Cis+

walk in the room like I am the problem (she/her)

[cisplus]

Hello! Intro post time.

I'm a genderfluid, 2spirit girl. I'm queer, bisexual, intersex, disabled, and more. Feel free to ask questions if you don't understand any part of my identity.

Due to my strong belief in intersectionality, I think transandromisia is real and horrific, as is transmisogyny, and think that trans mens' and womens' voices should be uplifted along with non-binary people's.

I support the entire trans and queer communities. Yes, including those people you don't like. Bi lesbians, afab transfems, I'm here for every identity that's held in good faith.

I'm a median system and a plural system. My median system uses this tumblr, and my headmate Will has his own tumblr over at @coniferousrot -- don't be afraid to say hi!

This is getting long, so I'll end here! 🕊

Other blogs include:

@vulvodynias (resource on vulvar and vaginal pain and other health issues)

@chronicallydeadly (chronic illness and disability focused)

@killthethingyoulove (fandom -- Hannibal NBC, Dune; shared with Will)

@girloftheknife (fictionkin and therian)

[kuttithevangu]

It’s always funny when people make the argument that children shouldn’t have access to some media because “it will give them nightmares” like I hate to tell you this but children can have nightmares all by themselves. I had recurring childhood nightmares about the washing machine

[chaumas-deactivated20240115]

[reads about a demographic that statistically faces higher rates of violence than the demographic I am part of] oh so you think I have it easy? you think I’ve never experienced anything bad? you think my life is all peaches and cream and simultaneous orgasm?

[chaumas-deactivated20240115]

[sees someone experience violence] hang on that can’t be right, statistically you should be experiencing lower rates of violence. stop bleeding.

[classtraitor]

I've learned that not everyone is equipped to handle getting romantically involved with someone who's very mentally ill.

All mentally ill people deserve love. But some people are just not at the point where they can handle us, yet.

Being honest and upfront with someone about your diagnoses isn't enough. Next time, if there is a next time for me, I'm going to explain the symptoms that I have and how they might affect the relationship. And I'm not going to commit unless the other person thinks they can handle that.

I shouldn't have been treated the way I was treated. But it's also my responsibility to make sure I only choose to have people in my life who will respect me, as a person with BPD (and other diagnoses).

Figured this might help someone else, too.

[cisplus]

I started sobbing at work today because of things that I don't want to talk about. So that's how my life's going!

We're trying to get into this partial inpatient treatment program, but it would cause us to miss a month of work straight. I talked to HR and it seems like we wouldn't lose our job... but we still wouldn't be getting paid anything.

I'm reading this comic anthology called Indiginerds to try to take my mind off it. As a nerdy indigenous person, I feel so seen!

There was even a comic written by an indigenous punk woman who talked about how the punk movement is mostly just white guys who pay lip service to leftist ideas while not actually being anti-racist.

I feel like tumblr as a whole wouldn't take that comic well, but like, as an alt indigenous person, that is exactly my problem with the punk movement.

[luxiomahariel]

[yidplural]

can we like. honestly talk about how difficult it is to live as a system in a singlets' world. like as a separate thing from the challenges of dealing with trauma or internal conflicts like. specifically the pain of hiding your multiplicity from others.

i cannot go to work and say "hey guys, it's rogue today" and then just be rogue. i cannot say to my mom "hey, sophie wants you to pick up something from the store." i cannot say "hey, can you give me a second, i have to deal with something internally real quick" and then turn my attention in to the headspace.

our child alters cannot be children except online and around maybe 2 people irl. if a child alter fronts around our family or at work they have to just be an adult until an adult alter comes back.

we cannot use our own names. we cannot speak with our own voices. our loved ones do not know us. our distinct individualities and experiences of life are flattened down into the amalgamated person we are forced to pretend to be.

i implore singlets to just fucking think about if you could tolerate living that way.

[grubarchived]

i think ive said this in some fashion before but i think the cure to being nervous about starting testosterone hrt is to know and love trans women with all your heart

[grubarchived]

the """worst case scenario""" of taking testosterone that everyone was warning me about is that i would take it, go through testosterone puberty, and then want to be a feminine girl again.

luckily all of the most beautiful women in the world also went through testosterone puberty. so basically i dont even need to worry about it at all

[deepseasmetro]

its like people trying to be "kink critical" always open condescendingly with "umm actually your kinks based on sexual violence arent special bc society is sexually violent" like... uh... yeah... we know... you arent actually interested in engaging on a deeper level with this topic you just need a smart-sounding way to express disgust lol

[deepseasmetro]

like i swear everyone with a cnc or ageplay or incest kink has spent plenty of time thinking about where they came from, especially because of the shame and stigma attached to them. the family is a violent and oppressive (and also deeply intimate) force so of course it gets eroticized lol. fork found in kitchen. do u rly think ur saying anything particularly interesting or groundbreaking here?

