pronouns =/= gender. pronouns are words we use to express our experience of gender, and everyone is going to do that differently.
you can be a girl and not use she/her pronouns. you can be a guy and not use he/him pronouns. you can be nonbinary and not use whatever pronouns people expect of you at any given time. you can be any gender and use whatever pronouns you want. you can not use pronouns at all. you can use neopronouns.
hair length is often socially associated with gender but you don't have to be a certain gender to have long hair, short hair, styled hair, etc.
you can just like your hair being a certain way, and dislike it being another way. you can shave it off all because you don't want hair at all. you can make up a hairstyle of your own. you can collect wigs and have totally different hair every day. same thing with pronouns.
so go out there and be a little freaky with it if you want
is it weird that my pronoun preferences change not only by person but also by situation. like generally i go by she/they because it’s easiest for most people in my life, with sometimes the addition of one or two dog related neos (dog, puppy, feral, etc). if we’re mutuals or friends then she/puppy/dog are preferred. but i tend to prefer they/them from strangers who i don’t know, ESPECIALLY if they don’t like me/have a negative opinion of me.
but it feels,,,, i don’t know, petty? to say that. which it shouldn’t, because my pronouns have nothing to do with my opinions of that person. but if someone doesn’t respect me in some way or is anti-me, i much much prefer they/them and find she/her offensive. i don’t know why. i never tell anyone this because it just seems much more complicated than a generalized blanket “she/they”. do any of you ever feel like this?
I figured it would make sense to post this here since it’s a gnc and genderqueer experience, so!
I’m faeflux, which means my gender flows through non-masculine & non-male genders and fluctuates in intensity. This past year, though, I’ve been having uncommon times where I feel androgynous rather than feminine, neutral, or outherine, which is new for me. I haven’t felt that way in years.
My pronouns change, usually along with my gender, and that’s broadened, as well. I used to only use she & they (note: please don’t use she/her for me), but I’ve discovered xey/xem/xeir & thxy/thxm and love them. I’ve always liked the pronouns hy/hym conceptually, like they sound cool but aren’t for me, you know? Because I’d “have to” be masculine or a man to be anything similar to he/him.
But yesterday, hy/hym & hx/hxm just clicked. Being a guy, a man, a dude, but not a capital M Man suddenly felt intensely correct in a way I haven’t experienced often or in a long time.
Usually, this is associated with me being kinshifted, since my kin is a man, but I didn’t feel shifted. I felt like me, just now with different terms, like I do when I’m a girl or outherine or neutrois or agender, etc. etc.
I don’t know what this means for me exactly! I’ve identified as genderfae ever since I found the term years ago, so I’m not sure I’ll change labels to accommodate this yet. But I’m adding new pronouns that give me euphoria. I heard the advice once to chase euphoria, not dysphoria, so that’s what I’m doing! Instead of focusing on the dysphoria I’m experiencing from my body, how I’m referred to, my clothing, etc. I’m choosing to focus on the little things I can do to give myself joy.
an alternative nomifluid/namefluid flag! i didnt connect with any of the originals, and found them aesthetically displeasing, so i made my owm. i already made a less bright version of one of the nomifluid flags, but i also wanted to make my own! i have the meanings of the stripes under the cut, for those who are curious
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an alternative promounfluid flag, meant to match my nomifluid flag. the meanings are roughly the same as the nomifluid flag.
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So I'm the-kandi-kid-offical. I know I've seen like two other kandi officals, but I rEALLY wanted to make my own :3
About me:
I'm Aster/Sam, a teen transmasc genderfluid and my pronouns are... also fluid.., but mainly he/any except for feminine pronouns :) (I also have multiple chosen names and I can't choose between them) (but DO give me nicknames :3)
Anyway I'm a Gravity Falls SUPERFAN!! but also in other fandoms, being:
The Owl House
The Amazing Digital Circus
Deltarune (i haven't played it yet cus im too broke)
Warrior Cats
Percy Jackson And The Olympians
Heroes Of Olympus (I'm reading the 2nd book rn)
Hazbin Hotel
Helluva Boss
Murder Drones
+ others my dumbass can't remember rn
I'm also fucking obsessed with Greek Mythology and I would definitely be a child of Apollo hehhe
(Fun fact I'm Hellenistic)
I also make art lol
Now I have to be honest, I started making kandi YESTERDAY (September 10th, 2025) so I'm a beginner's beginner ToT but I really wanna make more, so I created this blog hehe..
update 21 may 2026: im lowk not that much of a beginner anymore XD all my irl kandi friends say i learned quick as hell
Update 17 june 2026: i have no recollection of writing the update above, but yep, im no longer a beginner lmao, i consider myself intermediate, but if you think thats wrong, please tell me because i don't know that many kandi people so idk if i categorized myself correctly 😭
This is the (nameless) family and I will post updates when we meet a new member <3
Tags I will use:
general posts -> #THE kandi kid #kandi #the one and only
asks answers -> #the kandi has answered #kandi answers #requests
me rambling -> #aster rambles #sam rambles #rambling #yapping
family updates -> #family updates #kandi family #creatures #new member
When I show off new kandi I'll tag it as what it is
example -> #cuffs #creature etc
Over time I will probably make more tags soo..
Tags future me made come here:
#not kandi
#new offical
#officalverse
#offical blog
#offical verse
My other blogs are:
@just-a-gay-little-goober (main blog)
@demigod-dumbasses (DON'T GO TO THIS ONE PLEASE ITS A WORK IN PROGRESS)
@gravityfalls4life
@drawingsforwhenimbored
@2queer4thisworld
@offical-democracy (ill probably get rid of this one i don't do shit on it)
@rammstein-offical
Anyway I hope you'll have fun with my blog, and you can always suggest to me what to make :D