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Have you had the ending of the Harry Potter game spoiled?
Yes, I hear Professor Fig dies in every ending
No, I did not know Rookwood cursed Anne and framed the goblins
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it sucks that masks weren't already common in most of the world bc now ppl associate them so heavily with covid 19 and assume if ur wearing one then you must be super paranoid about that specific disease. like yeah i don't want to catch covid but i don't want most things that float around on public transport. also i like having a warm face. also it makes me look cool. maybe i just want the kakashi appeal. what's so wrong abt that.
who wants to go in the gender-transing room with me
i cant take any of this sex stuff seriously
a bunch of ppl are on here like Oohh Im asexual and i dont even mean this like that at all. i mean like all the whips and funny little sex toys and rainbow colored plastic bullshit is so looney tunes like cant u guys just have regular sex. whose fucking idea was all that
This post is so ridiculous and low-effort I wasn't even going to dignify it with a response. But there's a lot of ignorance and sex-shaming going on in the notes as well, so I'm going to do some debunking. I doubt it will have any effect on the people confidently stating absolute horseshit; but if you're reading those ill-informed comments and wondering if you're abnormal, hopefully I can assuage those concerns.
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First off: OP, I really don't know where to begin with you, but if you're really that freaked out by non-realistic sex toys, let me assure you that there is also a thriving market for hyper-realistic ones. I have a feeling this is not what you're actually all twisted up about, though.
I know it's difficult to imagine if you have never lived in a world without social media, but all kinds of kink—including BDSM—very much existed before the internet.
Besides the heteronormativity of it all, it's blatantly incorrect that healthy people don't need lube. Looking just at people with vaginas, lubrication varies with a lot of factors (including hormones, stress, medication, etc.) that are not incompatible with being "normal" or "in healthy relationships". Lube increases comfort, decreases friction, and oh yeah, it also reduces the likelihood of prophylactics (condoms, dental dams, etc.) tearing. So yeah, using lube has nothing to do with being abnormal or unhealthy.
Sexual arousal also varies within normal people in healthy relationships; having trouble getting in the mood does not mean there's anything wrong with you or that you're not into your partner. People also use sex toys purely for fun and variety, even if they don't need any help getting turned on. Needing or wanting to use sex toys does not mean you're unattracted to your partner, and sex toys are fully compatible with healthy relationships.
This is the sex equivalent of saying "I don't use pronouns". When you have what you consider "normal sex", you are still adopting a role. It's just that you think your preferred role is "normal" and everyone else's is abnormal.
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Also just in general, there comments in the notes about being turned off by particular sexual practices—everything from kink to pillow talk—and to that I say: don't do things you don't enjoy. It's that simple. Other people will do those things if they enjoy them, and it isn't your business and it isn't "weird" just because you don't do it.
It's particularly surprising to me that so many of the ignorant comments share a theme of "people only do this because of the internet" and "clearly none of you have had [normal] IRL sex". That's such an antiquated, conservative attitude that I can't believe it's coming from people in their 20s and 30s.
I don't know where you're all getting these hostile and willfully ignorant attitudes about sex. But this is what's unhealthy. Lube, sex toys—those things are all perfectly normal. Thinking that using them means there's something wrong with you or your relationship, and that "normal people in healthy relationships" don't use those things? That's unhealthy as fuck, and it's blatantly wrong, and I am begging y'all to stop confidently saying bullshit on the internet.
Do...do they think that the internet invented kink, and not simply adopted it as a place where it could be discussed openly in "public" rather than in isolated communities? What is WRONG with the kids these days....
So, um
The first known use of the word "dildo" in English was in 1590. (You can look it up.) Dildos themselves predate civilization. When I was in college I read a paper in the library about spanking in erotic literature in the 1700's. Wild
I wonder how sex that occurs without either one restricting the other would even play out. Like bdsm is on at least one axis about restriction and just being physically colocated with someone is an implicit restriction on them. I mean, I'm assuming most people can't clip through each other. Let alone lying on someone, holding them, thrusting into them, etc.
So at what hypothetical point in this smooth continuum does it evolve from completely "normal" and "healthy" sex into deviant bdsm sex.
Personally I'm more stuck on how "normal" sex doesn't include penetration (what "top"/"bottom" refers to)
And the lube thing.
So much of this is about fear and/or hate of disability, insisting that "normal" bodies never need any kind of aid, and that you shouldn't use something that makes an activity easier unless there's something Wrong with you.
The idea that there's a "normal" way to have sex, and it goes without saying what that is, is ableist itself. Physical disabilities exist. And for an autistic person, """normal""" forms of touch can be horribly painful and distressing whereas spicy stimuli like pain can be neutral, exciting or pleasantly engaging
okay so the person saying that about lube is a "female supremacist" transphobe that appears to be a common or garden TERF but upon a second glance is also a "trad" Christian
So let's consider that mystery solved.