[smokedrac2004]

[your-bigender-big-brother]

Microlabels are not the problem. Neopronouns are not the problem. Contradictory labels are not the problem. Making pride flags for every single aspect of identity is not the problem. The problem is bigotry. The problem is exclusion and gatekeeping. We are not at fault for how the world views us.

- Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

[windwardstar]

like, here's the thing. if you say moving from a binary to a nonbinary identity is detransitioning. you have to examine the exorsexism both internalized and societal that frames nonbinary trans identities as less trans than binary trans identities. you have to examine how this invalidation of transness is at the heart of "detransitioning to nonbinary" where it treats nonbinary people who are actually nonbinary as less trans. where it makes excluding nonbinary people from trans spaces acceptable, makes misgendering nonbinary people acceptable, makes denying the identity as acceptable.

"detransitioning to nonbinary" as a concept is to erase the nonbinary identity and treat it as essentially cis.

it's saying moving towards a nonbinary identity doesn't count as transitioning

[cisplus]

You have the right idea in that you're helping people see that the ideas they have about trans non-binary people are hurting those people.

Please keep in mind that not all non-binary people identify as trans, though. I'm a cis(plus) non-binary person because I identify both as non-binary and as the gender I was assigned at birth.

When I hear that I shouldn't identify as detrans because of that, I hear that I don't even have the right to identify the way I identify. I know that's not what you're trying to say with this post so please just keep cis non-binary people in mind!

[prokopetz]

BRB, starting discourse about how viewing art on the Internet is morally bankrupt regardless of its origin because even if it was made by human hands, what you're seeing on your screen is not the original human-made digital file, but a soulless machine-made replica in your browser's Internet cache.

[vamptits]

all public transport should be free unconditionally and I'm TIREDDD of pretending this is a radical idea

[tboy-cock]

also while we're at it and i hope this is obvious to most of yall, cis women are treated leagues better by society and authority than trans men. cis women experience privilege over trans men on account of being cis. i was treated way better by both transphobes AND misogynists when i was a cis girl, even a butch cis girl, than as a trans man. the misogyny i did and do experience as a trans man has gotten way worse and more violent than it was when i presented as a cis girl. on top of that, the queer and trans community would also be happier to accept me if i were a cis fem lesbian than as a straight trans man. my masculinity is weaponized against me as a trans man that it wasnt as a cis woman by the queer/trans community. this is not hard to understand if you talk to transmasculine people

[this-is-anti-masculinity]

It feels tone deaf (idk if that's the right word sorry) to me when a white trans man who passes pretty well lives in accepting communities and is surrounded by people who are accepting (and these things are either in their posts or in their profile) says that trans men and trans masculine people just aren't very oppressed and then add things like "well like there's some transphobia or misplaced misogyny but transandrophobia or whatever doesnt exist because my expeirneces shiw otherwise" because there are so many more people who's experiences are not like that! I think a huge problem is that people with privilege like above don't realize that their experiences aren't the norm and aren't universal

This is transandrophobia.

I made a whole post about this matter [link], but even a white trans man who has undergone a pericisnormative medical transition + gender-conforming social transition can still be at major risk of all kinds of things (outing from transition scars, outing from medical records, outing from people in their past, testosterone being restricted due to it being a controlled substance, etc).

Its so, so, so incredibly, wildly rare that a trans man even in the best of circumstances would be fully accepted.

So it makes me very disappointed when a trans man who just happens to have the best of very best luck throws everyone else less fortunate than him under the bus, when he most likely is also not safe for being transgender. Its basically "pick me" behavior, internalized transandrophobia, and honestly reeks of major denial.

Even if he lives in the safest country in the world, there is bound to be transphobia SOMEWHERE there - whether its from him traveling to a less accepting location for a vacation or work trip, or a transphobic tourist passing through his town, or a stalker on the internet who becomes so obsessed that they hunt him down in real life, or laws being stripped back in his previously-accepting location which allow medical discrimination - he is not privileged for being a trans man.

Luck is a good thing, and I don't mean to fear monger the trans existence. Being trans is more than just gloom and doom, and being trans doesn't automatically mean you are destined for a life of horror and pain. Thats not what I mean to say. But the reality is that no trans person is privileged for their gender in the world we currently exist in, and discrimination on the basis of transmasculinity is - and always has been - real.

[dreadfulman]

I do find it funny how every now and then some trans man on the other side of the discourse will log on, brag for 2-6 paragraphs about how his life is going great and finish that up by going "yeah so as you can see transandrophobia doesn't exist" before calling it a day. Like okay good for you man what does this have to do with like, other people though?