unpopular opinion maybe but if you're a woman yes you can absolutely blame other things and other people for your trauma. yes you can do the work to heal and to forgive yourself and build the life you were meant to have yadda yadda but yes you can also be pissed off too. you can be enraged at your abusers and wish them a horrible death. you can gripe about how misogyny from other people have hurt you and set you back in life, because its true. if femaleness was never hated in the first place, the world would look different right now, with damn near all women would be thriving instead of merely surviving. don't give me that shit that women self-victimize or pity themselves in a world that already hates us from birth, and fuck off that we have no right to be angry at everything that got in our way of our overall happiness in life. you wanna direct that energy at someone, direct that at your local male misogynist who delights at hurting everyone around him and have the gall to see himself as the ultimate victim somehow.
This post was so healing to read. Part of healing is acknowledging the role of misogyny and liberating ourselves from the wound of shame and self-blame that the world imposes on survivors so that the abusers will never face consequences. Because if victims were to respond to the violence, cruelty, and sadism with rage and like force in order to free ourselves and restore our dignity, sense of safety, and empowerment by seeking recourse and real justice the dominant group would not be able to continue extracting benefits from targeting their victims. Under patriarchy all females are victims to male violence, cruelty, and oppression and the level of cognitive dissonance required to understand trauma and understand that misogyny exists without thus declaring males as the source of female trauma is something that women are gaslighted into constantly.