I find it hilarious that the example given for "normal" sex is eating pussy. like. y'all. oral sex used to be right up there with pedophilia and bestiality in terms of what was considered abnormal, repugnant, and criminal sexual behavior. yes, even between straight, married adults.
in certain cultures and religions, like catholicism, it is still considered abnormal and repugnant behavior, even between straight, married adults. the only sex you can morally have is sex that could, in theory, result in children, and that's never going to happen if you go down on someone. same thing with manual sex, anal sex, and mutual masturbation.
like, don't brag about how "normal" your sexual practices are when that shit could get you arrested in 2002.
A new scientific finding has uncovered why we get more viral colds, flu and Covid in winter and during cold snaps.
The sardonic, reductionist headline here could be "Scientists finally figured out why you get more colds in winter: bEcAuSe iT's CoLd!"—but the actual science involved here is both interesting, and potentially very relevant to everyday life and especially the immunocompromised:
It turns out the cold air itself damages the immune response occurring in the nose. [...] In fact, reducing the temperature inside the nose by as little as 9 degrees Fahrenheit (5 degrees Celsius) kills nearly 50% of the billions of virus and bacteria-fighting cells in the nostrils, according to the study published Tuesday in The Journal of Allergy and Clinical Immunology. “Cold air is associated with increased viral infection because you’ve essentially lost half of your immunity just by that small drop in temperature,” said rhinologist Dr. Benjamin Bleier, director of otolaryngology at Massachusetts Eye and Ear and an associate professor at Harvard Medical School in Boston.
Want to avoid catching or spreading respiratory viruses like CoVid-19, RSV, influenza, or a common cold? Mask up, please, but also bundle up! Wrap up in a scarf, wear a balaclava, and just generally keep your face warm. There's no single magic solution, but that's not a reason to do nothing. Rather, it's a reason to take several simple precautions that help avoid the spread of disease and protect those around you. (I can't tell you how much "this isn't 100% effective so I shouldn't do it at all" frustrates me.)
Oh, and #knitblr? This is your time to shine.
This is tragic news because it means my mother was RIGHT
WEAR A SCARF
Since I just saw a post on this and since I work in food service now:
Guys, being a regular and ordering the same thing every time you come in is absolutely fine.
Literally no one is going to be side-eyeing you. The fact of the matter is we have other stuff going on.
That’s not a put-down or anything. I try to make sure all the customers who interact with me feel like they’re our most important customer. However, we are busy and often people just sort of slip by unnoticed.
When I do think about regulars that come into the store, it’s not usually: “Oh my God, I can’t believe they come to Panera every day. Yikes, so cringe.” It’s usually: “I wonder how John is doing. I hope his coffee was alright. I had to get it in a bit of a rush today because of all the to-go orders.”
And I really want to scream this from the rooftops because I had a guy just a couple of weeks ago say how embarrassed he felt for always ordering the same thing. That he felt ashamed of being so predictable. Meanwhile, I’m just glad he didn’t order something we don’t have (looking at you Panera wraps) and that he’s not yelling at me.
You know what’s cringe? Getting snippy with Panera employees because we don’t have the thing you wanted. You know what’s cringe? Complaining about the prices to me when I can’t afford to eat at this restaurant without the associate’s discount. You know what’s cringe? Yelling at Panera employees because you’ve had a bad day and they made the mistake of working in retail.
That’s cringe. Eating the same sandwich every day? Not a problem. If you get noticed for it at all, it will be: “Oh, thank God, I know what to do with this one and have a low probability of getting yelled at.” Most of the time though, it’ll be the barista trying to remember everything you ordered, double checking the receipt to make sure they got it right, and then handing you the order before moving on to the next one. Because, let’s face it, you’re the twenty-sixth person to order a bagel with plain cream cheese this shift and the orders start blurring together after about the fifth one.
Shortstaffing should be illegall
"But what if I can't afford to hire more employees?"
If you have more customers than your employees can handle and you're still not making enough, then you need to sort out your finances. Raise prices if necessary.
Your overhead isn't worth more than your workers' health.
“And if that’s not enough, then just buy more money!”
Listen. If you cannot afford to pay all your employees a living wage and employ a number of people equal to the workload, then you are bad at business management and should consider exploring other career paths. Such as being a cashier.
y’all might be thinking that small businesses would get the short end here. but the thing is, all the small businesses i’ve ever worked for or been involved with, when they didn’t have enough employees to cover the time, the owner worked it themselves, or they closed early/opened late.
the places that consistently shortstaff are big franchises, especially fast food chains. they prey on desperate workers who can’t afford to say no, and use them up like they’re disposable. it’s disgusting and it should be as illegal as hiring 9 year olds or holding paychecks hostage.
YOU know that drag performers aren’t usually trans people. *I* know that. Right-wingers don’t. The attacks on drag shows are anti-trans attacks.
