as classic Hollywood Hays Code era lesbian coding, so plenty of sapphic actresses and writers used that as their sneaky way to represent themselves. They had to make a choice between "problematic rep" and "no rep whatsoever." A queer woman looking at a character with that coding and saying, "oh, she's queer like me!" isn't a bad thing.

Problematic queer tropes should be engaged with and deconstructed critically, not blacklisted as "this is always hurtful and never positive and nobody is allowed to interact with it because it's Offensive."

There is an entire history of queer media being censored, and queer people only allowed to exist in media as long as they're portrayed as evil and traumatized. We have to remember that when we analyze queer media, and take care to remember why certain coding exists.

[roach-works]

you're also allowed to like shit because you find it to be fun and sexy regardless of how homosexual or homophobic the writers may have happened to be when they put it in.

like, you don't have to exist in a sort of wretched penitent state of injury and longing towards Problematic Queer Representation. you can just say, hey, fuck it, ursula the sea witch was a big fat drag queen and she was also balls-out evil and that's extremely cash money of her and i'm into it. you can say, yeah that gay man on screen is a mincing effeminate little fairy and that does it for me, he's hot and i love it. i want to be like that. i want to get with that. you don't have to be This Traumatized To Ride. you don't have to crawl through the fucking desert, repenting.

it's better to engage with media critically--that is, with an academic focus on means and motive--than to dismiss it entirely, yeah. but also your relationship with problematic queer media doesn't necessarily have to be complex, to come with caveats, to involve introspection and the delicate dissection of the self out in the operating theater of the internet.

it can be as simple as 'i like what i like'.

[sazandorable]

Worst of all is when people attack a character as being a “hurtful stereotype” that you completely relate to and see yourself in. What if I am a bitchy single lesbian. What if I am a stereotype? Am I a bad person hurting other queers for actually genuinely existing like that?

Call out mean-spirited stuff from bad faith actors, sure, but let queer people live, be ourselves, depict ourselves, and relate to whatever the fuck we want.

[whitepeopletwitter]

[gec-2-uu]

they rate food based on how much it tastes like their tires

[gorgoroth-deactivated20220130]

family sitcom about a transhet couple that have kids, like the dad got pregnant by the mum, and they're just a standard 2.5 kids family with a white picket fence, but they're stealth, and the nosy paranoid neighbours are peaking though the windows like "eddie there's something... queer about those neighbours of ours..."

[tiktoksthataregood-ish]

[airofwhimsy]

[omegaverse]

Ordered truffle fries from a local italian place last night and im still thinking about how they fucked my mouth raw and left me begging for more

[nottodaycia]

Okay and how were the fries

[omegaverse]

They were alright

[nothorses]

opinion on lesbians?

highly recommend

[rogueninja]

maybe you should kiss a cat on its tiny little head then you'll feel better

[obamaphoner]

ptah! ptah!! hair in my mouf

[weonsinnombre]

[dinokingdom]

im gonna try to get my cat famous on petblr he's uhhhhhh well he's just kind of yellow

[dinokingdom]

Gorb.

[dinokingdom]

very common misconception! gorb just likes staring at things, especially things that are lit up or on fire! if he wasn't a sweet beautiful baby boy i might be inclined to say he's a fucking idiot!

hope this helps :)

[cheerychimchar]

“Just kind of yellow” is the best kind of cat. I love him

[cromerholt]

what the hells going on at my mcdonalds

[shoeboxgoblin]

Rejection sensitive dysphoria is wild. Someone will be like “hey just so you know the thing you did was a little bit loud/uncomfortable/insensitive but it’s ok I know you didn’t mean it” and my brain will instantly translate “you should be shot”

[ajani]

The fun other side of this too is when you are afraid of making other people feel that way so you just let shit go 90% of the time even when it’s reasonable and valid to make a comment/critique/etc

[cheerychimchar]

Charcuterie

[sleepatnights]

[catchymemes]

Meet Smudge the table cat

https://instagram.com/smudge_lord

[theoneandonlyredrobin]

BABY

[the-real-nekoma-kenma]

I aspire to be Smudge in another lifetime

[yeah-asbestos]

SMUDGE BABEYYY

[thebookworm0001]

[inneedofdonuts]

His energy is unmatched

[loumandliker]

cats are like. i am very small and have cute little triangle ears. also locking me out of the bathroom is a hate crime