Most right wing people do not make any notable distinction between trans people, drag performers, crossdressers, and gender non-conforming people, because to them we are all just people who are dressing up as/acting like the “wrong gender”
Racist White People are SO racist that they will throw out that “cops kill more white people than black people” statistic (without context, of course [the context being black people are disproportionately killed by police]) and still not be on our side. Still not want to defund the police. Still chant blue lives matter. You JUST said that they are slaughtering your people, too, AND YOU STILL SUPPORT THEM!?!
“cops kill more white people but you don’t see us complaining”
EXACTLY! That is exactly the energy.
But they’re brainwashed as well. They genuinely think everyone who is arrested is guilty of a crime. That if someone is mistreated by cops then they must have antagonized them. That if a cop shoots and kills someone they must have had a good reason. And they are absolutely under the impression that cops are supposed to punish the guilty.
So this is why they don’t complain. They’ve just accepted the thousand or so people killed by cops every year as a necessary loss to maintain law and order. And for them, with these killings being such an insignificant percentage of their population, it’s a reasonable loss. An expected loss. No big deal.
Had a conversation where the other person got angry with me when I said the duty of policing is to bring every suspected perpetrator alive to court, and that every suspect killed by a cop was a dereliction of the cop’s duty because they died innocent.
Innocent until proven guilty isn’t just words. It’s the foundation of justice. Cops only kill innocent people because they never got a trial for their actions.
Have you REALLY lost your scissors if you aren't walking around making scissor motions with your fingers in an attempt to lure them back out?
spellcasting with somatic compenents
this is a beautiful addition
Incredible. They're so close to getting it.
So let me get this straight, in Monopoly if you give one player more money to start out it’s “unfair” but if you do it in real life it’s “capitalism”?
You know what, I’m going to tell you guys a story.
In my Sociology class a few semesters ago, our prof had us break off into groups and, much to our naive joy, began distributing Monopoly boards! We had no idea what was going on but yay! Games! Of course, once our group, and a number of others, got the board we began to work at setting up and distributing the money…
until suddenly our prof told us to put the money down and pick up the dice.
“Roll the dice and sort yourselves from highest to lowest,” our teacher commanded. "Now, the highest number is the upper class. The next one is upper middle class. The next two or three are middle class. The last person is in poverty.“
Well, as the person who rolled a two this was startling and not wholly welcome news.
From that point the game changed entirely. We had to hand out the money so that the “upper class” had this fucking mountain, and then less for upper middle, even less for middle, and I didn’t get any triple digit bills. We would all collect different amounts from passing go as well.
The biggest change though? Going to jail. Upper class didn’t. Period. Upper middle class could go but they only had to stay for one turn or they could immediately pay their way out. Middle class had some pretty easy guidelines for when they could pay to get out. As lower class, it was really easy for me to wind up in jail and REALLY hard to get out. But since I was working with so little money when everyone else had so much I was in jail all the time because there was no “game over”. If I couldn’t pay I had to go to jail for a certain period of time. I had to take out loans with interest I could never pay back just to get out only to wind up back in it again, rolling dice turn after turn hoping to be able to get out.
It was simultaneously the most enlightening and most awful game I had ever played. I was bored and frustrated and a little terrified about it all. And it wasn’t only me. I would never win, I sort of accepted this, but it was amazing how the middle classes reacted as well. They were stressed. Because they were always that close to either being able to one-up the upper class or from crashing into poverty with me. They had to fight constantly just to stay in the middle.
(I should also mention that the upper class player in one group felt so bad for the lower income players that they ended up overhauling their entire game and creating a “socialist” society instead. I’m not sure how our teacher felt about that one.)
Worth stressing this is entirely in the spirit of the original designer’s aims for Monopoly.
Monopoly’s original form of The Landlord Game which was explicitly designed to teach people about the unfairness of rent systems. To quote from the wikipedia entry, just as it’s the easiest source to hand…
Magie designed the game to be a “practical demonstration of the present system of land grabbing with all its usual outcomes and consequences”.[2] She based the game on the economic principles of Georgism, a system proposed byHenry George, with the object of demonstrating how rents enrich property owners and impoverish tenants. She knew that some people could find it hard to understand why this happened and what might be done about it, and she thought that if Georgist ideas were put into the concrete form of a game, they might be easier to demonstrate.
When the usual suspects start making “don’t bring politics into games” noises, I roll my eyes pretty hard. They have no idea of the history of the form.
WOW.. THIS IS CRUCIAL! Thank you for that!!! 👏👏
I read a study where they had people play Monopoly and gave one person twice as much money as the others but didn’t announce this. In all the test groups the person with more money won quickly and bragged throughout the game about how well they were doing and that they were better at the game than the others were. None of them noticed that they had more money or considered that starting capitol may have been a factor in their winning
Rich people like to believe we all have equal opportunities and they’re just better at playing the game
Hi speaking of medical literacy for trans people, transfems pls check out the website Transfeminine Science, especially their introductory article on feminizing HRT
Non-transfems can reblog this as well btw
Going to need this guy's lawyer
thank you for tags, I was too lazy to elaborate lol but it is funny how the headline is worded as if everyone would find the activities 'fun'
